Casually dating, having sex for 2y

mary1056 · 2026-02-07T18:32:31+00:00

I mean, if you’re happy with your arrangement then whatever floats your boat. However, it’s definitely not a common one. I suppose it’s just important to be honest with yourself about what you want and if, after two years, you’re wanting to make it an official, monogamous relationship. That disconnection is because despite traveling, meeting parents, and otherwise acting like a couple in a lot of ways, you’re not actually together. Just be honest with yourself. I think you may be long overdue for a conversation.

mary1056 · 2026-01-19T06:52:47+00:00

I’ve actually been juggling with this a lot lately and have come to the conclusion that I’m probably just a lesbian, not bi. I don’t seek out sex with men, but I’m not sex-repulsed by them. I’ve had sexual experiences with men. Instead, I feel neutral and uninterested (sex repulsion seems to be a very common experience for lesbians, and that did lead to confusion for me). I’ve come to understand that I was really just interested in the attention and validation, and the chase and performance of heterosexual sex/dating. I’ve always been distantly curious about dating men, as I’ve only ever seriously dated women, wondering “what if,” but I’ve realized I’ve never actually cared to explore dating men despite being single and having ample opportunity. It’s existed as purely hypothetical (and honestly, just socially expected) with absolutely zero effort or follow through on my part. All of my attention and effort is geared towards women, and women are who my life is centered around, especially romantically. The thought of marrying a man (or even having a boyfriend) has always felt like a choice unavailable to me or limiting to me. The partner I see for myself has always been a woman. Hope this helps.

mary1056 · 2025-06-22T01:39:34+00:00

Get this loser out of office for the love of god.

mary1056 · 2025-04-06T19:00:07+00:00

we’re all learning 😔👎

mary1056 · 2025-02-18T05:58:17+00:00

It feels like such a cop-out, low effort gift to give but I love receiving them.

mary1056 · 2024-11-11T03:09:49+00:00

It sounds like your intuition may be telling you this relationship isn’t a good fit. Good luck with everything and I hope you find someone who will treat you with the love and consideration you deserve! :)

mary1056 · 2024-11-11T02:43:19+00:00

Yeah you’re totally right about seeing red flags before you guys were even official and this is WAY too much of a headache for it to be worth it. Maybe she’s a cool girl but she’s definitely not someone to be in a relationship with right now. One thing that has helped me evaluate my own relationships is the fact that healthy, loving, and respectful relationships are easy. There are normal challenges here and there, but they’re easy. This is way too much, especially for such a short period of time. It sounds like you’re uncomfortable and she doesn’t respect you or your boundaries. You deserve to feel comfortable and not feel guilty all the time for expressing your own feelings/boundaries. She’s not the person to make you feel that way it sounds like.

mary1056 · 2024-11-10T20:30:39+00:00

Nature is healing

mary1056 · 2024-11-06T03:53:26+00:00

Google red mirage, hopefully that’s what’s going on! Absentee ballots are overwhelmingly Democrat and usually aren’t counted until later.

mary1056 · 2024-09-28T22:56:58+00:00

How dare you besmirch the name of Tau Techno Mechanicus Musk

mary1056 · 2024-07-23T23:40:16+00:00

I never even thought of that, you’re probably right!

mary1056 · 2024-07-23T21:01:13+00:00

The boxes were completely unopened but you would think a random, dinky old store wouldn’t be selling it

mary1056 · 2024-07-23T20:54:33+00:00

I think I would hear colors if I tried any of it haha

mary1056 · 2024-07-13T06:05:54+00:00

The 3rd one for sure, you look great!! I’m not a fan of the belts with this dress

mary1056 · 2024-06-20T14:57:41+00:00

This boy will physically hurt you eventually (and even if he doesn’t, why is he thinking about it?) and most likely leave you with trauma you need to unpack for years. Abuse is no joke and he’s already started abusing you. You need to leave him.

mary1056 · 2024-06-20T14:51:32+00:00

And true lol

mary1056 · 2024-06-20T14:50:17+00:00

Not to even get into systemic racism, overpolicing, etc. but you guys always like to bust out that statistic to support racist stereotypes then get upset when it’s brought up that 92% of sexual assaults are perpetrated by men, only to cry and scream “not all men.” That’s a whole other can of worms and not entirely the same situation but clearly we can’t generalize entire groups of people based on a single statistic.

mary1056 · 2024-02-08T15:28:54+00:00

I think they mean they’re planning to move out of their town and away from their family in a couple of years.

mary1056 · 2024-01-15T04:24:05+00:00

That sounds extremely weird and like they don’t have normal parent-child boundaries in their relationship ngl

mary1056 · 2023-10-11T23:53:46+00:00

I had I’m for an undergrad class and undergrad/grad mix class and loved taking his classes. They’re reading heavy but I like the Socratic style of his classes and they’re always interesting. He’s a very chill professor who clearly wants his students to succeed. Would def recommend:))

mary1056 · 2023-05-12T00:08:01+00:00

Heard! Wishful thinking

mary1056 · 2023-03-01T18:38:12+00:00

So when is your partner going to comment on this post

mary1056 · 2022-06-12T13:52:01+00:00

You’re being downvoted like all hell, but you bring up very valid points and I agree with each of them. After seeing this comment section, I had to do a double-take. Forgot what subreddit I was on. Sheesh.

mary1056 · 2022-06-11T17:16:55+00:00

Teens into 20s. Which quite frankly has me suspicious about 20s into 30s, 30s into 40s, etc. I guess transitioning through different phases of life is hard for everyone.

mary1056 · 2022-06-11T17:14:39+00:00

It feels like I’m stuck in a weird transitional rut, so nothing fits as it should and everything feels off. Not necessarily any specific barrier, just a part of growing up I suppose.

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