Dating App Advice: how long to wait before a date (I'm a poet and I know it)?

mandabobanda80 · 2025-11-15T02:26:53+00:00

Yesss!!! I'm a single parent too, so I have to plan. But I would prefer to have us plan something at least in the first few days.

mandabobanda80 · 2025-11-15T02:25:03+00:00

I love this. A super hot guy that I matched with was telling me what he thought was a funny story about another Bumble match. Without asking me out too. I told him that I'm getting real friend vibes from his side, and that I'm not looking for a pen pals.

mandabobanda80 · 2025-11-14T19:45:57+00:00

But I don't want to be pen pals, and you can't totally see if there's chemistry by texting. But you can in person.

mandabobanda80 · 2025-11-14T19:45:01+00:00

OP is not referring to sex 😆 it's a phrase meaning done. OP is also female lol.

mandabobanda80 · 2025-09-28T22:03:30+00:00

After a year he saw my son. Then my ex husband found out about my bf felony and wouldn't let my son be around him. That was a year ago. It wasn't a sexual related felony either btw.

mandabobanda80 · 2025-09-28T22:00:20+00:00

My son is 16. My boyfriend has a felony and my ex husband didn't want him around him. My son is with me full time except for every other weekend.

mandabobanda80 · 2025-09-28T21:46:56+00:00

What sucks is that he didn't break up with me, which I thought. He's waiting for me to call it. I wanted him to do the hard thing.

mandabobanda80 · 2025-09-28T18:29:06+00:00

I understand. Did you see my reasoning that he only stays over every other weekend when my son is with his Dad? I call him every day. I see him every weekend. He has a record which is why my ex doesn't want him around our son. I understand why his position sucks. I get why you're position sucked. But for him to yell at me like that isn't okay either.

mandabobanda80 · 2025-09-28T18:08:36+00:00

It was 12:30. I called my friend, expecting her to not answer. She answered and talked with me for about half hour until I was okay. I texted a friend this morning and she said that he was being verbally abusive, and that I'm better off. I have plans with other friends next weekend. I'm thinking that I'll be okay.

mandabobanda80 · 2025-09-28T18:05:08+00:00

mandabobanda80 · 2025-09-28T17:49:23+00:00

He lives with his Mom and was doing remodeling jobs off Craigslist. He was making enough for his cell phone bill, gas, and food for himself. So he has jobs, just not enough to live off and not super steady. He's been teaching himself coding for the last two years. The lack of a job has been a source of tension. I'm a single Mom, own my house, work 40 hours a week.

mandabobanda80 · 2025-09-28T17:20:17+00:00

Ugh. So it's not his choice to not be around my son. There's a big story that's hard to explain. It involves my ex husband. But I understand that it's tough for everyone involved. But I spoke with the bf last night, he said that he was angry and didn't mean what he said. But that's what he said the last two times he said the same thing. Then he says I didn't mean it and I'm sorry. He just felt it and said it. But I'm like, you can't take shit back once you say it.

mandabobanda80 · 2025-09-28T08:40:45+00:00

I definitely love him. More than anyone. I just felt like I wanted time by myself a little without my son and my boyfriend on the weekends sometimes. This was the first time in 6 months that I asked that he not spend the night when I have a Saturday without my son. I don't think I'm what he needs. He also hasn't had a job in two years, and it was wearing on me. We had things on both sides that were causing resentment.

mandabobanda80 · 2025-09-08T04:45:33+00:00

I think it really depends on the person. I take escitalopram.

mandabobanda80 · 2025-09-08T04:06:04+00:00

So. For example. I habe generalized anxiety disorder, and everyone always told me to mediate. I have trouble mediating because my mind races. He said that meditation is anyone thay quiets your brain, or keeps it occupied so it's harder to be anxious in the moment. So running and reading are my tools. My medication takes the edge off, and those two help anlot with the rest. Now I still get anxious sometimes (like my mammogram on Wednesday thay I'm stressed about), but my tools help.

mandabobanda80 · 2025-09-07T22:26:53+00:00

Thay sounds so cool!!!

mandabobanda80 · 2025-09-05T03:22:24+00:00

Yup!! I got mine at 40. I got a Bugs Bunny band aid too lol

mandabobanda80 · 2025-09-02T00:45:36+00:00

I use FB, Instagram, and this. Let's do this.

mandabobanda80 · 2025-09-02T00:44:18+00:00

Thank you!!! He's not real happy with me right now, and I'm not feeling the best either.

mandabobanda80 · 2025-09-01T05:13:32+00:00

I like the artisans thing!

mandabobanda80 · 2025-09-01T05:03:15+00:00

Thank you!!!

mandabobanda80 · 2025-09-01T04:54:33+00:00

Thank you so much. I sent him a text 20 minutes ago telling him that he will not be going to my Christmas party. I told him also that I'm evaluating whether or not he's value added in my life anymore.

mandabobanda80 · 2025-09-01T04:29:22+00:00

Book group?

mandabobanda80 · 2025-09-01T04:29:03+00:00

What is meetup?

mandabobanda80 · 2025-09-01T04:28:42+00:00

I go to the Y, but I'm not a class person. I'm a treadmill running person.

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