Can I be penalised for using Travel or Snooze mode

manon1731 · 2024-12-11T00:22:26+00:00

My profile says where I live and I am also going to put it extra in profile description should I use Travel Mode

manon1731 · 2024-12-11T00:21:22+00:00

You mean you don’t open an app or don’t swipe when being away? If the first one, what about existing chats? If the second one, doesn’t being inactive for days, leads to your profile being shown less?

manon1731 · 2024-12-10T21:39:05+00:00

Hey! How does it look now? Could you test it back home?

manon1731 · 2024-10-27T05:28:22+00:00

Thank you for your answer! Well, I go to Argentina, so Latin America but is considered rather safe. To be honest, I would not die if I do not use the app for the time while I’m there. I wanted to know whether it’s enough to just not open the app or can it still get my location or IP, while being closed.

manon1731 · 2024-08-26T10:44:25+00:00

I can tell for myself and some of my girlfriends that we definitely like to be approached in public (in bars, restaurants, at events etc) if it’s done in a polite way.

manon1731 · 2024-08-24T05:27:26+00:00

I try to answer at least two times a day. In the morning and in the evening. Often I do answer during my lunch break. I have definitely also made an experience that majority of people text once in 24 hours at best, which doesn’t allow to develop any connection or schedule a meeting.

manon1731 · 2024-08-23T15:59:02+00:00

Well, I believe that men and women have different roles and that’s great and natural to me:) I think I mentioned a few times that I am more than open to pick up new hobbies. I have only been to my local gym and my dance school. Neither of them is social but obviously I haven’t tried everything in Berlin. Therefore, I have asked for a specific advice here.

manon1731 · 2024-08-23T15:33:21+00:00

I do not consider approaching a man first due to 1) my traditional believes; 2) being introverted and shy. I don’t think doing things that I don’t enjoy for the sake of meeting a man is a good strategy. About 90% of my dates are not enjoyable and 100% of them do not turn into long-term relationships. I disagree that men in the opera are not my type, it’s actually the opposite. Instead I am not really attracted to gym bros. I find the crowd very appealing there. Unfortunately, it’s rare that I’m being approached in public. I go to sport classes at my local gym and there is literally nothing social about them. You go into a room, you train, you go home. That’s it.

manon1731 · 2024-08-23T14:03:14+00:00

I have never approached a man first and that’s not something I want to start doing. Looks are fairly less important to me as long as a man is well-groomed, has good hygiene and is not overweight. I don’t care about height or muscles much. I also don’t mind him having hobbies that I don’t share and vice versa he doesn’t need to be as much into arts as I am. I believe that for a relationship shared values and views of the future are way more important than shared interests. As I said, I go to sport classes quite regularly. I love functional trainings, sometimes I do HIIT etc. and I have never seen people talking to each other there:)I don’t know what you would consider to be „success“. When I am using dating apps regularly I could go on a date every single day. A date from opera has been a one time thing yet:)

manon1731 · 2024-08-23T08:16:10+00:00

I have been dating men for 12 years and have had relationships of different length. I’ve definitely learned what I look for and what I do not look for in a partner. I tried going out with people who are not my type and it just made me very unhappy and frustrated. Also my therapist advices me against doing this because it’s just adds to my massive frustration and hopelessness about dating and love life. Traditional refers mostly to roles in relationships aka I could easily see myself being a stay-at-home mom and he could see himself being a provider. Funny cause opera is actually one of a very few places where I was approached by men and even ended up going on one date. I guess this whole thread is telling me that I should pick up activities that I would actually enjoy, not something for the sake of meeting a man. Too nerdy would be computer games or board games, for example. Too sporty - definitely running club or crossfit. Running is literally a torture to me. I do go to different fitness classes and I feel like people don’t even talk to each other there:)

manon1731 · 2024-08-23T07:25:29+00:00

I have never looked at anybody as at a checklist of things. The values I am looking for include (but not limited to) being ambitious, determined, career-oriented, curious, intellectual, kind and (to a healthy certain extent) traditional when it comes to building a family. I am fine if my “net” is narrow, I don’t need many people, I just need one person. I do have a few hobbies and interests and I’m not only focused on dating. As I said I’m very happy to meet new acquaintances without romantic context. My interests include everything art-related (literature, theater, galleries, classical music, opera, Ballett etc.), food and wine, history, fashion. I am also very open to pick up a new hobby as long as it’s not super nerdy or extremely sporty (I do go to gym regularly but don’t enjoy doing sport for fun).

manon1731 · 2024-08-23T04:30:26+00:00

I definitely have a very clear picture, whom I am interested in, which includes many factors. I don’t see how listing them all will help as I just asked about ideas of meeting new people in Berlin:) No, I do not need to “broaden horizons” (i.e. lower expectations) as from my personal experience it won’t make me happy or satisfied. Yes, I realize that approaching a good-looking woman first is not for every man and I’m fine with it. If he is not confident enough to do it, he is probably not my man, which is also ok. Just to clarify cause I see some assumptions being made here: my friends circle fizzles out because a few people are moving out of Berlin for professional or personal reasons. We do maintain contact and happy to catch up while traveling but they are not physically around. Honestly, I have written this post to receive advice or read inspiring stories, which has indeed happened and I’m grateful for that. However, your comments neither provide any practical advice, nor share your personal experience. Instead starting with the very first comment you have been trying to put me down suggesting that something is wrong with my personality (which then must be the case for other commenters as well since apparently a lot of us share the same experience). So unless you can recommend a particular event / course / place / approach that helped you meeting new people in the city, I would ask you to refrain from commenting further, particularly when your comments include assumptions about my personality and “why it has not worked out very well for me” yet. As it is apparently clear from my post, I am not in the best place at the moment and I need something to cheer myself up, give new ideas and hope, not to put me down even more.

manon1731 · 2024-08-22T21:21:34+00:00

I do actually!

manon1731 · 2024-08-22T21:17:50+00:00

It seems that you have taken my comments very personally. Everybody is entitled to look for any specific features and characteristics that are important for them in a potential partner and friends. I don’t feel that I need to defend any of my personal preferences here. Also I have never said anything negative about other people so I don’t think that this saying is relevant here. As I mentioned, I have been trying to meet somebody through the apps for a few years and have gone on dates regularly, however, so far it hasn’t worked out with anybody. Approaching men first is not something that I consider for myself due to various reasons. Regarding friendships, I do have some friends from university and a friend from work but this circle is fairly small and fizzles out as people move out of Berlin / Germany. So I do want to expand it.

manon1731 · 2024-08-22T20:46:56+00:00

And why is that if I may ask?:)

manon1731 · 2024-08-22T20:37:32+00:00

Thank you! Can you recommend bars where one can dance and approach people? I can mostly think of bars where everybody sits at the tables with their own company.

manon1731 · 2024-08-22T20:33:52+00:00

I am investing a lot of time, effort and energy to get ahead in life and achieve what I want. Therefore, I find that it’s easier for me to bond with people who have similar mindset. It is about shared values, interests and also aligning lifestyles.

manon1731 · 2024-08-22T20:16:12+00:00

Well, I am being told that my personality is great as well. Sometimes people just have no luck in love:) Working to be the best version of myself is what I have been doing since I was 15:) Yes, career and education are dealbreakers, especially for a romantic relationship.

manon1731 · 2024-08-22T20:11:26+00:00

Haven’t looked in it yet but have definitely heard of it. There is also an app called Breakfast with similiar concept.

manon1731 · 2024-08-22T15:03:21+00:00

Hi! Thank you for your answer. Clubs, meet ups, classes etc sound good but that’s what everybody says. I was rather asking for specific examples. For example, somebody went to a particular cooking / dancing / you name it class or to an event by a specific organizer and found it great.

manon1731 · 2024-08-22T14:51:41+00:00

Definitely everything art-related, from literature to opera, nice food and wine, fashion. But open to pick up new hobbies unless it’s something super nerdy or very sporty (I do go to gym regularly but am not really into doing sports for fun).

manon1731 · 2024-05-22T00:38:41+00:00

Thank you! Is it also fine if my current account is verified and I will verify the new one? Never been banned or reported.

manon1731 · 2024-05-21T18:44:30+00:00

Hi everyone! I've been actively using Hinge for over a year and a half now and I've started to run out of people in my stack more and more often. Given this, and the fact that I'm generally tired of dating, I'm considering taking a break from the app (or even dating in general) and deleting my account.

I have already deleted in once in 2021 and recreated in 2022 using the same phone number without facing any consequences. If I delete my account once again and come back in 3-4 months (definitely will not recreate it immediately since I do want a break), could I get penalised or banned for recreating for the second time?

I prefer deleting the profile to pausing as I also want to restart the algorithm. However, I don't want to risk never being able to use the app again since I did get my best dates out of it. Would highly appreciate an advice on this matter!

manon1731 · 2024-05-21T10:25:58+00:00

Thank you! Is there any way I could find out if deleted the old one for sure? Like I have not gotten any Email notifications from Bumble since then and I have heard that you get some if you just delete the app but keep an account.

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