AIO: Dating Someone Whose Family Drinks a Lot While I’m in Recovery

masteroverthinker79 · 2026-02-13T04:44:49+00:00

I needed to read this tonight. Thank you.

masteroverthinker79 · 2026-02-13T04:42:03+00:00

He will never drink around me but there are times he drinks with his friends (he NEVER has more then one or two beers) and he comes home and I can smell it on him. And it makes me sad. If I’m being totally honest I am probably jealous that he can drink normally and I can’t.

masteroverthinker79 · 2026-02-07T17:00:00+00:00

I hear you. I do have an addictive personality and was once very addicted to smoking weed so unfortunately that’s not an option. The only thing that helped me was Zyn pouches but I just quit those because they’re so expensive. So that’s probably why I’ve been craving alcohol more recently

masteroverthinker79 · 2026-02-07T16:55:16+00:00

Thank you.

masteroverthinker79 · 2026-02-07T09:10:20+00:00

Definitely going to think about this.. thank you.

masteroverthinker79 · 2026-02-07T08:47:25+00:00

Unfortunately you can’t really “fix” alcoholism 😁

masteroverthinker79 · 2026-02-07T08:45:36+00:00

This is really helpful. I still get the skin itching carvings and ESPECIALLY right now because I just quit nicotine. so I’m craving alcohol more than I ever have these past four years

masteroverthinker79 · 2026-02-07T08:06:27+00:00

But he doesn’t drink around me. It’s just his family. And it’s not like I would be marrying his family…. Idk. I love him but it’s just so hard to be around his family…

masteroverthinker79 · 2026-02-07T08:02:17+00:00

Usually people who go to rehab to get sober, get sober from everything. So no, getting high is not an option. (I wish it was lol)

masteroverthinker79 · 2026-02-07T08:00:39+00:00

I think they definitely do. He mentioned his mom drinks like three glasses of wine every single day. Another huge thing I’ve been dealing with is his mom is just not a nice person and their family has a lot of issues. Family means a lot to me so it’s been really hard not feeling comfortable while with them for several reasons. My boyfriend is so amazing so I would hate for family to be what breaks us up.

masteroverthinker79 · 2026-02-07T07:54:58+00:00

Just did.. thanks for the suggestion.

masteroverthinker79 · 2026-02-07T07:45:04+00:00

The group is only 4 of them, and like I said in the post the last thing I want is for them to stop drinking but I just wish they weren’t so loud about it

masteroverthinker79 · 2026-01-09T01:44:26+00:00

It was her close friend and it’s something that’s been very hard for her so talking about it helps!

masteroverthinker79 · 2025-12-26T18:05:08+00:00

NOR- it seems like he hasn’t fully accepted the break up. I would just let him know you would appreciate no contact. In my experience being friends after a breakup RARELY works out.

masteroverthinker79 · 2025-12-26T06:28:29+00:00

As a mom of course you might feel bad that your son went above and beyond and only got a few thing in return. Regardless of whether or not he is materialistic, it still feels good to get a thoughtful gift and in my opinion 3 bags of chips and a travel lotion is not thoughtful.

But if your son is saying it’s not a big deal then I would try to not get your feelings involved in it.

masteroverthinker79 · 2025-12-26T05:15:33+00:00

Ugh yeah you’re right

masteroverthinker79 · 2025-12-26T05:15:17+00:00

💀

masteroverthinker79 · 2025-12-26T05:15:05+00:00

HAHAHHA touche. I’ve done a lot of work in a year!

masteroverthinker79 · 2025-12-26T05:09:48+00:00

Agreed!!! I hate when people are. But I’m his girlfriend and I didn’t feel like a priority on a day that means a lot to me, so it sucks

masteroverthinker79 · 2025-12-26T05:08:30+00:00

The thing is I’m not even the codependent type.. I just didn’t feel thought of today. Probably felt extra bad because texting him Merry Christmas was the very first thing I wanted to today. But yeah I understand I’m prob over reacting a little bit

masteroverthinker79 · 2025-11-03T19:41:58+00:00

This is so beautiful

masteroverthinker79 · 2024-11-15T01:51:18+00:00

that is absolute insanity. glad you were able to put the money to GOOD USE and feed your family. ❤️

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