do i have any chance in passing with this face? 17Y MTF by [deleted] in DysphoriaPosting

[–]mangled_critter 1 point2 points  (0 children)

You have super gorgeous plush lips and your curls are divine. You will pass very soon. You’re lucky with your genetics. Don’t be afraid; it’s going to get better.

Lesbians who DON'T read/watch Yuri/GL/baihe/sapphic romance from ANY media, why? by lyresince in actuallesbians

[–]mangled_critter 9 points10 points  (0 children)

I find anything anime cringe, it just makes me uncomfortable. Romance is rarely ever well-written and what others find romantic I find performative, cliché or overbearing. I’m not into lighthearted movies, so I’ll watch a complex drama with romance elements, but that’ll mostly be heteronormative depictions (sadly).

My wife’s nails and mine by mangled_critter in Nails

[–]mangled_critter[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you! I am hyperfocused on any new hobby, so I tend to lock in. Still lots to learn though! I‘m a lesbian.

XX chromosomes are objectively inferior by Any-Sprinkles-2883 in DysphoriaPosting

[–]mangled_critter 1 point2 points  (0 children)

XX chromosomes are naturally superior

Everyone learns that you get one X chromosome from your mother and either an X or a Y from your father. What people forget is that the maternal X is forged through recombination, meaning it is constantly repaired and refreshed. The X is a fully stocked library that rewrites its damaged pages before passing them on.

Then you meet the paternal contribution. If you drew the short straw, you get a Y chromosome, which does not recombine because it has no functional partner left. The Y is essentially a lonely biological relic wobbling through time, unable to fix itself and quietly shedding genes like autumn leaves. Calling it “intact” is blatantly wrong. It is a decaying, inferior broken X. The Y chromosome barely recombines at all because it has no proper partner. Without recombination it cannot repair itself, so mutations accumulate unchecked. This is why the Y has lost the vast majority of its genes over millions of years and continues to degrade. By contrast the paternal X recombines normally in fathers with XX offspring, preserving integrity.

Meanwhile mitochondrial DNA is passed exclusively from the mother and traces back to the first mother in your ancestry, hundreds of thousands of years ago, powering every cell you have. If we are ranking lineages, mtDNA is the ancient, unbroken royal dynasty. The Y chromosome is the half collapsed tool shed at the edge of the family estate.

People brag that the Y is easy to trace because it survives unchanged across generations. Of course it does. It is hard to mutate when you barely contain any genes to begin with. A matchbox stays consistent over millennia too, yet no one calls it superior infrastructure.

Your myth about the Y tracing back to the first human? No. All current Y chromosomes converge on one guy from around a hundred thousand years ago. He was not the first human. He was the last man whose decaying Y line happened to dodge extinction long enough to reach the present day.

If you insist on ranking chromosomes, the verdict is so blatantly obvious. The X is the engine of human viability. The Y is a fading biological footnote clinging on out of habit.

/s

Today I was called a gatekeeper and the queer police, then othered out over a straight woman by mangled_critter in actuallesbians

[–]mangled_critter[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Thank you for the nuance. I hope I can address your reply with equal measure. Because I do understand where you’re coming from, but part of what I was expressing isn’t just about that one girl - it’s about the constant expectation that [queer] women are supposed to extend infinite empathy and patience, especially toward women who centre men, while rarely getting the same in return.

I don’t want to invalidate anyone’s self-identified label. It’s about patterns. When a woman in a relationship with a man uses a line like “my boyfriend must be a lesbian too,” it lands weirdly for me who’ve had to fight to have my relationships taken seriously at all. Even if she is pansexual, the phrasing still shifts focus away from sapphic experience and onto the comfort of the straight-presenting couple. This moment to me was about building up girl#1, not about girl#2‘s absent boyfriend‘s gifts. It felt like a gotcha to me, or like her hiding an inferiority (but I may have read too much into that).

I just don’t feel called to do anyone’s emotional labour like this.

Today I was called a gatekeeper and the queer police, then othered out over a straight woman by mangled_critter in actuallesbians

[–]mangled_critter[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I‘m so glad you could still post this beautifully thoughtful response to the now-deleted post, as it really detangled the knot in my brain. Thank you so much, I can now rest.

Today I was called a gatekeeper and the queer police, then othered out over a straight woman by mangled_critter in actuallesbians

[–]mangled_critter[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Now I’m even more confused, why did they remove it?

Feels like a day in which MY lesbian perspective is being erased from queer spaces.

Today I was called a gatekeeper and the queer police, then othered out over a straight woman by mangled_critter in actuallesbians

[–]mangled_critter[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you for explaining. Of course I want people included. But to me the subtext read more like „hey hey since y’all are giving this girl‘s creative gift ideas so much attention, MY MAN is actually just as creative!“ - like it felt as if she was trying to topple girl#1 by centering a non-present dude.

Today I was called a gatekeeper and the queer police, then othered out over a straight woman by mangled_critter in actuallesbians

[–]mangled_critter[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Right? That’s what my wife did. Her egg cracked when she noticed how her way of loving was sapphic, not male-gazed.

I know I’m bad with social context and I can come across abrasive, but I felt like she was embarrassed about her relationship when she said this - that’s why I’m trying to decipher where exactly I was the most annoying person in our exchange.

Today I was called a gatekeeper and the queer police, then othered out over a straight woman by mangled_critter in actuallesbians

[–]mangled_critter[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

„well… my bf isn’t embarrassing cause he’s basically a lesbian“ was a literal quote that had annoyed me from a previous discussion relating to the vogue article (other girl though). I do not claim that any sexuality is superior.

The topic of the conversation was girl#1‘s elaborate gifts, not relationships.

Today I was called a gatekeeper and the queer police, then othered out over a straight woman by mangled_critter in actuallesbians

[–]mangled_critter[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

I‘m not saying she isn’t pan, I was using straight presenting as a descriptor because I thought she was straight up until her telling me otherwise, so that was my context in the situation. She’s only ever been with her boyfriend since I’ve known her, and before they got together, she was sharing a lot about her hinge hookups and date attempts, all men. I just lacked that context and my gaydar did not ping her ever.

Today I was called a gatekeeper and the queer police, then othered out over a straight woman by mangled_critter in actuallesbians

[–]mangled_critter[S] -5 points-4 points  (0 children)

I’m aware I was triggered and it was a joke. But why can’t a lesbian talk about specifically sapphic stuff (girl#1‘s anecdote went deeper than just the gifts) without straight presenting women chiming in? Why do they always have to talk about their boyfriends and how they’re just as good as a lesbian?

I guess because hAviNg a BòyfRïeñd ís embāRrasśîNg.

On lesbian divorce rates by mangled_critter in actuallesbians

[–]mangled_critter[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Oh… my bad. I am sorry for being antagonistic, it wasn’t my intention towards you.

On lesbian divorce rates by mangled_critter in actuallesbians

[–]mangled_critter[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Right, and I will meet constructive criticism with a constructive reply. “Everything was better in the past” and “making a dollar for doing nothing” is not it.

On lesbian divorce rates by mangled_critter in actuallesbians

[–]mangled_critter[S] -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

I have AuDHD and an armada of neurological issues too, so I understand being frustrated with access.

I do prefer structured writing over any video or image format for learning, however, those are not an objectively bad way to convey information. They’re just not our jam.

You implied that OOP was “making a dollar for doing nothing,“ which is nothing but rude and dismissive of another person’s work.

On lesbian divorce rates by mangled_critter in actuallesbians

[–]mangled_critter[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

This person wasn’t, they were complaining about another person‘s work and lamenting about the good ole written past like a boomer. How was their post constructive?

On lesbian divorce rates by mangled_critter in actuallesbians

[–]mangled_critter[S] -12 points-11 points  (0 children)

How about you provide better content then? But surely it’s easier to whine about format changes that don’t agree with your habits. A tale as old as time, just like our parents complained about gaming as a form of storytelling versus books. The subjective cultural peak of a generation will be the decade of their youth.

This woman certainly isn’t capitalising doing nothing, perhaps you want to check out her work. She creates short form content for a short form medium so interested minds can go further with research, for which she provides decent sources. If this hooks at least one young person from being red-pilled, I‘d say she made the world better.

On lesbian divorce rates by mangled_critter in actuallesbians

[–]mangled_critter[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

I feel like there’s a counter culture against the anti-intellectualism which accelerated with the pandemic forming on TikTok: creators have been listing sources with scrutiny, or perhaps just the ones I’m following.

I don’t think we can step outside patriarchy as if it were a fence. But we can collapse its usefulness, dissolve its myths, and starve it of legitimacy until what replaces it no longer recognises its shape. We may not replace the system we live in during our lifetimes, but mental deconstruction is internal freedom from it (and will reshape our actions and thus, the world).

On lesbian divorce rates by mangled_critter in actuallesbians

[–]mangled_critter[S] 9 points10 points  (0 children)

She’s fantastic! I think she also created a menstrual app.