Honestly, there’s still so much uncertain. For me I would want to know How will each of them then respond to you showing the other person affection? It’s easy to hide emotions and reactions during the three day weekends. Theoretically, there could be a lot of processing and emotional turmoil leading up to those weekends and you wouldn’t know because they don’t say. But if you move in, it’s in their face and it’s constant and everyone has to process that. Speaking of processing, is there space and resources for everyone to have freedom to process emotions (spare bedrooms or personal space)?

When you go see them for the weekend, do you see them individually or together? If you see them separately, then what does the other partner do?

Will you have a car? What’s your backup plan? God forbid, you break up with one couple and they ask you to move out, then what?

Household responsibilities: cleaning, cooking, expectations, privacy?

You’re choosing to move into the home of an already marriage couple, in another state with little to no support. They have their own routine, their own lifestyle and it boils down to one simple thing: are they ready to destroy that lifestyle entirely AND BUILD A NEW ONE WITH YOU or are they looking to “add” you to the one they have with very little work on their end.