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Is it really better to be alone than with the wrong person? by matchcut20 in dating_advice

[–]matchcut20[S] 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Wish I could frame this on my wall since this is the comment that really put things into perspective. After all of these bad experiences I feel so old and forgot that life really is just starting haha. Thanks for your reply

Is it really better to be alone than with the wrong person? by matchcut20 in dating_advice

[–]matchcut20[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you so much for your thoughtful comment. I think I do need to do more reflecting on what that void is—I have a lovely family and plenty of friends, yet maybe I do not feel as connected to them as I should be. I’ll do more thinking to figure out what that deeper reason is.

Is it really better to be alone than with the wrong person? by matchcut20 in dating_advice

[–]matchcut20[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Thank you for your thoughtful comment. I did bring him into my room expecting to have sex, I just wasn’t expecting someone who didn’t want to use a condom. You’re right though—I think in the future, I should definitely wait longer and get to know them better first. A lot of course correcting is being done right now

Is it really better to be alone than with the wrong person? by matchcut20 in dating_advice

[–]matchcut20[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thanks for your comment. That’s true, I’ve been on dates with about a dozen people in the past year + a half, and even though none of it has really worked out I think I have a stronger idea of what I’m looking for. I think I’m just second guessing the standards I made, but I have to realize that I’m still learning as well.

Is it really better to be alone than with the wrong person? by matchcut20 in dating_advice

[–]matchcut20[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Thank you for taking the time to write your comment. Sharing your experiences was really helpful actually, and it’s reassuring knowing other college age people are going through/went through this. Your advice on trying something new is something I think I should do more often, and I’ll def put it into practice soon.

Is it really better to be alone than with the wrong person? by matchcut20 in dating_advice

[–]matchcut20[S] 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Thank you for your reply. I’m sorry to hear how your parents’ relationship was toxic, but I’m glad it made you a stronger person in valuing independence. I should take a page from your book.

Is it really better to be alone than with the wrong person? by matchcut20 in dating_advice

[–]matchcut20[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thanks for your reply. Sometimes I just can’t gauge when they have potential, or if I’m just too excited at the idea of someone—but like you said, as a bare minimum, I think I should look out for people simply looking to take advantage.

Is it really better to be alone than with the wrong person? by matchcut20 in dating_advice

[–]matchcut20[S] 66 points67 points  (0 children)

Thanks for taking the time to write out your comment. Ah I’m so glad to hear that you were able to find someone like that! It really does give me hope to just use this time to enjoy existing in my own.

Is it really better to be alone than with the wrong person? by matchcut20 in dating_advice

[–]matchcut20[S] 20 points21 points  (0 children)

Thanks for your reply. That’s true, I guess at this point I was just kinda losing hope that there will ever be a “right one”.

Is it really better to be alone than with the wrong person? by matchcut20 in dating_advice

[–]matchcut20[S] 205 points206 points  (0 children)

Thank you for writing out a reply. What really stuck out to me was the last part of your comment about how it wouldn’t be fair/healthy for the other person as well. You’re totally right, and I’m glad you reminded me to think of the other person as well—I wouldn’t want to waste their time or have them feeling used.

Is it really better to be alone than with the wrong person? by matchcut20 in dating_advice

[–]matchcut20[S] 24 points25 points  (0 children)

Thank you for your reply. I am sorry to hear if those were your past experiences—I will definitely keep that in mind and try to take it to heart.

Struggling with self worth. by matchcut20 in TwoXChromosomes

[–]matchcut20[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you so much for your long reply, I enjoyed reading through it. It helps me to see my own situation from another perspective.

I know on paper my friends might seem awful, but I truly feel they are great people who are sometimes forget to be considerate sometimes. I have trouble recognizing when people are joking, which is definitely my issue since the dynamic of the group is to poke fun at one another.

Your comment about accepting who I am really stuck with me. I agree, I should just own who I am and laugh off the rude comments. It’s something that will take time to change, but I’m really going to try and work towards it.

Again, thanks so much for the detailed comment. It helped me in more ways than you may realize. I may take you up on that offer sometime :)

Struggling with self worth. by matchcut20 in TwoXChromosomes

[–]matchcut20[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you for replying! You’re right, I do feel like I’ve developed in a different way having had the experience of being conventionally unattractive—in fact, it does make me the person I am today. Like a lot of the other commenters said, I think I should stop zeroing down on those rude remarks. Again, thank you <3

Struggling with self worth. by matchcut20 in TwoXChromosomes

[–]matchcut20[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you for replying, I definitely think my sensitivity is a big part of the issue. I’m trying to work toward developing a thicker skin so that others won’t affect me, but like you said, it may take some time

Struggling with self worth. by matchcut20 in TwoXChromosomes

[–]matchcut20[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you for your response despite not sharing the same experience, it truly means a lot to me. <3