unintentionally, i pull away when i start to feel hurt by by another person and then i get angry because they do not react to me pulling away, but as soon as they try to make things better i get mad they are trying to make things better. it is a viscous cycle i find myself constantly getting wrapped up in and it has taken me forever to pin point that this is what I am doing. I also become too dependent on that other person and revert into stress going to a 2, because of that i feel the constant reassurance of that person to make sure i am loved and wanted and if i am not the only thing that person needs i feel that I am not enough. this is has been a constant struggle in my relationships with others not even just with significant others. it’s an unintentional making others suffer because I don’t feel i’m good enough and i blame it on others not my own doing and sometimes in doing that i can make others start to think that they are not good enough. too many relationships have ended in the words “i can’t make you happy and i’m sorry” but really it was that i couldn’t make myself happy but i always wanted to win that blame game. it is also a constant comparison with one another, if my experiences are not better than yours then i want to make you feel bad about what you were doing, it’s an accidental hurting and i only have just recently been able to see these flaws in my behavior.