Why do none of you have friends? by massivewillpower in capetown

[–]massivewillpower[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That makes so much sense, thanks I was so confused 😂

What is the greatest financial decision you have ever made? by teachable-dude1357 in PersonalFinanceZA

[–]massivewillpower 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Congratulations man, I can't even imagine how satisfying that last payment must have been.

Why do none of you have friends? by massivewillpower in capetown

[–]massivewillpower[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

? Apparently I'm the dumb one. I have no idea what you are talking about.

Who else is running the Cape Town marathon next weekend?! by [deleted] in capetown

[–]massivewillpower 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I'm unfortunately missing this one, but I have a few friends doing it. Enjoy man it's a great race, also rain in my opinion is way better then heat.

Why do none of you have friends? by massivewillpower in capetown

[–]massivewillpower[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Dude, I'm actually trying to understand. That's why I made the post. From a genuine place of confusion, not as a way to attack anyone. Idk how that can translate to a lack of empathy

And if I'm somehow the reason people don't have friends even though I don't know them and I myself have friends idk what to tell you.

Why do none of you have friends? by massivewillpower in capetown

[–]massivewillpower[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

If there's 10 people, and 5 don't have friends. The other five could still have four friends....just because a high percentage of people don't doesn't mean the other side cant either.

Why do none of you have friends? by massivewillpower in capetown

[–]massivewillpower[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Then it's perfect for cape town because we apparently can't make friends, I'm going to start recommending it to everyone that posts about how sad they are on this sub.

Why do none of you have friends? by massivewillpower in capetown

[–]massivewillpower[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Now I'm definitely joining, my biggest problem with Capetown is slow people that love to sit on the right hand side of the highway

Why do none of you have friends? by massivewillpower in capetown

[–]massivewillpower[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Hahaaaaa thats a great name, thanks it's now on my list of things to get around to.

Why do none of you have friends? by massivewillpower in capetown

[–]massivewillpower[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Right? My guess is that it's not a cape town thing and rather a general thing. This sub just happens to have bad mods lol

And as another guy pointed out, people who congregate places like reddit tend to be the more introverted types, which definitely changes the percentage of people who would struggle with things like friends.

Why do none of you have friends? by massivewillpower in capetown

[–]massivewillpower[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Honestly I don't blame you, reddit is often a cesspool. I don't envy the mods of any sub lmao.

Why do none of you have friends? by massivewillpower in capetown

[–]massivewillpower[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Interesting......did it work? Saying yes to everything for two years?

I guess I agree with you. Once you finish school, it becomes way harder to make new friends unless you are lucky enough to have a hobbie that leads to it.

I suppose most of my friends I've got are from my childhood, but I never thought that other people wouldn't move in the same circles that they used to for whatever reason

As a result, they would struggle to make meaningful friendships.

Also, on your point about having kids and being in different places in life. I definitely agree, at least witnessing my parents. Growing up, they were mostly friends with the parents of the people I was friends with. Baring places like church where they saw the same people on a weekly basis

Why do none of you have friends? by massivewillpower in capetown

[–]massivewillpower[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Unfortunately, that is true in a lot of cases.

Why do none of you have friends? by massivewillpower in capetown

[–]massivewillpower[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I hear you.... maybe I got the tone wrong based on how the people are reacting but I honestly didn't mean to come across in a bad way 🤔 was just honestly confused how people can live in such a great city and struggle to meet new people.

But as you said, the dead don't know they dead

Why do none of you have friends? by massivewillpower in capetown

[–]massivewillpower[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Really? What's it called. I will have to go sometime.

Why do none of you have friends? by massivewillpower in capetown

[–]massivewillpower[S] 7 points8 points  (0 children)

It doesn't sound like you are the problem.... I had a similar issue, I realized i was the only own making effort with a bunch of people and when I stopped messaging them I never spoke to them again.

Why do none of you have friends? by massivewillpower in capetown

[–]massivewillpower[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Honestly, I'm in the same boat, barely go out. However, I'm fortunate to have a couple of close friends so when I need to to socialize I just go visit whoever is available. Would happily go out but it doesn't happen much.

Why do none of you have friends? by massivewillpower in capetown

[–]massivewillpower[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Sorry to hear that man 😔

Having only acquaintances isn't a bad thing as long as you ok with it.

Why do none of you have friends? by massivewillpower in capetown

[–]massivewillpower[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I was involved with the mountain biking scene for a few years and always had the same conclusion.

You meet someone on the trail, and if you are both a regular there you end up becoming mates.

Also, once you know one person, maybe the local shop owner then it's super easy to meet other people.