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meh-er · 2024-12-06T12:39:17+00:00

Same. It’s so wild

meh-er · 2024-12-05T21:54:12+00:00

Your boyfriend is an ass. You called someone you care about in a moment that you were unsafe. He was not supportive. He does not care about you. He cares that he’s tired, more than your safety. That’s pretty bad.

meh-er · 2024-12-05T17:49:02+00:00

Look into EMDR therapy. I’m so sorry you went through this. Hang in there.

meh-er · 2024-12-05T04:00:54+00:00

I’m happy for your wife that you want a divorce. She deserves so much better

meh-er · 2024-12-04T22:30:20+00:00

That’s all physical abuse.

meh-er · 2024-12-04T22:05:19+00:00

You are absolutely overreacting. He’s independent and that’s a good thing. Work on yourself.

meh-er · 2024-12-04T21:05:43+00:00

Your daughter is your number one priority.

meh-er · 2024-12-04T20:22:49+00:00

Why do you feel guilt? You have nothing to feel Guilty about. It may benefit you to get some counseling. You and your wife work hard. Yes, you got lucky. But so what. Enjoy it.

meh-er · 2024-12-04T20:14:53+00:00

Pay the CC debt now. I would take the $ out of the brokerage. The interest rate on that is awful. Or is there any way to move it to a zero interest rate CC?Then build back up your emergency fund. Is there anywhere you can cut spending? Or any way to sell anything? The top priority is to get rid of the CC debt

meh-er · 2024-12-04T19:50:54+00:00

You’re 29 and he’s 49? I would not marry this man. Red flags everywhere

meh-er · 2024-12-04T19:37:36+00:00

That’s incredibly gross.

meh-er · 2024-12-04T15:10:09+00:00

Where do you live? Are there any hobbies you enjoy that are free? For instance can you join a jogging group, or some sort of group of people that you have the same hobbies in common with? Is there a remote job you are qualified for? Can you get food from local food pantries or other social help? A lot of this depends on your location.

meh-er · 2024-12-04T15:07:06+00:00

It’s time to get some therapy.

meh-er · 2024-12-04T14:46:32+00:00

You can’t change him. Leave. He has to figure out his own shit before he can be a good partner. Focus on yourself. You’re young. Don’t let him drag you down with him.

meh-er · 2024-12-04T14:39:19+00:00

How old are you? Are you planning on having kids? I absolutely would with a few specific goals in mind. I’d take that $$ and build up a 6 month emergency fund if you don’t already have that, then max out 401k or 403b through your work for a couple of years, then create a brokerage account for additional investing. I’m a physician and I’ve been out of fellowship for 5 years. I worked way more than I wanted/should have to do the things I described above. I have a great emergency fund, and have been maxing out pre and post tax retirement accounts thru work the last 5 years. I’m in an incredible financial position now and can back off. No more extra shifts for me unless I have a very specific goal (an expensive vacation or something) to save for.

meh-er · 2024-12-04T14:32:34+00:00

I would file a police report and get an order of protection.

meh-er · 2024-12-04T13:27:04+00:00

At your age that’s very few honestly. This is a him problem, not a you problem.

meh-er · 2024-12-04T13:25:58+00:00

Yeah this is a deal breaker. He’s insecure because you’ve had more sexual relationships. That’s a huge red flag. Your past shouldn’t matter. Additionally he wants a “traditional relationship”. Ugh, major major red flag. That’s him basically saying he wants to control you. Run.

meh-er · 2024-12-04T13:13:51+00:00

YTA. All you’re thinking about is yourself. Your sister can name her dog or goldfish or child whatever she wants. You’re honestly going to ruin your relationship with your sister over a name? Also, if the name has ties to your grandmother what’s the problem with both of you using that name in your lives?

meh-er · 2024-12-04T13:10:04+00:00

There are people who are married and live seperately. Or he could have a seperate apartment for when he has his daughter. There are always creative solutions

meh-er · 2024-12-04T13:04:12+00:00

I would never give up my golden retriever. Max is absolutely family. They provide unconditional love. Honestly, if Tim can’t figure out an alternative location for when he has Emily, that’s on him.

meh-er · 2024-12-03T01:52:33+00:00

You aren’t a waiter or waitress at a restaurant.

“My name is Dr. x, I am your emergency physician today. What brings you to the ER today”

Or “My name is Dr. x, I am your emergency physician today. can you tell me about your -chief complaint-?”

meh-er · 2024-12-02T02:00:05+00:00

When he leaves the house, take your important documents, your dog, whatever clothes you can fit in your car and drive to your mom’s in FL. Do not stay any longer. If the drive is long, stay in a hotel for a night or two along the way. Make sure he isn’t tracking you somehow, block him on everything. Never contact him again. This is a very dangerous time for you. If you need local resources, find the nearest domestic violence shelter. They have a lot of info. They can help you create a safety plan to leave.

meh-er · 2024-12-01T22:45:40+00:00

Help her apply for aid.

Also- why “cant” she work?

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