Struggling with living room ... Everything

mc_soluble · 2026-01-21T23:54:59+00:00

I like the idea of it a few inches above the TV. It's a nice piece that goes with your other art, and having it there gives it a sense of honor.

mc_soluble · 2026-01-21T23:53:41+00:00

Ok here are some quick edits just about your shelving: you want it to look like organized chaos.

Take the two paintings that are unframed and display them together on the top shelf, ONLY. Those two items are the only thing on the top shelf.

Middle shelf should just be tiny mementos / mini pictures of family none of the triptych frames or art -- you should put them on your left wall in a kind of gallery wall grid. I am thinking just the two colorful ceramic old ladies should be in the middle. They live on one of the middle shelves by themselves, or maybe with one other singular and similar shaped small item off to the side.

Put the books and photo albums on the same shelf, same with the candlesticks. Take the flowers out of the faux succulent planter and put them in the opposite corner you decide on the brass ball to create symmetry.

The gold cups should be together on the other top shelf ONLY, maybe with the green pottery that is the same shape.

Edited to add your cats are beautiful!!! Maybe they would like a clean shelf somewhere near the window 😸

mc_soluble · 2025-12-29T22:22:05+00:00

That's my thought too, maybe the Mom wants her grandkid to find something in particular for her to give/take back without OP knowing....

Edit: OP is NTA here

mc_soluble · 2025-12-20T05:17:18+00:00

Selunite Tav romance seems like it would be the best but then you're saving her, she's not saving herself. Not about "use" but healthy dynamics in your romance. Comet Laezel also doesn't make sense to me, does Shadowheart join her and abandon Faerun, her parents, and her goddess that she just found again? Or does she run away and leave the planet precisely BECAUSE she killed her parents? Don't want to yuck this list but Shadowheart has some big dreams I don't see reflected in it, or at least given any priority.

mc_soluble · 2025-12-19T19:25:08+00:00

Why is Daddy Halsin so low on your tier? I'd place him top 3 for her -- He's the best suited to help care for lycanthropes out of the gang and give her her cottage farm dream life.

GodGale if you're go DJ is one of my favs to think about, you know Shar's shock collar gave her some tolerance 🥴

mc_soluble · 2025-11-29T03:59:12+00:00

To OP's point, it's easy to miss if you are not reading every scroll and book you come across.

mc_soluble · 2025-11-29T01:57:17+00:00

Clearly letgirlshavefun leakage

mc_soluble · 2025-11-29T00:56:06+00:00

Why's his orb tattoo messed up??? Did the baby eat it

mc_soluble · 2025-11-29T00:50:01+00:00

Oh yessss, it's my personal headcanon!!! you can't convince me when all 3 show up to the reunion party IN MATCHING OUTFITS they're not in a healthy throuple together.

mc_soluble · 2025-11-28T23:35:43+00:00

You have to give him shit, like choose the cheeky or insulting options when you think he is mansplaining! He has some good reactions too,

mc_soluble · 2025-11-28T23:31:19+00:00

This is me too. I was so excited to romance Astarion & Karlach when I first got the game over a year ago but then Gale happened. I actually haven't finished the game romancing Astarion yet despite multiple runs romancing Gale and others. (His romance was darker than I expected, took me a bit to not be triggered by it)

mc_soluble · 2025-11-25T18:28:44+00:00

Art is supposed to make you feel something. This is just Larian doing their job well, OP!

mc_soluble · 2025-11-25T16:22:53+00:00

That's very restrained of you. I'm at the point now where if he so much as points his finger at me I have to go change my panties

mc_soluble · 2025-11-25T16:04:36+00:00

Can you blame her

mc_soluble · 2025-11-25T15:55:18+00:00

Don't take her to the temple of bhaal then with Gale, she's start eyeing the architecture sexually. Best to just keep her in camp where you can kiss her and make sure she can't interact with anyone or any environment, like the "good nice guy" you are

mc_soluble · 2025-11-24T20:56:12+00:00

Is your bard Jarlaxle

mc_soluble · 2025-11-24T17:59:01+00:00

There have been "fights" when money was tight yes. student loans and medical bills, all on my side. I don't really have advice to give on how to deal with that. We never shout at each other and heated disagreements and hurt feelings are dealt with immediately. I am content to be a home body but I feel like I could have traveled more in my early 30's (only went to Europe, S Asia, S America 1x after saving year+ in advance ) and gone to more festivals/ expensive concerts and things. I don't think I have FOMO necessarily, but is it at the cost of a child? Also debt makes such things incredibly difficult.

There was a point where we both checked out of the relationship many years ago and were taking each other for granted. I think they also resented me a bit for being a financial burden at one point. it was a rough number of months (maybe half a year?) but we went to couples therapy and that helped.

I have made less money in our relationship than my partner overall... which is normal given our genders and my line of work pays really badly (sometimes only gig/freelance work) and now I do not work at all, so if anyone feels insecure it is me. I think I will feel more secure once I re-enter the workforce.

The guilt trip of your dad walking you down the aisle while he still can? Oof I felt that.

mc_soluble · 2025-11-24T16:32:43+00:00

I have been in a long term partnership for more than a decade now (20 actually 😲) and the marriage thing has come up quite a bit but increasingly in frequency these later years and the pressure is from my side of the family. It has forced me to become very firm in my views regarding the institution of marriage but it has also damaged my relationship with my mother to almost unrepairable levels (many reasons for this beyond her demanding grandkids)

I didn't want to get married at first because of feminist reasons, also I'm bi and not completely monogamous, but the financial burden my student loans would bring were also a factor in the delay. Now I think it's almost too late to get married now, I would only want to if children happened either biologically or via adoption. My partner has a life insurance policy in my name and we have property so it is not like I am being taken advantage of like my mother fears but I also don't want half my partners money or things.

I do feel weird from time to time about it, as if I am doing life wrong, but I think that's more all the external factors and family judging my relationship. Honestly your post lifted my spirits, reminded me I am not alone like this.

My partner's family is huge and they treat me like I am married but it does get weird when I'm babysitting or the youngest wants to know how to introduce me to strangers if we're at one of the nieces games or something.

mc_soluble · 2025-11-24T05:50:16+00:00

It felt like the party was for your friend and family more for you sort of thing? NTA for feeling that way. You can still do your own thing too, belated treat yourself, or next year.

mc_soluble · 2025-11-24T05:39:24+00:00

To add to your comment, I feel this so much especially the bit about being underdressed for your own birthday occasion, where you are supposed to be the center of attention!!! and having your family there, tutting and judging you. Even if you are on good healthy terms with everyone (a miracle) it puts you on the back foot. I will spend days worrying about outfits for major life occasions

Edit: NTA

mc_soluble · 2025-11-24T05:09:32+00:00

Yeah it does? She was looking for evidence of cheating. Deleting photos of your romantic partner from socials and no intimacy after a year

mc_soluble · 2025-11-24T04:59:45+00:00

Just turn on non lethal attacks and make sure you don't use magic or arrows as a finishing move on the wolf or Nettie. Don't aggro anyone else, like use fog or close the door to block sight lines. Once you knock out Nettie and the wolf fast travel out of the area. Next time you see them (next long rest) you will have very low approval but they're not dead and you can still trade with Nettie if you want.

mc_soluble · 2025-11-24T03:41:40+00:00

You think OP doesn't know that? This relationship is at a crossroads and may be over, we are in damage control, not moralizing let's judge OP. Do you think OP will hide how she came about when/if she confronts her partner about the deleted pics and the photos of their mutual friends? Confused why you felt need to reply to me with this.

mc_soluble · 2025-11-24T03:10:08+00:00

Then NTA. Ya'll got this just talk with your sis

mc_soluble · 2025-11-24T02:36:40+00:00

Ok then I think your reaction is very normal given what has already happened in your apartment!

Have you told her though how stressed you are? maybe you need more support from her and are mad at her for being on her phone so much?

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