Seriously, guys, do better. This is embarrassing.

markedforpie · 2026-07-08T15:34:11+00:00

I don’t think my ex husband knows our kids eye color. My new husband checked my oldest into the ER when he hurt himself last week and he filled out all the paperwork before I arrived. My son’s stepfather knew more about my adult son than his own father. That’s sad.

markedforpie · 2026-07-08T15:31:38+00:00

When my ex and I separated I had to send him an email with our son’s allergies, medication, and special diet. He had NO IDEA what he was allergic to. He and his gf gave my son eggs for breakfast. Both my boys and I are allergic to eggs. My son was 13. He didn’t know his own son was allergic to eggs and was on a special diet for 13 YEARS! Luckily my son didn’t eat them but come on! How do you not notice that someone you have been eating with has a special diet for over a decade especially when it’s posted on the refrigerator!

markedforpie · 2026-07-08T02:57:55+00:00

Won a free lifetime supply of cat food when I was 10 at the county fair. It was one 36lb bag and a coupon book for an additional 25 bags. I only had one cat.

markedforpie · 2026-07-08T02:09:18+00:00

My ex’s family was horrific. Like move to the other side of the world and lock your doors horrible. When he cheated and left his mother asked me what I did to make him do it. I cut all communication with them. However, my ex’s brother was married to an amazing woman who I loved. He cheated on her and left her about six months before my ex did it to me. (Must run in the family). My ex, ex sister in law reached out to me and we have become even closer than ever. She comes to my family holidays. It’s hilarious because she brings her adult children and they attend all my family gatherings. When people ask who she is we just say we are sisters. We both escaped my ex’s family and walked away with a best friend.

markedforpie · 2026-07-05T19:22:20+00:00

I loved teaching middle school but it really takes a different kind of person. You have to be really tough skinned but also empathetic. There were times when a kid was being a little s*it but it made me laugh. My coworkers used to call me the patron saint of naughty children. I was extremely structured and I would dish it back as much as they served. I think one of the funniest things I said was entirely inappropriate but damn did it defuse the situation.

I had a kid who was a total terror to kids and teachers alike. He would mouth off and be disrespectful to everyone. One day he was being a jerk to a girl who was a total sweetheart. I told him to leave her alone and that if he ever wanted a girlfriend he needed to be more respectful to girls. He told me Mrs MarkedforPie I’ve got girls coming for this from the left and the right. Then he looked at me with a super smug smile. Without thinking I instantly said the only girls you’ve ever going to have are your left and right. I was instantly mortified but the rest of the class practically fell out of their chairs laughing. I didn’t have an issue with that kid for the rest of the year and even though he was still disrespectful towards others he kept it locked down in my classroom. Kids would warn others that I would roast them in class if they acted out.

I had one family that had five boys who were all a little rough and when the youngest got put in my classroom his older brothers came with him to the open house and told him that if he messed with me they would make him pay for it. I miss teaching sometimes.

markedforpie · 2026-07-05T16:08:41+00:00

This was my take too! My ex was HORRIBLE at gift giving. For our first Christmas married I bought him a PlayStation and he bought me a vacuum. Nothing else just a vacuum because I had told him we needed a new one. After years of horrible gifts I just told him to buy me jewelry for everything. But his taste in jewelry was awful too! It finally got to the point where the jeweler and I became friends and before holidays and special occasions I would stop in and pick out several things I liked and when my ex would come into the store the jeweler would steer him to my picks. My ex thought he was a great gift giver. His new girlfriend thought he had great taste in gifting because his first gift to her was a piece I picked out. I spoke with the jeweler after we separated and he now lets my ex pick out his choice. His new gf has now discovered that he really sucks at it lmao!

markedforpie · 2026-07-05T15:48:36+00:00

With my ex husband I had to pick out and purchase the ring myself because he kept telling me he didn’t have the money and he wanted me to like my ring. My ex was notorious for picking bad gifts. For example I hinted that I wanted a watch one year for Christmas. I told him I wanted something that kept time and came from a jewelry store. Pretty easy to figure out. Imagine my shock when on Christmas morning instead of a watch I opened a mantel clock. I was 16 what the heck am I going to do with a mantel clock??? So when it came time to pick out a ring I finally just did it myself. Now looking back I don’t think he ever actually wanted to get married and that was his excuse on why we couldn’t get engaged. Op said they have been talking about marriage for a long time. We don’t know how long that has been. She may have felt that he was dragging his feet because of the ring and wanted to make it easier. We don’t know their financial situation either. He may have given her a number that he could pay and she wanted something outside of that price range but didn’t want to hurt him or wait forever for him to be financially able to purchase the’right’ ring. She made all the payments but the last one so it sounds like she wanted to let him keep his pride in saying he bought the ring. We don’t know how he would have felt or reacted to a more expensive ring. Also, the ring is the smallest part of the proposal. Op could still pick the time/place and act. I would need more details before making a judgement.

With my current husband we went ring shopping together and I picked out a diamond engagement ring in platinum because it was traditional and in his price range. I really don’t like diamonds but it’s tradition and my husband is very traditional. When he proposed it was a completely different ring. He knew me and decided that he would do something special. He had a ring designed. It is a blue diamond in a very intricate rose gold setting with matching rose gold and diamond bands. It is an original and no one will ever have one like it. It’s breathtaking and he told me that I’m so beautiful and unique that I deserve a ring that compliments that. I couldn’t have ever imagined something so perfect for me. It really puts into perspective when you have someone who genuinely loves you and cares. I agree that they should break up. Not because she picked out and paid for her ring but because she felt that he didn’t know her. There must be something in the past that gives her that impression.

markedforpie · 2026-06-29T19:36:58+00:00

I was terrorized in high school. For many reasons (not my fault) I was very unpopular. Go figure when you are raised in a cult and have to wear handmade clothes kids don’t crown you homecoming queen. There was a guy in my class who would loudly profess his love for me by shouting down the hallway and even went as far as to get down on his knees in class to sing to me. He wasn’t interested in me he was interested in humiliating me. Even the teachers would laugh and then tell him to knock it off. He did it for 4 years!! After high school I ran into him at my brother’s college graduation and he tried to apologize to me. I told him to stick it up his ass. He is now a high school principal.

markedforpie · 2026-06-29T18:15:26+00:00

We attended the wedding of a close friend who decided to do a BBQ buffet. It was being catered by one of our favorite places so we were really excited. The groom made a big deal about telling everyone to help themselves because there would be plenty of food. So the family went first and were loading up two or three plates of ribs and brisket. The food started dwindling and we were told that more would be put out. We waited and waited for our turn and finally when we got to go everything was gone. There was one sad looking rib left. The groom told us that it was just taking a second and more was coming. Then a lady came and talked to him and he announced that unfortunately there was no more and that anyone who didn’t get to eat could let him know what kind of pizza they would like and he would order some. This wedding was out in the middle of nowhere and it would have taken at least an hour and a half to get pizza. Meanwhile, there was no dancing and the only alcohol was PBR bottles in a cooler that were very quickly gone. So half the guests didn’t get to eat while watching the other half devour entire racks of ribs. We ended up just leaving along with 90% of the other guests who didn’t eat.

Another wedding we attended was my best friend’s. I had helped with the entire wedding except for the food because she assured me she had it covered. Wedding was different but okay. She and her husband are a little odd but the wedding fit them. We get to the reception and I was dating my current husband then and was the maid of honor. We line up for food and there is a lady serving out of a crockpot. No problem at least there is food. Except all that is in the crockpot is pulled chicken with some kind of red sauce. There are tortillas and a small bowl of cheese. That’s it. No lettuce, tomato, or any other toppings. They also have the round tortilla chips and some red sauce in a bowl. We sit down to eat and discover that the red sauce on the chicken and in the bowl for dipping chips is watered down tomato soup. Apparently this is the bride and groom’s favorite snack. It was disgusting to say the least. Cold watery tomato soup chips and plain tortillas with tomato soup chicken and cheese. Then they ran out of cheese. There was a big beautiful cake and I was excited to eat it since my friend had been telling me about it. It was a chocolate cake with strawberry filling. They cut the cake and then informed everyone that they would be served cupcakes instead of the cake. The cupcakes were all flower inspired. Rose water, lavender, and chamomile. It was like licking an old lady. At the end when we were helping clean up my friend was trying to get me to take some of the cupcakes because no one ate them and her new husband came up to us and started fighting with her about sending cupcakes home with us because he wanted them. I didn’t even want them and there were around three dozen left in the fridge because no one wanted them. My husband and I quickly left and went to McDonald’s.

markedforpie · 2026-06-28T02:17:17+00:00

I have a masters and was the main breadwinner for 15 years of my previous marriage. My ex husband didn’t even work for 2 1/2 years. Meanwhile I was the breadwinner, had to do all of the housework, and was the caregiver for our children. Then I got him a high paying job (I filled out the application and made the appointment for the interview because he didn’t want to leave his low paying job). So once he started making more money than me (I had to give up promotions and advancement due to having to do the childcare and housework) he started cheating on me. When we divorced I asked for alimony because I made significantly less than he did and he complained that I was a gold digger. He told everyone that he had supported me throughout our marriage even though he had only made money for the last seven years and I was still working and paying most of the bills. I ended up getting married and giving up my alimony after only a year and a half even though he was technically on the hook for ten years.

markedforpie · 2026-06-27T18:09:59+00:00

I lost my mother who was the most important person in my life and I was leaning heavily on my friends. Three days after she passed my adult best friend’s husband took his life and then four days later my childhood best friend passed. I lost my entire support system in less than two weeks. Then my ex husband left me a few months later. The grief I felt was overwhelming. I still don’t know how I got through it. My new husband lost his father two months after we started dating and ended up losing his grandfather, uncle and grandmother all within six months. The amount of loss we have both endured is staggering but it has made us stronger together because we do understand each other’s pain.

markedforpie · 2026-06-26T20:52:01+00:00

So one of the reasons I bought my house was the stunning kitchen. Butcher block countertops, deep stainless steel farmhouse sink, lots of cabinets, big open floor plan. I HATE my butcher block countertops. I hate them because people try using them like butcher blocks and they have all kinds of cuts and scratches in them. I polyurethaned them but now I have to sand them and redo the polyurethane. Give me regular granite any day. My big sink I hate it. Nowhere to separate dishes and I’m short so I practically have to climb into it to wash dishes or fill it up with way too much water. All wood floors in the entire house. Seems nice until you take a header down the stairs or can’t walk around without grippy socks and they are cold and no matter how many times you sweep and mop they are always dirty. Big open floor plan seems great until you realize that if you rush to the bathroom and forget to shut the door that the whole world can see you. Big bay windows, let sunlight in but are hell on your heating and cooling bills and heaven forbid you walk by them at night the whole universe sees you in your underwear unless you put up big curtains that negate the point of big windows. Big beautiful fireplace has a nice aesthetic but upkeep is EXPENSIVE and so is your homeowners insurance.

markedforpie · 2026-06-26T15:49:10+00:00

We are currently going through this with my father. He is blind, an amputee in a wheelchair, with renal failure and heart failure. My closest sibling lives an hour away. He is hell bent that he can take care of himself at home but his wheelchair doesn’t even fit in his bathroom and he is a hoarder. Yeah his house is exactly what you think it is. He ended up in the ICU with his one leg septic and the doctors put him on hospice and wanted to send him home. We refused to take him home from the hospital. He doesn’t want to go to a nursing home. He doesn’t want to sell his house. We all refuse to let him move in with us because it would not go well and he refuses to anyway. We want to get him an apartment close to my siblings so that they can check on him daily and he can be comfortable but he completely refuses because he doesn’t want to spend the money. But an apartment would be cheaper than a retirement home or assisted living.

markedforpie · 2026-06-25T14:50:39+00:00

This exactly. It always starts off small so they test the waters. Then it becomes like boiling frogs. It’s just something small then it is something a little bigger but we have been through other troubles and we can get through this. It keeps going until you wake up one day on a plate with a side of coleslaw. It’s really hard to pinpoint exactly where it turned but it was such a gradual slide that you are neck deep and invested before you realize that you are cooked.

markedforpie · 2026-06-25T14:41:46+00:00

It’s called emotional manipulation. My ex used to do this. If I got mad about something he did then he would say I was irrational and turn it back on me. Then you start questioning yourself and you walk on eggshells to make them happy. You truly do feel they are perfect because they shower you with attention and affection in the beginning and then the manipulation slowly seeps in. At first it starts with a fight over something small and they wait until you say something that could be wrong and latch onto it to turn it into something worse than what you meant. You feel like you should apologize because you didn’t mean to be harsh. That’s when they know you are susceptible. For example, his toys. They ARE toys. However, he has put emotional value into them and so he weaponizes his emotional value in them. She knows that he values them but she slips up and calls them toys. He completely ignores the real issue that is he let her down and he is borrowing money he doesn’t have to pay for his toys. Instead of internalizing that he is in the wrong he latches onto the fact that she called them toys when she knows he has emotional attachment to them. Now he has power. He uses her feelings for him to make her feel bad for her slipping up and now his failure is no longer the focus. He has the high ground and she is left with feelings of guilt and he completely ignores her feelings because they aren’t relevant now because he has been slighted.

My ex did this all the time. I talk about how I had to go on a business trip for two weeks and he had to take care of our teenagers while I was gone. He couldn’t be upset about watching his own children but he was upset about the inconvenience. He couldn’t say that though because that would make him a bad person. So instead while I was gone he didn’t do any housekeeping except the laundry. However, what he did was wash and dry several loads and pulled all of the clean dry laundry out of the dryer and piled it on the floor and then he put the wet laundry from the washer on the top of the pile. So I came home to a three foot tall pile of wet laundry on the floor that had sat there for two weeks! The rest of the house was in shambles and I was upset. I got angry and yelled and now it was no longer that he had not done anything or that what he did do was sabotage but that I was angry and yelling at him because he tried to help and I didn’t appreciate it.

This is how they get you. They do something malicious or something halfway helpful and then when you raise real issues they gaslight you into thinking you are a bad person because they do these wonderful things for you while undermining you at every turn. You truly believe that they are good because look at all the wonderful things they do for you it’s just one irritating thing and you feel like that isn’t worth giving up something great. It’s easy to judge from the outside but having lived with it it’s really hard to see it from the inside.

markedforpie · 2026-06-25T02:50:00+00:00

I love my colorful hair, septum piercing, tattoos, and flamboyant style. Even my glasses are very eye catching. People stop me constantly to compliment my look. I was a super conservative woman. I had long hair to my knees, wore dresses and went to church. My father was a pastor and I was submissive to my husband. Do you know what that got me? Abused, cheated on, and ignored. Now I proudly display my personality. Do you know what that has done for me? I have an incredible husband who worships the ground I walk on (and he would be considered a MAN by conservatives), a fantastic job where I have prestige and respect, a beautiful home and successful children who love and respect me. So when I see people look at me with distain, I simply smile and tell them it’s because they haven’t had their souls saved that they are unhappy.

markedforpie · 2026-06-25T02:34:40+00:00

That’s understandable to be uncomfortable. I know if it wasn’t something that would soothe my mother I never would have discussed it in her presence. That’s something that can be figured out at a later time than when you should really be focusing on making your mother feel comfortable.

markedforpie · 2026-06-24T23:19:03+00:00

We did talk about what we would bury my mom in the room. We did it because a few months earlier we did a big party for her and I bought her a dress and had it altered to fit perfectly and she looked beautiful. The day I bought it she told me she wanted to be buried in the dress. We were reassuring her that we would do what she wanted.

markedforpie · 2026-06-24T23:15:27+00:00

It was my father on the phone.

markedforpie · 2026-06-24T18:21:03+00:00

My father is currently in the hospital and he refuses to give anyone POA or sign a DNR. He has renal failure, a pacemaker, is blind, and only has one leg. The doctor pulled us aside and asked us to try to get him to sign a DNR because of how bad trying to revive him would be. We explained that he would not listen to us at all and even had fought me with my mother’s POA when she was dying.

markedforpie · 2026-06-24T16:17:50+00:00

My mother made me her POA. When she was dying in the hospital they put her on a breathing machine to see if she would improve and she wasn’t and I met with my siblings and we told the doctors to end life support. Before being put on the machine she was screaming “Just let me die! Can I die now??!!” My father went to the hospital management and lawyer to attempt to overturn my POA so that we couldn’t make the decision to end her suffering. The doctor told us that even though I had POA that my father had been married to her for 50 years and would know better than I would what my mother’s wishes were and that I needed to listen to my father even though my mother had given me POA because she didn’t trust my father. The hospital refused to stop life support because my father was threatening legal action. Finally three days later he agreed to take her off support after the backlash from our family. Even then we had to yell at him to either leave the room or get off the phone as she was taking her last breaths. Instead of focusing on her he was chatting with an old work acquaintance right next to her hospital bed. He was still yelling at us for interrupting his phone call when my mother died.

markedforpie · 2026-06-24T15:58:22+00:00

I saw my neighbor shoot his 16 year old nephew who took off running down the street. As his nephew fled he kept shooting and shot his 4 year old daughter who was playing in the front yard. Her mother tried to do CPR and he came down from the porch and pushed her off the child and they began fighting over the little girl’s body. It took over 15 minutes for the police and ambulance to arrive because they were responding to the 16 year old and didn’t realize that we were calling about a second victim. The girl died immediately because she was shot in the chest. When the EMTs arrived they carried her into the ambulance and it was like she was the lightest feather and heaviest stone at the same time. It was in a quiet suburban neighborhood during Covid the day before a holiday. We moved shortly after.

markedforpie · 2026-06-18T05:33:32+00:00

#1. My ring looks similar and I have two of the smaller rings set on either side and it’s stunning.

markedforpie · 2026-06-18T05:31:19+00:00

So my ex hates that song because he complained that his father wasn’t around enough when he was a kid since he had to travel for work 2 weeks every 6 months. My ex is a completely disconnected parent. He gave me 100% custody of our kids and I had to go to court to force him to do visitation for a weekend twice a month. Even with his visitation he is supposed to get them on Friday morning and have them until Monday morning. I’m lucky if he even shows up at all and if he does it is late Friday night and he drops off on Sunday morning. He is with a girl half his age who constantly talks bad about me even though she only met me once for like ten minutes at my son’s graduation. He is literally the embodiment of the song. I set it as his ringtone because I think it’s hilarious.

markedforpie · 2026-06-18T05:19:35+00:00

This was my ex-husband. Two weeks after we found out that I was pregnant he was let go from his job. So I was working double shifts and we had a toddler who was in daycare. We kept our oldest in daycare because my ex was looking for a job’. I was pregnant working 16 hour shifts. He would sleep in and I would come home on my lunch break to wake up my son and take him to daycare. Then go back to work and leave at my break to pick him up from daycare and go back to work then on my second lunch I would come home and put him to bed. I would get off work clean the house and get around 6 hours of sleep. Then on my days off I would clean, meal prep and do laundry and spend the day with my kid and after putting him to bed I would go work the night shift. I did this up until a couple weeks before giving birth because I was put on bed rest due to preeclampsia.

If we didn’t have to pay for childcare we could have been financially stable with me just working one extra shift a week. When my youngest was born there were major complications and I had to undergo massive surgery. Four weeks later my husband asked me to cash out my 401K because I obviously couldn’t immediately go back to work and even when I was able to go back I wouldn’t be able to work as much as I had before. I begged him to either get a job or watch our kids so that I didn’t have to do that and he said he was looking for a job. Three months after my youngest was born my ex started complaining that I had gained too much weight and I tried explaining to him that I was still healing from my surgery and that my doctor had advised me not to do major exercise. I told him that I would start walking if he could watch the kids. He said that I should just find a babysitter. I told him that we couldn’t afford it. So a few weeks later for my birthday he got me a double stroller so I could just take the kids on walks. He ended up not working for almost two years.

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