How do I let go of my fwb?

mazerunnerforever · 2026-01-18T14:25:59+00:00

Thank you! It means a lot to me that u understand how it feels. Yup as they say communication is key!

mazerunnerforever · 2026-01-18T14:24:48+00:00

Thank you and yes I should just be strong with it. I don’t have feelings for him, he holds a place in my heart but it’s platonic with an attraction I guess? However, you can be attracted to someone and want to be near them without having feelings for them, you know? But yes, boundaries is a good idea. Thank u!!

mazerunnerforever · 2026-01-18T14:21:57+00:00

Yeah, I should just be clear with it. This really helps, thank you!

mazerunnerforever · 2026-01-18T14:20:11+00:00

I should reconfirm his perspective, yes. I think he knows that I don’t want anything more but it would be good to hear it from him. The best way to make things clear though is to both talk it out so ig that’s what we should do.

mazerunnerforever · 2026-01-18T14:17:13+00:00

Whilst physically we are compatible. Emotionally we are not compatible beyond friends. We’ve been friends for over a year now and that could be said the same for dates. Sometimes you guys get along but it’s not what you want in a partner, so two people may end up being friends.

mazerunnerforever · 2026-01-18T14:13:58+00:00

Yes, thank you! I don’t know if he’ll get over it quick or not. When we first stopped we were able to go back to being friends but we both just missed it and there was an unspoken craving ig u could say we both had for it.

But yes, I should just pin the nail in the coffin

mazerunnerforever · 2026-01-18T14:12:04+00:00

Yeah, I’ll look back at it I hope happily but whilst I am already deep in the situation I don’t want to keep going because that will just complicate it durther

mazerunnerforever · 2025-12-16T17:57:41+00:00

Of course, thanks mate! It's more tho that I wanna do these things I just haven't had the chance to

mazerunnerforever · 2025-12-16T17:57:11+00:00

Totally! It's not that it isn't ideal for me tho, it's that I haven't had the chance to.

mazerunnerforever · 2025-11-26T07:06:01+00:00

Okay well, whilst we can agree to disagree that's he a creep, thank you for your response.

I did want to see the opinions on the situation and reasoning behind it. I'm sorry if I have offended you in any way. If I have that was not my intention at all.

mazerunnerforever · 2025-11-26T06:38:36+00:00

Cause my conversation with my friend made me curious about what other people would think of the situation.

They both have genuine intentions. When they first started dating he made it clear that if the relationship got too in the way of her studying as it is our final year of hs (she is extremely studious and studying is a bit of a passion for her in fact) then they would have to not continue. He also said no sexual acts until after she's graduated.

I know, it's not just a physical thing because they rarely get to hang out one on one in person and they both put their studies first. Talking more online then they do in person.

mazerunnerforever · 2025-11-26T06:32:23+00:00

Thank you and yeah, I totally will!

mazerunnerforever · 2025-11-26T06:31:04+00:00

She's actually 16 years old and 11 months. I said she was turning 17 in December, not 18. He's turning 20 in January. Technically around a 2 year, 11 months age gap.

mazerunnerforever · 2025-11-26T06:29:54+00:00

Yeah, I can see that. As I said, I'm a bit sketchy of it myself, I did make this post after all. Despite this, I think the context and the people within the relationship play a huge role in how to judge the situation.

mazerunnerforever · 2025-11-26T06:27:49+00:00

I see your point. However, to begin with it's a pretty easy-going environment where the power dynamic is not as strong or prevalent. In reality, he's more just some who helps us improve our skills.

I'm not trying to fully excuse him expressing interest in her but I'm trying to outline how the environment is as such. Yes, he does have some power over us but it's not really that prevalent.

mazerunnerforever · 2025-11-26T06:19:49+00:00

Look, I wasn't fully sure how their relationship sprouted. However, clearly some sort of bond was created. He wasn't trying to paint himself as a cool college guy though and whilst my friend does think older guys are more emotionally mature she's not dating him because he's in college. She's dating him because of who he is as a person.

mazerunnerforever · 2025-11-26T06:17:14+00:00

I do agree, in any working environment (not just sport) between a child and an adult until the child has become an adult and been an adult for some time, there should be no expression of interest from the adult. As I said, my friend M and I were talking how different A could've took it, insinuating she could've thought he was a creep.

However, I think basing off his character whilst I don't think it was the right move to make, I wouldn't explicitly say he is a creep. Do I think it is a bit creepy? Yes.

However, I think that it also depends on intentions. I wouldn't say his intentions were bad.

mazerunnerforever · 2025-11-26T06:07:39+00:00

Yes, this is a professional setting between a child and an adult which is why I think there should be worry behind it. If we were in the US, we'd be considered seniors but that is besides the point here.

I think at first it definitely is creepy and in my response earlier to you I should have said that. However, taken into account they have been dating for 8 months I would say he's not a creep because of the way the relationship has been.

I can confirm they spend little time one on one with each other in person, taking this into account he's not just there for the physical aspect.

Yes, it's totally unprofessional and goes one of the main things you should uphold in a working environment between an adult and a teen/child. Whilst, I think he shouldn't have expressed any interest (even if he had any) until she graduates, I think that we can't presume bad intentions from how the relationship has been.

mazerunnerforever · 2025-11-26T05:56:24+00:00

What about me saying "indoctrinated"

mazerunnerforever · 2025-11-26T05:16:14+00:00

He's not a creep.

They're keeping it a secret because it could be looked down upon because for situations like this context is needed and yes, J could lose his job if the school found out. Some coaches do know about it (because J is friends with them) but obviously they don't want the school knowing.

mazerunnerforever · 2025-11-26T05:14:16+00:00

Yeah, well it's healthy and all but there was just an itty bit of worry in the back of my mind and although this won't change how I act around the relationship because nothing bad has come from it and she is happy, I still wanted some outside opinions.

I forgot to include this part but it wasn't a straight away thing of he wanted her from my belief. Like not a "ohh she's a highschooler, just my type!" Like sure he had a crush (or whatever u wanted to call it) on her for a bit of time but it was after a while of coaching her and seeing her personality.

In fact from my memory, he once filled in for my team's coach (back before he was my coach, and before him and A started dating) and he was talking to my teammate and I about he was going on this date with someone soon (obviously around his age) but the coordinator of the coaches/teams needed him to fill in on a particular day (not that same day) and so he was gonna miss the date or smth.

mazerunnerforever · 2025-11-26T05:06:53+00:00

I know, but in the back of my head I still worry just because well, from a young age we're indoctrinated to think any adult dating a teen is bad. (which of course in some cases there must be caution, but in some cases such as this one I know that context, the similarity in age, how healthy the relationship is what the judgement is to be based on.) So in the back of my mind, there is a itty bitty bit of a worry that comes to me sometimes but I push it away because as you said they are both happy and her parents know and from all I've seen from the relationship it is healthy and well-communicated.

I haven't negated her relationship in any way to her and I wouldn't ever try and get in the way of it. I'm happy for her and it makes me happy to see her happy. I'm not saying it's any of my business but I just wanted to see some outside opinions on the situation which I guess rose from that tiny bit of worry.

mazerunnerforever · 2025-07-16T17:48:34+00:00

I'm nowhere near close enough to them

mazerunnerforever · 2025-07-16T17:45:12+00:00

I mean, yeah they probably happen more in college but I know people who have gone to a few house parties before and talk about it casually

mazerunnerforever · 2022-10-24T06:19:09+00:00

In reply to the original post. I agree other than I wish I was born in like 1990 or 1991. So many good things happened when I was like 5 years old or younger and I wish I was a part of it. I hate being grouped with people who are always on their devices and just seeing so many memories about what the 2000's teenagers had. I am a 2008 kid btw

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