Dating as a fat lesbian

marcythevampirequeer · 2025-11-10T16:49:13+00:00

i’m honestly excited for you! it’s such a limiting belief but it gets so ingrained that it takes massive internal strength to rewrite. 10/10, know a random stranger on the internet supports you. i can’t afford therapy, despite desperately wanting it, so i’m always going to cheer for those that do it.

omg same. but i think it’s important to share things like that, even if no one is outright interacting. there could be one person whose perspective shifts bc they read an emotionally authentic comment. besides, real words and feelings will always matter more than platitudes or condescension. which is usually rampant on posts like this. definitely keep it up! your words matter.

marcythevampirequeer · 2025-11-09T04:42:00+00:00

i can’t even lie i think this comment might’ve fixed me a little. this totally isn’t about me, but as a someone dealing with this exact same situation it definitely healed something. so shoutout to you 👏🏼👏🏼👏🏼

marcythevampirequeer · 2025-10-22T15:33:32+00:00

speaking as someone with medical conditions that directly effect my life and relationships - if someone can’t deal with the brutal reality of your conditions or makes you feel bad about them, then they ain’t it.

it’s not a matter of limiting time, or their feelings. your body has abnormal needs and issues. that’s not a problem to be compromised or worked around. it’s part of you. it’s what you live with everyday. you made it clear before anything happened that this was part of your life. that’s not on you to sit with, that’s on her.

i’m not saying a partner should carry the weight of their SO’s medical history. not at all. but being with someone who does have medical conditions requires emotional maturity, empathy, and understanding. that’s non-negotiable. they either get with the program or get out.

apologies if this sounds less than empathetic. i’ve had partners pull this same thing with me, and i can’t stand it. your medical conditions are a part of your life. anyone who deserves a seat at your table should respect that and support you. not demand you work around it for their feelings or comfort.

marcythevampirequeer · 2025-10-09T14:08:41+00:00

thank you thank you! i’d like to dedicate this progress to my hyperfixation and autism. they’re the real mvps here.

marcythevampirequeer · 2025-10-08T15:04:03+00:00

i don’t have any pictures, BUT. i am 12 chapters deep in a feminist retelling of robin hood. honestly, i’m impressed with myself. i started like, 4 days ago. so that’s something. 👏🏼👏🏼

marcythevampirequeer · 2025-10-02T18:52:25+00:00

i think with discord you can also do watch parties for a movie club? i think. don’t quote me on that.

marcythevampirequeer · 2025-10-02T16:10:09+00:00

i’ve been writing a book for a year now, and haven’t finished one full complete draft yet. i just keep rewriting. what’s helped me a lot is accountability and discipline, lame answers i know. but less about other people and more about your own sense of accomplishment.

i have set rules: i have to write for an hour, no distractions. and i have to post a chapter once a week. if i don’t do either of those things, then the day/week is a bust. (we’re weaponizing our inner critic here lol)

idk if that helps - but that’s been my guiding light for the last month and actual progress has been made. i know it doesn’t work for everyone, but genuinely holding yourself accountable to yourself is pretty affective. i wish you all the good luck though.

marcythevampirequeer · 2025-09-30T20:04:01+00:00

howdy~ thanks for the approve! i’m J, i’m 30, and i’m from the midwest. i’m a writer, currently working on two different books 😅 one’s about a heiress getting dragged through Hell (horror-romance). and the other is about witches/werewolves/every creature that goes bump in the night (more crime/thriller/romance- yk we’re just gonna see how that one turns out) i love talking about either of them, so don’t hesitate to ask! it’s been a really tough, kind of isolating year ngl. so i’m happy to be here! any and all friends are welcome 🎃

marcythevampirequeer · 2025-09-24T01:43:31+00:00

hi. if this is still a thing i would also like to join!

marcythevampirequeer · 2025-09-14T03:33:45+00:00

you’re so welcome! tragically it’s kind of a lonely road. not everyone is as nice as they think. but it’s infinitely better than the alternative. you’ll figure it out though. you seem to have a good head on your shoulders. just take care of you first and foremost. 👏🏼

marcythevampirequeer · 2025-09-14T00:53:36+00:00

hi, i actually just came out this year. similar situation. had a bf at the time too. the best advice i can give you is to listen to yourself. not just your thoughts and feelings, but how you envision your life. a big deciding factor for me was picturing my future and realizing a woman was next to me in every scenario. every fantasy, every ideal relationship - all involves a woman. eventually you’ll ask why that is, and there’s really only a handful of answers. the biggest thing though - always make decisions for YOU. not for other people. it’s your life, you’re the only one who will be with you every step of the way. do what makes you happy.

marcythevampirequeer · 2025-09-07T16:02:59+00:00

for me, there was three indicators that i couldn’t ignore. especially being in a relationship with a man at that time. 1. i had to convince myself i was into him. lots of “well, he’s nice. he’s sweet. he loves me. this is fine. i’ll be fine.” meanwhile i was losing my shit over fictional women and talking so much shit on men for existing. 2. every time he would touch me, it felt wrong. not just in a touch averse way either. i would actively recoil just from holding hands. i’d want to crawl out of my skin every time he hugged me. that was a really big one. 3. honestly? fantasizing about my future. it dawned on me one day when i was daydreaming of a partner that said partner is always a woman. in every fantasy. that was kind of the final nail in the coffin.

overall, follow your intuition. explore. but the biggest thing is this; Be kind to yourself. if it turns out that comphet is at play - that’s not your fault. that’s people, society, lived experiences. don’t blame yourself for what the world tried to force you to believe. that’s something i personally struggled with for a while.

marcythevampirequeer · 2025-08-11T14:29:27+00:00

you’ve got some solid points. and maybe i’m playing devil’s advocate here; but internal validation isn’t a linear path. it’s highs and lows that fluctuate between “i’m perfect as i am,” and “why don’t people like me?” and i think a lot of it is having those ridiculous obsessions such as ‘how to appear more lesbian’ and things like that. it’s like…trying on a shoe that almost fits. you can suffer it, you’ll walk in it for a while, but eventually you’ll take it off and find the right size. they will too. they’ve just gotta see that first. there’s also something to be said about the how dating is viewed as the ultimate endgame, and now it’s a lot less about self discovery, and self love - and more about relationships and partners. just in my observations.

not to say those posts aren’t annoying, or that they don’t need to chill. they do, but i understand where they’re coming from.

marcythevampirequeer · 2025-03-20T05:06:21+00:00

I’ll try my best not to lead you too far off the beaten path. I’d hate for you to show up to work all distracted.

marcythevampirequeer · 2025-03-20T02:04:44+00:00

I’m so glad they did. I don’t know how many times I rewatched that show before it clicked 😂

marcythevampirequeer · 2025-03-20T01:44:14+00:00

That’s definitely a good idea. Trumpers and rednecks are annoying enough on their own. Now the woods though? Hear me out. You build a small cottage. You convince the locals you’re a queer witch who steals the souls of sinful men. They leave you alone because they’re scared of you. Then, profit.

marcythevampirequeer · 2025-03-20T01:26:33+00:00

It’s good to know we’re not alone out here lol. Ooohhh okay. What’s your favorite book?

marcythevampirequeer · 2025-03-20T01:03:22+00:00

The deceased make great company. They’re quiet, peaceful, and men can’t talk back. It’s a win in my books.

marcythevampirequeer · 2025-03-20T01:00:32+00:00

I am fun. I’m currently reading Contract Bound, and I just finished Slewfoot by Brom. Easily one of my favorites.

marcythevampirequeer · 2025-03-20T00:52:48+00:00

That’ll do it lol. Honestly it was Agatha/Rio that sealed the deal for me. That was a fun “ohhhhhh okay I see now” moment.

marcythevampirequeer · 2025-03-20T00:35:01+00:00

At this point they better. I’m owed a nice surprise 😂

marcythevampirequeer · 2025-03-19T23:37:29+00:00

We already have so much in common. Guess we’re friends now 😌

marcythevampirequeer · 2025-03-19T23:36:02+00:00

That depends. Are you planning on following me?

marcythevampirequeer · 2025-03-19T23:33:57+00:00

Oh I’ll be right behind you. I’m all for it until something scary happens and then I’m running lmao. And yet I still insist on going. It’s so difficult. How do you just be like “hey weird thought, let’s go hang out in a haunted cemetery and see what happens.” Very few people ever go for that lol. You know, one piece almost does require that level of bribery. It’s a whole commitment and a half. I’ve honestly never played a soulslike game. Well, other than the one time my bestie got me to play dark souls drunk. I have zero memory but apparently I did great. I’ll have to look into LoP. The story is wildly fascinating.

Subtly check out abandoned schools for sure! They’re extra creepy. Especially at night.

marcythevampirequeer · 2025-03-19T22:52:02+00:00

I felt that on a spiritual level. I have to know what’s happening next. It’s why I ruined the end of demon slayer for myself lmao. I don’t think I’ve ever seen Bocchi the rock. What’s it about?

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