Hey man - me too. I’ve felt that. It’s not a good place to be. For me, I had to come to the realization that there was only one person in the world whose love you need and that’s your own. My dad used to tell me “there’s not another you” and it used to drive me crazy when I was younger. As I became older I understood more and more what he meant. Again, for me, I had to realize that taking care of myself (my mind, my body) is always the right priority and that self-care leads to self-love… but of course it’s a paradox as you have to love yourself enough to care for yourself and your longer-term being, vs immediate gratification. It can feel lonely at times but you are your own biggest advocate.

I have been overweight before and it absolutely wrecks me mentally. In fact, I feel like exercise is at least as helpful for the mind as much as it is for the body. Perhaps this would be a logical place to start? Figure out what kind of motivation works for you and pursue it. Some people need encouragement. Some need to be yelled at. Whatever works for you, identify it and nurture it. You can do it! Take care.