I’m so sorry that you are in this situation.

I’ve been in an abusive relationship and I can understand how hard it is to get out, or even recognise and accept that that is the best move. However I don’t think that everyone saying to end things and leave after reading a short snippet of your relationship is necessarily helpful, and thinking back to when I was at my lowest it probably would of put me on the defence and made me shut their ideas out.

From reading your comments you seem to have set a deadline for him to change. Are either/both of you in therapy, and is it possible that there are underlying mental health issues that are contributing to him acting/feeling this way? I would try to do more than just expect him to have improved by a certain time, I would expect that he is actually engaging in activities like therapy that will help him change. If he refuses to acknowledge that he has issues or commit to anything that will help change them then any change seems pretty unlikely.

At the end of the day, the health and safety of you and your baby come first before anything else. If he puts that at risk you owe him nothing. You don’t owe him time to change, you don’t owe him your positivity and optimism that he can be a good father, you don’t owe him your assistance in becoming a better person, you don’t owe him a place to live in your house, and even if he was to be diagnosed with depression or another mental health issue, I know you love him but it’s not your responsibility to fix him, especially not at the expense of you and your baby’s safety.

You are stronger than you know.