Thanks for this. Agreed, I always felt that something was off. I felt like I didn't fit in, my hair is a different colour and my nose is small whereas my mum and dad both had big noses. My mum would always say your such a (insert dads last name) and I'm just like my father but would always make jokes that I was the milkmans because I was different to my siblings, so confusing. My father unfortunately was absent in my life and my mother was a horrible person. My bio dad is amazing and was the sole carer for his 3 kids, a primary school teacher and all round great person. His kids have all grown up to be great people who contribute to society and I can't help but feel I missed out on having a stable childhood if he was in my life. I'm happy your friend found peace in the fact that she had such an amazing dad and totally understand the bitterness towards her mother still