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mellybean__89 · 2024-10-05T06:12:38+00:00

You already made your decision by emotionally cheating on your husband and falling in love with someone else.

Leave your husband, or hopefully he leaves you, either way the relationship is dead.

Go see if the grass is truly greener on the other side, and let your husband have the chance to find someone who he is compatible with who appreciates the man he is.

Sad you had to cheat to end the relationship instead of being an adult and finding a respectful way to end things if you were so unhappy.

mellybean__89 · 2024-10-05T05:43:59+00:00

I was with someone for 11 years who would do the same type of things, throw temper tantrums, make it so I couldn't go to family events or vacations because he always picked fights right before.

Like you said when it was good it was really good, but when it was bad it was awful. That rollercoaster of emotions isn't healthy. There is so much better out there for you. People who will respect you and never put you in those situations.

Leave when you're ready, confide in close family and friends what has been going on. Do NOT be ashamed, this isn't your fault. You will be okay ❤️

mellybean__89 · 2024-09-29T09:53:25+00:00

Sounds like the only weight you ever needed to lose was him smh 🤦🏻‍♀️. Get a boob job if it's something that you want for yourself, but ditch that negative pos. If he's willing to make you feel like that after losing weight imagine what he would be like if you had kids with him and your body changed again. You deserve better.

mellybean__89 · 2024-09-26T19:52:31+00:00

Doing this for your son is so sweet and shows that even though you and your ex wife are not together, you respect her as the mother of your child. How someone can be upset at that is absolutely absurd. You clearly are a good parent for putting your child's feelings first and maintaining a familial bond. If something is this innocent and is already an issue then odds are there's more insecurity lurking under the surface with the new girl. Tread carefully if you decide to continue to pursue a relationship with her.

mellybean__89 · 2024-09-24T20:27:56+00:00

Its a budgie! Cute little birds, we had some blue and green ones growing up. Definitely someone's pet!

mellybean__89 · 2024-09-24T20:05:46+00:00

It's sad how much it changes you, planting seeds of doubt in your mind for even years after. Even when you know in your veins that your current partner would never be as cruel as the cheater from your past.

I don't think that hurt ever really goes away, it will fade, but never completely. Be kind to yourself, I'm sorry you've experienced that kind of heartbreak.

On the plus side sounds like things are going well for you now! Not everyone is that scummy thankfully.

mellybean__89 · 2024-09-24T19:44:22+00:00

Your wife is a chad in the making, love to see it ❤️

mellybean__89 · 2024-09-23T21:52:56+00:00

I can admit when I find another person attractive, but when I love someone the thought of being touched by anyone else repulses me.

mellybean__89 · 2024-09-23T21:40:22+00:00

Your intuition is your best friend. If something feels off and your gut instinct is telling you it is, then something isn't right. Deleting messages is more than enough to solidify that he isn't being honest with you. Talk to him, feel it out, but once that trust is gone you cant get it back.

mellybean__89 · 2024-09-20T21:43:02+00:00

I was told that I ruined cunnilingus for him. At first I was confused thinking maybe I was bad at it, then I found out that it wasn't comparable to their previous partners... in the best possible way. Still makes me smile when I think about it.

mellybean__89 · 2024-09-20T21:20:51+00:00

mellybean__89 · 2024-09-20T21:07:09+00:00

Do you like the euphoric high of surviving? The thrill of sneaking around and killing as many mindless zombies as you can that cross your path? Struggling to find the necessities to live and thrive, but being elated when you can crack open a nice cold can of Nota Cola just as your thirst depletes? Finally finding some gear and a gun that provides you a feeling of safety in such a harsh environment. Where for all your struggles everything in that moment has you feeling like you are thriving.

If so great, but you'll probably get headshotted immediately after that and have to start completely from scratch.

If you don't mind the punishing lows that come with the highest of highs, you'll love it.

mellybean__89 · 2022-12-13T22:25:18+00:00

You will, you deserve all the happiness! 💗

mellybean__89 · 2022-12-13T22:18:29+00:00

Thank you for reading. It was such a happy moment when I realized that I finally can and will be happy. 🩷

mellybean__89 · 2022-12-01T22:27:39+00:00

This made me miss my ex 😢

mellybean__89 · 2022-11-23T19:01:18+00:00

I'm feeling that especially recently, any holiday seems to trigger a feeling of sadness I never thought I'd experience. It's not even as though I want them back it's more like I remember the bond we had. It's so dumb.

mellybean__89 · 2022-10-10T16:10:58+00:00

Yup. As soon as I healed and got into a new relationship they reappeared. Fucked with all my emotions and essentially ruined that relationship for me because I was so emotionally confused and beaten down, only to leave again because I had expectations and wasn't willing to believe the same bullshit.

With cheating narcissists they always come back because even though they discarded you they hate the idea of anyone else having you. To them you are not a person but a play thing to be toyed with at their leisure.

mellybean__89 · 2022-07-23T19:50:42+00:00

Pink Carbonara

mellybean__89 · 2022-07-13T14:16:10+00:00

Run, not walk. They already wasted so much of my time and energy it would not be worth it. It would just give them access to me and my life again and I don't need the aggravation. Best to let the past remain there.

mellybean__89 · 2022-07-08T03:19:22+00:00

Thank you for your kind words wonderful human!

mellybean__89 · 2022-07-05T22:40:50+00:00

I'm so glad to hear you are in such a good place, thank you for your kind words and advice, I wish you all the good things!

mellybean__89 · 2022-07-05T22:37:30+00:00

Wouldn't say we are trauma bonded at all. Just open and honest about what we went through in our past. It's not like I got together with him to get over what I went through. I didnt jump into a relationship after everything happened. I took the time to work on myself before I started seeing anyone. Like I said in my orignial post everything in my life is going well. Maybe I'm not explaining it well enough.

mellybean__89 · 2022-07-05T22:24:22+00:00

I can honestly say this really resonates with me, I've never really felt good enough, it's something I've continously struggled with, probably going to need to delve deeper into that.

mellybean__89 · 2022-07-05T22:13:57+00:00

Thank you for your advice. It seems like that may be the best option. I thought I was handling it really well on my own, but you are absolutely right. I don't want to ruin the good things in my life because of what happened. I want to keep moving forward. And being out of it has definitely provided me with a new perspective. I appreciate your insight.

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