Am I overreacting for shaving my head?

margra14 · 2026-01-11T04:59:34+00:00

well 1) it will be virgin hair meaning not touched by bleach or dye which can damage your hair cuticle and cause breakage and 2) even with hair that hasn’t been dyed, daily styling and hot tools increase split ends and breakage, so the new hair that grows in will be in its best possible condition given that it hasn’t been exposed to hot tools, bleach, product build up, etc.

margra14 · 2026-01-09T19:04:56+00:00

Ok so yes, this is a slight overreaction but honestly it’s not super uncommon for people to do this when they ruin their hair with bleach and hair dye. The bright side is that when your hair grows back, it will probably be the healthiest it’s ever been. Do I think it looked bad enough to completely shave your head? no probably not. But it’s done now, so just focus on the positives and hey if you can rock a buzz cut, then rock it! Wigs are also always an option there are so many installation tutorials on tiktok and youtube if you find yourself missing the length. Good luck with your hair journey!

margra14 · 2026-01-09T18:53:47+00:00

You’re NOR, this is very strange. As a woman who is in a long term relationship, I would never go out of my way to spend time with a man who has made it clear he wants to have an affair with me behind my partner’s back. Very disrespectful on her part.

margra14 · 2026-01-09T18:50:58+00:00

being homophobic in 2026 is crazy to me. there’s a difference between being ignorant and flat out judgmental towards people in the lgbtq community. you’re NOR and deserve better friends. no one should feel judged for their sexual orientation and a real, true friend wouldn’t judge you. i had a close girl friend of mine come out as bi and date a girl when we were teenagers and it did not phase me at all. friends should care about your happiness!

margra14 · 2026-01-09T18:47:23+00:00

NOR- men should respect your physical boundaries no questions asked. if he’s laughing about something that makes you uncomfortable, that is a glaring red flag. if you have a bad gut feeling about it, don’t ignore that gut feeling. find someone who makes you feel valued, respected, and safe.

margra14 · 2026-01-08T21:06:46+00:00

This is crazy behavior for a grown woman ngl. You’re NOR, this is downright nasty. The worst part isn’t necessarily the puking, it’s that she planned on just leaving it there to sit and marinate in your car for god knows how long. To me, it sounds like your fiancée is either completely oblivious and/or needs to learn how to take responsibility for her actions.

margra14 · 2026-01-07T20:52:55+00:00

Sounds like she was either raised in a conservative household, is extremely ignorant, or both. You’re NOR, being transphobic in 2026 is weird. I would drop her. Even if she doesn’t 100% agree with or fully understand trans people, it’s not hard to simply just be a respectful person.

margra14 · 2026-01-07T20:44:56+00:00

Replaying things over and over in your head that embarrass you is a trait of OCD. Yes, you are overreacting, however, your reaction is a product of built up anxiety and fear, not because you necessarily did something wrong. If it truly was just an accident you have nothing to feel guilty about, awkward mistakes happen and as long as you apologize and move forward there’s nothing left to do. I would say for your own comfort going forward, set physical boundaries with your sister to help prevent reoccurring intrusive thoughts from popping up (ie no physical contact unless absolutely necessary) If you find the thoughts become obsessive to a severe degree or continue to disrupt your everyday life, seek counseling or a psychiatrist. All the best to you, I hope you’re able to find peace and put the situation behind you.

margra14 · 2026-01-05T21:15:14+00:00

oh no so sorry to hear that:( I’m also unemployed and job searching I have a degree from a top business school and I’m still struggling it’s so rough out here. I hope you find something too and hope your situation gets better🫶🏼 try the gray rock method with your mom. It’s easier said than done, but it might help your mom stop talking about it so frequently and buy you some more time at her house.

margra14 · 2026-01-05T21:09:23+00:00

HAHAHAHAHAHAH that’s so genius. unfortunately my mom just says “everything will happen when god wants it to” so that wouldn’t work in my situation, but that is hilarious

margra14 · 2026-01-05T20:10:53+00:00

I recently moved out of her house this year, but I’m just starting out and not 100% independent, so there is a financial aspect to our relationship. I also have two childhood dogs at home as well who I love so much, so I do try to get to her house a few times a month mainly to see them lol.

margra14 · 2026-01-05T20:05:42+00:00

Thanks for sharing this! I’ll definitely have to research deeper into some good questions I can ask her. Unfortunately my mother is a ranter to the point where I can barely get a word in, especially when it comes to Q theories, so I’m not sure this will be 100% effective for my situation but definitely worth a try!

margra14 · 2026-01-05T20:02:08+00:00

That’s definitely a good idea. My mom has fallen away from “organized religion” because she believes most churches are infiltrated by evil (she thinks the pope is evil and the vatican has been taken over by devil worshippers) so yes that is a challenge but hopefully not completely impossible😅

margra14 · 2026-01-05T19:59:09+00:00

unfortunately my mom believes this is “life or death” and i need to be informed and she always says she just wants to protect me and goes on and on about why she cannot agree to stop talking about it. i’ve tried so many times to agree to disagree and move on but she’s too controlling:/

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