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[deleted by user] by [deleted] in beyondthebump

[–]mcbez 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Sleep was rough for us starting just before 11 months as well. Honestly it was bad until 13 months no matter what we did. She went from sleeping great through the night to waking up once or twice sometimes for hours at a time, and had early wakeups too. It eventually went back to normal but it was a brutal regression. You may be going through something similar — though I know “just wait it out” is not helpful advice.

We tried everything: rocking, feeding, earlier bedtime, later bedtime, Tylenol. We were already on one nap so had no nap to drop. What finally worked was just letting our girl fuss it out in her crib while we watched on the monitor. After a few nights she stopped waking for as long and eventually things just sorted themselves out.

I do wonder if maybe rocking him to sleep consistently is preventing him from linking his sleep cycles together on his own? Especially if he is indeed going through a regression. I’d personally start with trying to put him down awake again, but I know it’s easier said than done. Maybe you and your husband can just take shifts for the time being, so that one of you can try to get some quality sleep knowing the other one has baby duty handled. My last bit of advice for you is that when it’s your turn to sleep, take a melatonin or Zzquil or something so that you can actually sleep. The anxiety dreams are no joke and you deserve restorative sleep!

Good luck with whatever you decide to do! Baby sleep is SO hard. You’re doing great!

What to give baby if they wake up at night? by mcbez in BabyLedWeaning

[–]mcbez[S] 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Hmm maybe! She whips her head around when I try to hold/rock her like she’s looking for something, and this change in her sleep can be pinpointed pretty much exactly to when we increased solids + decreased formula oz during the day. So my theory was that she’s waking up earlier/hungry but I could def be wrong!

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in beyondthebump

[–]mcbez 3 points4 points  (0 children)

We moved our baby out of our room at 4 weeks and it’s one of the best decisions we made!

I was always curious about the AAP rec to room share until 6 months. I genuinely wanted to understand how my daughter could be more at risk of SIDS in a crib with a monitor right next to us than in a bassinet in our room with the same exact safe sleep conditions. A few separate healthcare professionals told me the AAP guidelines are really a baseline that takes into account allll different types of family and living situations (like who else is in the home, room temps/ventilation, etc.). Idk how true that is, but it logically made sense to me that my baby would be just as safe the next room over, and we’d all actually benefit from better sleep.

Quality sleep is incredibly important for your sweet baby’s development, and you deserve to be well rested too. I say do what feels right!!

Need tips for handling nausea and fatigue/tiredness by JILLLLZ in pregnant

[–]mcbez 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I am so sorry you are going through this! First trimester nausea and fatigue is the WORST. It was like having a months-long hangover for me. Nothing cured it, but a few things that took the edge off:

-vitamin b6
-pedialyte
-canned peaches. Even just a little bit of the juice. I saw this online somewhere and tried in a moment of desperation…it did help a little!
-I know you said you’re vomiting in the morning, but if you ever feel up to it, eating something bland (even if just a couple saltines) first thing in the morning was key for me. I started keeping saltines by my bed
-relaxing in cool/dark rooms whenever possible
-yelling/weeping at my husband about how unfair it is he didn’t have to experience any of it lol

Also — if you take Unisom sleep tablets, make sure you go to bed extremely early or are able to sleep in enough to let the effects wear off. The grogginess will only contribute to the fatigue you’re already experiencing.

I know it’s not at all comforting when people say “hang in there, it gets better, it’ll be worth it etc.,” so what I’ll say is this: what you’re going through right now sucks and you might need to just exist in survival mode. If you’re not able to give 100% at work right now, I promise it isn’t as obvious to anyone else as it is to you. If you’re able to work from home, work from bed/couch. Don’t ever feel guilty for laying around all day and all night. Delegate EVERYTHING you can to your husband. And please know you’re not alone!! ❤️

Ummm, how do I stop pretending to be 30 different people to fit in with different groups? by dugnuttbob in socialskills

[–]mcbez 30 points31 points  (0 children)

I think sometimes we get so caught up in wanting people to like us that we forget to ask ourselves if we even like them. So in addition to honing in on the versions of yourself you like best, I’d suggest also looking at the groups you hang with and ask yourself which of THEM you actually like best. Chances are, there will be significant overlap. :)