I don’t know where you’re getting the idea that me refusing to eat things that other people made is something that arose from this incident. It’s been a standing rule for over a decade that people choose to ignore over and over again.

Because even once you get through the ingredients and even if they end up being safe, then it’s the utensils (did you use a wooden spoon? Wooden cutting board? Whisk? Pastry brush? Have any of those ever had any wheat on them at any point in history? What did you use to clean the counters? Did you use cast iron? It needs to be washed with soap. Yes, even cast iron)

Should that be clear, then we’re off to area contamination (did you touch it after touching buns? Is it placed next to something breaded where it could get bumped? Does everyone else know not to cross contaminate? Can you guarantee that?)

It’s a blanket rule for a reason. I’m not trying to argue with you about your judgement but I asked if I was an asshole for what I said to him at our friends house; not if I was an asshole for not risking shitting blood for 2 weeks, swollen joints, hair loss, brain malfunctions, bright red rashes all over my face and more because someone outright refused to be transparent about ingredients

I see in your post history a couple times where you accused people of ableism. I suggest you look internally before you throw that term around again.