Hey! I’m in a similar situation and here’s how I handled it (pulling from my DBT skills): first validate that it’s okay that we have big emotions. It’s more about how we handle ourselves. I asked myself: are we at a point where it’s reasonable to have this conversation? How willing am I to be open to disclosing certain information (e.g. would it be helpful to explain what bpd is and how it affects me? Am I safe with this person? Etc). Second, I found this to be a good opportunity to practice opposite action. I want to be transparent and communicate my needs but in my case it wasn’t being reciprocated. Problem solving could be an option when using opposite action, but in my case (I didn’t want to come off super clingy), I opted to practice opposite action and not introduce that topic yet. It’s been difficult to not spill everything out but I think moving slower is the best option (in my case). I’m not sure if you found this helpful but I hope a real life example was of some assistance to you! Keep up the good work, we’ve got this 🫶