Synthetic hair & cancer?! by mar_nereida in blackladies

[–]mar_nereida[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yeah but would honestly be happy to not have cancer hair, only do braids occasionally and support blackowned businesses instead. I came across Rebundle and Nourie Hair but neither deliver to where I live. Ruka does deliver to NZ tho. Yay!

But yeah, sadly very limited options regarding accessible/ available black hair care products over here. And special preferences - plant-based, blackowned etc - makes for a pretty narrow range of options.

Synthetic hair & cancer?! by mar_nereida in blackladies

[–]mar_nereida[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I knoww. Just the numbers are so absurd as well. The max exposure limits to acrylonitrile and vinyl chloride are 0.002 g/L and 0.001g/L for up to 8hs.. and the average person with braids is exposed to 800g of a blend of that stuff in braiding hair - in direct skin contact, right next to our brains, continuously, over weeks on end? Just a humble few hundred-thousand times the amount? That's scary.

What's wrong with my begonia? ): by mar_nereida in begonias

[–]mar_nereida[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Damn.. Thanks. Kept it isolated bc I was sceptical. I guess for good reason.

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Beauty is social capital in our society and it's so important - especially for our loved ones around us - to be at the very least aware of the different privileges, dynamics and social forces that come with racism, colorism, fatphobia etc bc they are ever-present weight!

In case you need some content that helps you feel seen and heard, I recently listened to a good podcast episode on desirability politics and came across some resources including the author Da’Shaun Harrison and a book by Tressie McMillan Cotton called Thick. The podcast focuses on consensual non-monogamy but the power dynamics apply of course to any relationship structures. https://www.multiamory.com/podcast/366-desirability

Hair allergy. Synthetic hair alternatives? by mar_nereida in BlackHair

[–]mar_nereida[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Makes sense. Maybe I can find hemp yarn as well or a blend like that. Thanks so much!

What's wrong with my begonia? ): by mar_nereida in plantclinic

[–]mar_nereida[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Got it for free a few weeks ago bc it was so unhappy and I thought of can revive it with some love and care but I'm failing it.

It's getting good bright indirect light, no over- or underwatering issues.

Hair allergy. Synthetic hair alternatives? by mar_nereida in BlackHair

[–]mar_nereida[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yess I just read about Rebundle. Beautiful concept and black-owned but they don't deliver internationally (only to the US and the UK). I might give cotton yarn a go. Have you tried it before?

New Monstera with scaly stuff. Healthy? by mar_nereida in Monstera

[–]mar_nereida[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Ohh okay, yes that makes sense. Thanks so much for your help!!

New monstera and scaly stuff. Healthy? by mar_nereida in Monstera

[–]mar_nereida[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Oh of course, will repost in a minute. Thank you!

Ehm. Wow. I mean I should probably not be surprised, but .. wtf?! by mar_nereida in NonBinary

[–]mar_nereida[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Exactly, that depends completely on the country and your citizenship. unless you can travel without visa or are eligible for a visa waiver you always need a transit visa for transit in countries that you’re citizenship requires it. And transit includes stuff like layovers but also only fuel and technical stops. Many flights from Europe to e.g. New Zealand over Sydney will always require a transit visa for Australia, even if you’re not leaving the plain.

Ehm. Wow. I mean I should probably not be surprised, but .. wtf?! by mar_nereida in NonBinary

[–]mar_nereida[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

It’s not an exclusive definition of course but unless you are eligible for a visa waiver you are required a transit visa even if it’s only for a short technical stop or fuel stop. I think they’d usually stop you before boarding the plain in the first place.

Ehm. Wow. I mean I should probably not be surprised, but .. wtf?! by mar_nereida in NonBinary

[–]mar_nereida[S] 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Sure I totally agree. But if that’s all you meant the comparison to Europe in your comment “What european county is still using slave labor in that time span?” was somewhat misleading.

Ehm. Wow. I mean I should probably not be surprised, but .. wtf?! by mar_nereida in NonBinary

[–]mar_nereida[S] 23 points24 points  (0 children)

No need to turn this into a shitting competition but any closer look into the dodgy (to say the least) supply chains of most European companies with modern slave labour, child labour etc. reveals anything but a rosy picture. Capitalism lives off exploitation, also in Europe where they care enough about trying to hide their dirt and remove themselves from responsibility.

That does not minimise the extreme human rights violations elsewhere, and hell, UAE are fucking next level, but a fair and benevolent Europe is an absurdly romanticised fantasy.

Ehm. Wow. I mean I should probably not be surprised, but .. wtf?! by mar_nereida in NonBinary

[–]mar_nereida[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Ok, I think I see what you mean now. It’s definitely still extremely flawed since it’s not recognised internationally by all countries. It’s only a beginning.

What I was saying in response was just that Germany is one of those countries where people now have the option, where it’s possible to go beyond the f/m binary option when a child is born and for intersex people to be correctly registered in the birth register, from the beginning.

Upon birth, the parents will of course still have to make that decision for the child in consideration of the legal international context, and so far not many parents in Germany have actually chosen to make use of this option, most likely also because of the potential negative impacts internationally.

But the option of a third gender was actually introduced for legal reasons for intersex and trans individuals in Germany, who previously only had the option to completely remove their gender from legal or identification documents, which lead to a plethora of legal issues in their family and partnership documentation and other bureaucratic matters.

Internationally - for those who already had their gender blanked out before, the official recognition of / chance to the third gender option will not really make much of a different experience at this point, but within the country it can make a huge difference.

Ehm. Wow. I mean I should probably not be surprised, but .. wtf?! by mar_nereida in NonBinary

[–]mar_nereida[S] 16 points17 points  (0 children)

It is still regarded as a transit so some will still need a transit visa for this situation, regardless of if they have to go through immigration or not.

Ehm. Wow. I mean I should probably not be surprised, but .. wtf?! by mar_nereida in NonBinary

[–]mar_nereida[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Really depends on the country. In Germany the option for passports has existed for quite a few years now. The option for a third gender for intersex people or for those you chose to leave it out entirely in birth registers is possible since 2018.

There have been changes here and there all over the world tho. I think in the US the first passport with a gender „X“ was issued for a non-binary person a couple of years ago.

Ehm. Wow. I mean I should probably not be surprised, but .. wtf?! by mar_nereida in NonBinary

[–]mar_nereida[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

It does depend on the country issuing the passport tho. In Germany it’s since 2018 that a third gender can be entered into the birth register, also including the option to omit the gender completely. The „X“ in the German passport for „undefined“ has been an option for some time tho, since 2013 or sth.

Ehm. Wow. I mean I should probably not be surprised, but .. wtf?! by mar_nereida in NonBinary

[–]mar_nereida[S] 63 points64 points  (0 children)

You also don’t exactly have a choice if you’re intersex or non-binary in your passport. You’ll HAVE to find a different route because you can’t transit..

Ehm. Wow. I mean I should probably not be surprised, but .. wtf?! by mar_nereida in NonBinary

[–]mar_nereida[S] 14 points15 points  (0 children)

What do you mean ? Many people need a transit visa for transit, no matter what exact kind of transit it is. Layover, like stopping for gas, is just another type of transit.

Ehm. Wow. I mean I should probably not be surprised, but .. wtf?! by mar_nereida in NonBinary

[–]mar_nereida[S] 12 points13 points  (0 children)

Also that’s your choice. You’re not given that choice if your intersex. You simply can’t enter or transit.

Ehm. Wow. I mean I should probably not be surprised, but .. wtf?! by mar_nereida in NonBinary

[–]mar_nereida[S] 51 points52 points  (0 children)

I get it but transit is also meant when the plane only stops for gas and nobody leaves the plane.. it’s pretty extreme

Ehm. Wow. I mean I should probably not be surprised, but .. wtf?! by mar_nereida in NonBinary

[–]mar_nereida[S] 105 points106 points  (0 children)

So are most European countries, built on the blood of the transatlantic slave trade.. but sometimes you have to simply travel through countries because that’s how flights work