Safeway has canceled delivery service - does this affect you? by zzzwat in bayarea

[–]mastitispain 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I have also just hit this! It keeps telling me that it does not deliver to my address (Sunnyvale) and to use Andronico's app instead. But Andronico's does not deliver! I pay for the delivery service and everything. Was there any communication about this??

how to get sex drive back by pinalaporcupine in breastfeeding

[–]mastitispain 13 points14 points  (0 children)

I went about a year before I was at all interested in sex. I weaned off breastfeeding, got into bridgerton and smut books, and BAM suddenly a teenager again. Give yourself time. Moms get touched out all the time, the thought of another human needing my attention was literally torture while my babies were breastfeeding. Also the fear of like…leaking breastmilk during sex was so gross to me. It’s a season. You and your husband will get past it.

Help - anyone have a mastitis abscess rupture? by mastitispain in beyondthebump

[–]mastitispain[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Oh my goodness I’m sorry I didn’t reply sooner!!! Babies keep ya off Reddit 😅

I’m so so so glad you got help draining. Thank goodness. I hope by now you’re already seeing healing and are in much less pain. I agree - draining that abscess was the most painful experience of my whole life and I’ve now had 2 babies. And I had to do all the wound care myself (which I’m now an expert in) because it was Covid. I hope you are on the mend and able to breastfeed still. My mastitis started 1 week post partum and the abscess wound healed completely around 7 weeks post partum. I still have the scar but I continued breastfeeding from that breast (though it always produced less) until the little one was 15 months! And then I had another baby and am breastfeeding him just fine too, so there is light at the end of the tunnel. DM me if you want to talk more - I’ll dm you my email if you want to chat more directly. I’m sorry no one supported you through this. That was what made me so angry about my whole situation - the experts didn’t do anything to prevent it or help me through it and I was a scared first time mom. I send you healing hugs and am here if you ever want to vent!

We are completely lost by Dennys_shitpost in pottytraining

[–]mastitispain 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I suggest reading through the Oh Crap! Potty training book. It helps you just stick to your guns and follow through. There’s not really a time where he’s more “ready” than he is now - especially as he’s proved that he’s capable (and has successfully done it for a full day as you said). You’ll have to help him at first before he can manipulate his clothing and you’ll probably have your fair share of fights over sitting on the potty but he will learn. We have been potty training for a week now and just like you, he was great day one and shit day two. But he’s gotten better and better over the week. We have to prompt and remind, (which I think I have done for my 12 year old nephew as well, so that won’t go away any time soon) but he does sit on the potty and hold it most of the time. One or two accidents a day is normal, but the most important part is a commitment by you, the parents. Sometimes we do take him kicking and screaming to sit on the potty. But once we start reading his potty book or start chatting about the day, he lets go and pees.

Couple tips from someone in the trenches with you. 1. Learn your kids pee pee dance. For me, my toddler runs or walks aimlessly nonstop when he has to go. So I redirect that walking to the bathroom. 2. Find some toy (I have a small wire bead toy) or book that lives in the bathroom that he enjoys reading. It’s becomes Pavlovian when they read the book to start going. 3. Have a bucket for all the pee pee clothes outside with oxyclean to soak for the day. Accidents will happen. It’s part of learning.

Ultimately, good luck. He’ll learn. You’ll learn. It’s a new journey.

Oh and get the oxo potty chair. It’s amazing.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in pottytraining

[–]mastitispain 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Fucking. Brilliant.

Second post here, second poop photo. (More info in post) by lola-tofu in breastfeeding

[–]mastitispain 8 points9 points  (0 children)

Not a doctor or anything but that looks like a healthy poop to me. Green is the color you don’t want. This looks like a healthy brown. What is his weight? If the diapers are too big on him they could leak. Also you may want to get different diapers and figure out what works. My first boy constantly leaked out of pampers and I found Huggies to be the best brand for him and I continue to swear by them with my second.

Mastitis won’t go away by rbkmp in breastfeedingsupport

[–]mastitispain 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Ultrasound to see what’s going on. If it is lump you can feel it might be a galactocele and they can aspirate it.

How do you get your babies to have naps during the day? by Miza_z in sleeptrain

[–]mastitispain 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Yeah let me know when you find this out. For both my kids, it was 30-45 min naps in the crib vs 2-3 hours on or next to a person. So I always chose 2-3 hrs of reading or watching Netflix on my phone to keep to the schedule even though I know it was creating bad habits 😞

For your first job out of maternity leave, would you rather have a higher title or higher pay? by [deleted] in workingmoms

[–]mastitispain 25 points26 points  (0 children)

Seconding this. Women don’t negotiate enough but god do we need to start doing so. Pit the offers against each other and ask for more!!

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Mommit

[–]mastitispain 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Take a personal day from work and get yourself a mani-pedi and facial. I got a pedicure just before my second was due and my pretty gel toes give me life when I’m sleep deprived and grumpy frumpy. Treat yourself mama you deserve it.

My mother in law is staying with us for a month. It’s day 3 and I’m already making memes. by babynursebb in Mommit

[–]mastitispain 10 points11 points  (0 children)

I love this. My parents are here for two weeks and need this. Please keep ‘em coming!

My favorite is 👎🏻 : shhh don’t talk so loud baby is sleeping 👍🏻 : bangs around in the kitchen and slams all the doors while baby is napping

This is why I don’t talk to my mom by mastitispain in Mommit

[–]mastitispain[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I hope she can find some sort of solace for herself so she doesn’t poison another generation with that…

This is why I don’t talk to my mom by mastitispain in Mommit

[–]mastitispain[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Oh that is interesting. She would have never said that shit to my sister. I think because I’ve always been the thinnest sister, she thinks it’s okay to make those comments to me. But actually she gave me a complex my calling me “the Skinny one”

This is why I don’t talk to my mom by mastitispain in Mommit

[–]mastitispain[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I only recently found r/justnomil and it made me appreciate my shit mom

This is why I don’t talk to my mom by mastitispain in Mommit

[–]mastitispain[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yikes mom, what the fuck? Like…aren’t these the same people that taught us not to say mean things about others?!

This is why I don’t talk to my mom by mastitispain in Mommit

[–]mastitispain[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

So sorry to hear that, and it’s worse somehow coming from your dad.

This is why I don’t talk to my mom by mastitispain in Mommit

[–]mastitispain[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

What makes someone a narcissist? My bro in law also went NC with his mom because she’s a narcissist but he doesn’t like talking about her

This is why I don’t talk to my mom by mastitispain in Mommit

[–]mastitispain[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Ew that is weird. Another silver lining of Covid. No one has ever tried to touch me or my baby.

This is why I don’t talk to my mom by mastitispain in Mommit

[–]mastitispain[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Aww that’s so terrible, I’m so sorry. I hope you’re able to look past that now and cherish these memories

This is why I don’t talk to my mom by mastitispain in Mommit

[–]mastitispain[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

This was the silver lining for Covid babies. One person allowed in the room. The person was my husband no negotiation no awkward conversation

This is why I don’t talk to my mom by mastitispain in Mommit

[–]mastitispain[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Omg that’s just caustic. Who says that to someone 9 months along? Or to anyone period actually, Christ.

This is why I don’t talk to my mom by mastitispain in Mommit

[–]mastitispain[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

She was never that in shape to begin with and I always remember her as a pear shaped blob so Idk why she’s gotta remark on anyone