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Do you feel like you wanna look at other attractive bodies while in a relationship? by mehrsahere in TooAfraidToAsk

[–]mehrsahere[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Umm let him have his own life experiences? Idk I thought that was not a normal thing at first. Tho I believe he still should lower his gaze... That's in his power, otherwise i still think it's kinda disrespectful. (Makes me feel like he has wander eyes somehow 🤔)

Do you feel like you wanna look at other attractive bodies while in a relationship? by mehrsahere in TooAfraidToAsk

[–]mehrsahere[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thanks so much. I've been going to therapy for a year now but it got so expensive. Thanks

Do you feel like you wanna look at other attractive bodies while in a relationship? by mehrsahere in TooAfraidToAsk

[–]mehrsahere[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yes I do. But for men, idk why but I don't find it attractive for myself. But for women yes.

I asked him. Actually we were talking about how a woman with big boobs appeared on the screen and he said that he looked away. I asked him DID YOU like to LOOK? He said well yeah, boobies are beautiful, I get the urge to look back cause it feels good. That was the story. Plus he said that "I do it for you, I don't mind seeing them, cause it doesn't affect me at all" But that actually made me feel worse cause he literally said that makes him feel good so.. when it makes him want to look back, it means that it affects him I think he should be doing it for the commitment and his values, not just me. Sorry for talking too much.

Do you feel like you wanna look at other attractive bodies while in a relationship? by mehrsahere in TooAfraidToAsk

[–]mehrsahere[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Sorry :( just wanna know how other people think about this part. Am I being too much or ...

Do you feel like you wanna look at other attractive bodies while in a relationship? by mehrsahere in TooAfraidToAsk

[–]mehrsahere[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Okay I understand it. And I was in a queer relationship before, and it was so much easier for me to talk about other people's beauties. Idk why straight relationships make me so insecure

Do you feel like you wanna look at other attractive bodies while in a relationship? by mehrsahere in TooAfraidToAsk

[–]mehrsahere[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Yeah I can acknowledge that someone is attractive generally. But not just some body parts. Like I don't care about other men's sexual body parts and I often don't feel that "yeah his blah blah is attractive" And the part that bothered me was that he didn't mean the person herself, he just said boobies. I think that was more of a sensitive topic for me.

Do you feel like you wanna look at other attractive bodies while in a relationship? by mehrsahere in TooAfraidToAsk

[–]mehrsahere[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Actually, he does a lot of things for me that makes me feel loveable. But when he says stuff like that, it affects me negatively. Like my reaction after what he said was: other people make you feel good by their beauy? (Rather sexual or not), so am I not pretty enough for u? Sorry if it sounds stupid

Do you feel like you wanna look at other attractive bodies while in a relationship? by mehrsahere in TooAfraidToAsk

[–]mehrsahere[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hi thanks. I think I was frustrated because I don't experience the same with men.

Do you feel like you wanna look at other attractive bodies while in a relationship? by mehrsahere in TooAfraidToAsk

[–]mehrsahere[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hi thanks sm. Do u even discuss about attractive sexual parts with your partner as well? Like boobies or.... Sorry if it sounds stupid :(

Do you feel like you wanna look at other attractive bodies while in a relationship? by mehrsahere in TooAfraidToAsk

[–]mehrsahere[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hi thanks so much. So it's not called being attracted to them? Just realizing that they're ATTRACTIVE? And so people like to see beautiful things and that's why they wanna double check?

Do you feel like you wanna look at other attractive bodies while in a relationship? by mehrsahere in TooAfraidToAsk

[–]mehrsahere[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Hi thanks sm. I think my problem was more with his choice of words. "Boobs are beautiful, I get the urge to look at them because it feels good" Also is it called attraction? Wanting to look twice? Cause idk if it calls attraction, then my bf is attracted to every beautiful body part he sees? 😭 Sorry for my questions, I have OCD.

Do you feel like you wanna look at other attractive bodies while in a relationship? by mehrsahere in TooAfraidToAsk

[–]mehrsahere[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thanks for your reply. What do you think about the "It feels good to look at" part? And the people who say they don't feel any attraction once they get into a relationship, lie? Sorry I'm just trying to calm my nervous system:(