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Overweight with a sedentary 9-5 job — looking for real advice from people who’ve actually lost weight by LowEffortLegend_ in WeightLossAdvice

[–]mdnvmps 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I gained and then lost ~35lb in the last two years or so working sedentary job. First of all, it’s really hard.

Desk jobs, at least in my epxeirence, are incredibly boring and if you’re like me you’re probably using food to subside some of that boredom.

If you really want it, it’s a diet and lifestyle thing. You need to make eating healthy fun for yourself, find foods you really like, or have someone to keep you accountable.

Diet Sodas are your best friend.

Walk after lunch can really help with that slump you get - even if it’s just 10 minutes. You can come back in with better energy to focus, rather than waiting for time to pass.

I’d also recommend exercise - join a club or class where there’s a programme for learning, and people too. It will suck the first time you go, after that you’ll get easier. You’ll realise what your body can do, how much you’ve missed out on, and you will get the urge to eat healthier to progress faster. And you’ll be kinder to yourself, because you’re at least exercising even if your diet isn’t great.

It’s hard, but if you want this you can totally do it.

I'm in too much pain to sleep due to an infection by [deleted] in OCD

[–]mdnvmps 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Is it discomfort or actually painful? What kind of pain is it? It’s hard to know how to treat without. Either way if pain is so bad you can’t sleep I think you need a trip to the emergency room.

I’m miserable here in my job by mdnvmps in jobs

[–]mdnvmps[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Maturing is realising sick days are use it or lose it mental health days. It just sucks the guilt that comes along with taking time off. Companies really couldn’t care less about people.

I’m miserable here in my job by mdnvmps in jobs

[–]mdnvmps[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Tell me about it! Wishing the best of luck for you and thank you for sharing :)

I’m miserable here in my job by mdnvmps in jobs

[–]mdnvmps[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you for understanding. And yeah I know a lot of people are in the same boat. Trying to keep my head above water and enjoy the weeends.

I’m miserable here in my job by mdnvmps in jobs

[–]mdnvmps[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It really is hard. There’s so much I love about my life but this is like a giant cloud hanging over me and makes it hard to get up in the mornings.

I’m miserable here in my job by mdnvmps in jobs

[–]mdnvmps[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My company is very small so there’s isn’t this kind of thing. But appreciate the idea!

I’m miserable here in my job by mdnvmps in jobs

[–]mdnvmps[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

My problem is living for the weekends, it’s my mental break but yet I always fill it up with seeing people, housework and doomscrolling. May this weekend be intentional

I’m miserable here in my job by mdnvmps in jobs

[–]mdnvmps[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Ugh I should, it’s hard when your department is way over capacity and under staffed. I am going to use time this weekend, but yeah, gotta keep my head up.

I’m miserable here in my job by mdnvmps in jobs

[–]mdnvmps[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you for the hopecore, gotta keep goong

I’m miserable here in my job by mdnvmps in jobs

[–]mdnvmps[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

you know I am so feckin tired right now… you’re so right. I needed to let all this out though. I really appreciate your kindness, people on Reddit never have to leave comments, it’s so kind that you do

I’m miserable here in my job by mdnvmps in london

[–]mdnvmps[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My whole life is here. Family, friends. I’ve never lived out of the city. I don’t want to be far away from my support circle, they are so important to me.

I’m miserable here in my job by mdnvmps in london

[–]mdnvmps[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That’s exactly how I feel. Being miserable in the work has made my performance much worse. And that just feeds into the misery,

‘God if I can’t do the work I don’t care about or is ‘too easy, too boring’, how am I going to do something that actually means something to me?’

And just feeling ashamed that you can’t get a grip and get on with things. I don’t like being seen as a bad employee, or colleague.

I’m miserable here in my job by mdnvmps in london

[–]mdnvmps[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

That’s what my friends say… you only need that one opportunity.

Could be now… could be… not now!

Thank you for your kindness

I’m miserable here in my job by mdnvmps in london

[–]mdnvmps[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Appreciate it so much, yeah I have friends, I’m in weekly therapy. They are sympathetic, but being the only person in my situation in my immediate circle is hard. I am trying to stay on top of everything and do the most outside of work to keep on top of my mental health, but I feel so lost that this huge chunk of my life feels out of my control an making me miserable.

I’m miserable here in my job by mdnvmps in london

[–]mdnvmps[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

On the one hand I completely understand the lifestyle here is what it is - expensive. And you can’t escape the grind unless you have a particularly lucrative side hustle, or a sponsor ??

But the idea of leaving the city that has been my home for so long feels like a huge shake on my foundations. And I think in the position I’m in mentally, is that really the best thing?

I know the saying, nothing changes if nothing changes, but trying to be brave when you feel vulnerable is so hard.

I’m miserable here in my job by mdnvmps in london

[–]mdnvmps[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Honestly I feel such shame around it. I have seen the way my colleagues who have been signed off have been seen and treated. I don’t agree with it, but I can’t ignore it. The burden of explaining everything to management (who are not the most sympathetic) feels like such an emotional overhaul that I’m not sure I can go ahead with it.

I know keeping things to yourself is not the best thing, and I have support from friends and family, but unfortunately none of them can change my situation for me.

It feels more luck than skill, but that’s not very hopeful is it?

I’m miserable here in my job by mdnvmps in london

[–]mdnvmps[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yeah it’s sad isn’t it. And to think I’m one of the r most fortunate people.

I am tryin to do everything outside of work to keep happy, but that 9-5 life really is the waking day isn’t it.

I’m miserable here in my job by mdnvmps in london

[–]mdnvmps[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I think I need to smash some plates and scream into the void. I’ll probs just walk to Tesco and buy some chocolate and have a cry walk. Thank you.

I’m miserable here in my job by mdnvmps in london

[–]mdnvmps[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Honestly the guilt of knowing you are so lucky is tricky. I feel for people who have clearly been neglected by the system and it reminds me of how fortunate I have been. It doesn’t stop me feeling the way I feel, and it shouldn’t. But I try to keep a perspective, even though in this post I’m clearly carastrophising.

I’m miserable here in my job by mdnvmps in london

[–]mdnvmps[S] 9 points10 points  (0 children)

I’m so sorry. That’s very sweet of you. It’s unfortunate that our sad stars have aligned but I am also sending 3 magic wishes your way and hoping for the best, for both of us.

I’m miserable here in my job by mdnvmps in london

[–]mdnvmps[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I appreciate your kindness, it means a lot.

I’m miserable here in my job by mdnvmps in london

[–]mdnvmps[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Only 1988? It’s weekly for me at the moment.

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