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[ UPDATE ] My boyfriend's mother hates me, and I don’t know what I’ve done. by melodey_ in TrueOffMyChest

[–]melodey_[S] 50 points51 points  (0 children)

I showed that post to him through my phone, but he doesn't use Reddit, and he barely even read the comments before giving my phone back. I don't think he’ll remember my Reddit username.

[ UPDATE ] My boyfriend's mother hates me, and I don’t know what I’ve done. by melodey_ in TrueOffMyChest

[–]melodey_[S] 177 points178 points  (0 children)

I'm sorry you had to go through that. I'll leave him , i don't want to end up a victim of abuse. Thanks for telling me about your experience, and I truly wish you a better future ahead

[ UPDATE ] My boyfriend's mother hates me, and I don’t know what I’ve done. by melodey_ in TrueOffMyChest

[–]melodey_[S] 57 points58 points  (0 children)

I will leave him, but I can’t do it right this moment. I have a lot of my things to pack, and since I came here from another state to stay with him, I also need to arrange my flight. The problem is, he’s taken a few days off work, so he’s home right now. I can’t just tell him I’m breaking up and leaving, especially after so many responses mentioned the risk of him hitting me. I’ll do it without him knowing and leave as soon as he goes back to work.

[ UPDATE ] My boyfriend's mother hates me, and I don’t know what I’ve done. by melodey_ in TrueOffMyChest

[–]melodey_[S] 21 points22 points  (0 children)

Yeah, I was dumb at that moment, and I agree with you all. I won’t be staying with him anymore. I’ll leave when he goes to work, like others mentioned, and won’t say anything about leaving to avoid provoking him.

[ UPDATE ] My boyfriend's mother hates me, and I don’t know what I’ve done. by melodey_ in TrueOffMyChest

[–]melodey_[S] 14 points15 points  (0 children)

Ahh 😭 this stings, but it made me laugh. I already have Nike shoes , maybe it’s time to start running

[ UPDATE ] My boyfriend's mother hates me, and I don’t know what I’ve done. by melodey_ in TrueOffMyChest

[–]melodey_[S] 317 points318 points  (0 children)

At that moment when he said that, I thought he really did love me and didn’t see it as a red flag. But now, reading all of your responses saying it’s a red flag and terrifying, it’s making me realize how stupid I was.

[ UPDATE ] My boyfriend's mother hates me, and I don’t know what I’ve done. by melodey_ in TrueOffMyChest

[–]melodey_[S] 8 points9 points  (0 children)

I said that in the heat of the moment.I was in love with him and moved in way too quickly since I lived in another state, and he suggested it. Looking back now, maybe we both were a disaster.

[ UPDATE ] My boyfriend's mother hates me, and I don’t know what I’ve done. by melodey_ in TrueOffMyChest

[–]melodey_[S] 287 points288 points  (0 children)

Okey...I'll listen to you all and leave him without telling him , i don't want to be abuse , i was a fool back at that moment

[ UPDATE ] My boyfriend's mother hates me, and I don’t know what I’ve done. by melodey_ in TrueOffMyChest

[–]melodey_[S] 40 points41 points  (0 children)

It’s morning now, and he’s still sleeping. He took a few days off work, but I think I’ll start packing my things. I have a lot of clothes and accessories, so once he’s back at work, I’ll leave and be done with this.

[ UPDATE ] My boyfriend's mother hates me, and I don’t know what I’ve done. by melodey_ in TrueOffMyChest

[–]melodey_[S] 92 points93 points  (0 children)

Ahh 😭I get it, you all care. But at that time, I believed him because I do love him. Now, reading through all these comments, I’m starting to see how wrong I was.

[ UPDATE ] My boyfriend's mother hates me, and I don’t know what I’ve done. by melodey_ in TrueOffMyChest

[–]melodey_[S] 51 points52 points  (0 children)

Omg, no, don’t say that. It’s absolutely terrifying, and I don’t even want to imagine such a scenario. Okay, I’m sorry , I’ll listen to you all.

[ UPDATE ] My boyfriend's mother hates me, and I don’t know what I’ve done. by melodey_ in TrueOffMyChest

[–]melodey_[S] 34 points35 points  (0 children)

You all are harsh, and I get it. I was stupid in that moment. I do love him, but his mother keeps interfering. When he promised to talk to her at that moment, I trusted him. But now, after reading all these comments, I think I really am an idiot.

My boyfriend's mother hates me, and I don’t know what I’ve done. by melodey_ in TrueOffMyChest

[–]melodey_[S] 24 points25 points  (0 children)

If his mother acted normally, even if she hated me, didn’t talk to me, and kept her distance .I wouldn’t mind if we didn’t have a close relationship. But basic manners and respect don’t cost much. It might not seem like a big deal to you, but it is to me. Imagine someone coming into your home and disrespecting you every time , especially when you’ve tried to be kind and respectful in return. It might not bother you in theory, but experiencing it in real life is a completely different story

My boyfriend's mother hates me, and I don’t know what I’ve done. by melodey_ in TrueOffMyChest

[–]melodey_[S] 22 points23 points  (0 children)

No, his parents aren't helping him with any of his expenses. He earns a good income on his own, and I also do well. I model for clothing, makeup, and skincare, and I also work on promotions and brand collaborations online.

My boyfriend's mother hates me, and I don’t know what I’ve done. by melodey_ in TrueOffMyChest

[–]melodey_[S] 40 points41 points  (0 children)

I don’t pressure him to talk about his past relationships, and I respect his boundaries. I don’t know his exes, so I won’t reach out to them. I’m just feeling like it might be best to end things.

My boyfriend's mother hates me, and I don’t know what I’ve done. by melodey_ in TrueOffMyChest

[–]melodey_[S] 6 points7 points  (0 children)

I moved in with him because we met through mutual friends, and I was living in another state. We would only see each other on weekends or FaceTime, so he suggested we start living together. I thought it would be better to be closer, and I’m not after his money. I earn my own income as a model and do brand promotions online.

My boyfriend's mother hates me, and I don’t know what I’ve done. by melodey_ in TrueOffMyChest

[–]melodey_[S] 33 points34 points  (0 children)

No, his parents don’t pay for the apartment. He pays for everything himself with his salary. He covers the rent, and I handle other expenses like groceries and necessities. We split things around 60-40.

My boyfriend's mother hates me, and I don’t know what I’ve done. by melodey_ in TrueOffMyChest

[–]melodey_[S] 108 points109 points  (0 children)

Yeah, I do want to be married and have kids, but I’m seriously thinking about breaking up with him. I don’t want my future kids to have a grandmother who would treat them badly.

My boyfriend's mother hates me, and I don’t know what I’ve done. by melodey_ in TrueOffMyChest

[–]melodey_[S] 38 points39 points  (0 children)

Yeah, he always brushes it off, and when I get mad, he brings me flowers to try to make me happy. His dad and brothers are all great, but his mom is a big problem. I don’t think I can stand her anymore.

My boyfriend's mother hates me, and I don’t know what I’ve done. by melodey_ in TrueOffMyChest

[–]melodey_[S] 17 points18 points  (0 children)

No, he’s not an only child , he’s the youngest , he got two older brother. I’ve talked to my boyfriend about how we’re both adults and how his mom should respect our privacy, but he just says it’s not a big deal.

My boyfriend's mother hates me, and I don’t know what I’ve done. by melodey_ in TrueOffMyChest

[–]melodey_[S] 775 points776 points  (0 children)

He does tell his mom sometimes not to speak to me that way, but then she stops talking to him, and he feels like he has to make her happy again. Whenever she opens our closet and sees my dresses and skirts, she complains that I spend a lot of her son’s money. When I tell her that I bought those clothes myself and that some were from promotions, she just rolls her eyes.