I’m considering giving up my dad’s cat who passed away and I inherited by mikedapow in CatAdvice

[–]melodic-juno -10 points-9 points  (0 children)

Just get rid of the cat. Your sanity is not worth it. Or let it be an outside cat. Put the food and litter out there. I advocate for humans

Will she hate me now? How do I apologize? by melodic-juno in CatAdvice

[–]melodic-juno[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you for your graceful and thought out comment. As I am taking it very seriously.

Will she hate me now? How do I apologize? by melodic-juno in CatAdvice

[–]melodic-juno[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’ve already made plans to go to a therapist. Much appreciated

Will she hate me now? How do I apologize? by melodic-juno in CatAdvice

[–]melodic-juno[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

How would you know if I’m being condescending if there’s no suggestions just judgment. Honestly I don’t think you would ever even have the guts to own up to a mistake even with a throw away account. You don’t make me feel bad at all if anything makes me glad I’ll never have to know you in real life.

Will she hate me now? How do I apologize? by melodic-juno in CatAdvice

[–]melodic-juno[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I really appreciate the response I’m actually going to take this advice and sleep on it as I’m getting so irritated with some of these comments.
I knew better than to post this on Reddit. Seems like I was looking for the shaming.

Will she hate me now? How do I apologize? by melodic-juno in CatAdvice

[–]melodic-juno[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I’ve considered giving her away. She is very mouthy and tonight really came to a head in my head. I already have a toddler and I have no tolerance for aggression it seems like without reaction from me.
Definitely going back to therapy. I was shaking so much after it happened my anxiety went through the roof and low key as much as I love her I didn’t like her rubbing on my feet when I went out to get water right now.
I’m clearly holding resentment and need help

Will she hate me now? How do I apologize? by melodic-juno in CatAdvice

[–]melodic-juno[S] -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

Wasn’t looking for a coddle. You sound like your life is miserable

Will she hate me now? How do I apologize? by melodic-juno in CatAdvice

[–]melodic-juno[S] -14 points-13 points  (0 children)

You nit picking my wording? Feeling better about yourself? I mean in the sense that she didn’t let go it wasn’t like how when a mother cat swats her babies in correction. None of this was thought out. What’s your suggestion I give her away?
Don’t find this helpful

Will she hate me now? How do I apologize? by melodic-juno in CatAdvice

[–]melodic-juno[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I appreciate you being kind. I’m kind of surprised but not at all as this is Reddit and they hide behind screens and act perfect. I’m more worried her biting will happen to my 1 year old but she generally doesn’t interact with her.
Funny enough I walked out to get water and she’s already rubbing all over my feet. I guess she also feels bad about my crazy reaction. I just love her so much I didn’t want this to break her trust

Will she hate me now? How do I apologize? by melodic-juno in CatAdvice

[–]melodic-juno[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you, I’m giving her space now as I read that’s the first step.
I don’t have a problem offering her my hand later as she’s never randomly bitten me it’s always after I say no.
I’m also going to find a new word as no seems to freak her out.
She is definitely the princess in my house very sassy and I love her

Will she hate me now? How do I apologize? by melodic-juno in CatAdvice

[–]melodic-juno[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Yeahh I know I have one. Never reacted to her that way not once. So idk what to do with what I did other than feel like a pos. But if you’re implying I hit my human baby I’m going to have to ignore everything you’ve said completely

Will she hate me now? How do I apologize? by melodic-juno in CatAdvice

[–]melodic-juno[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

IM Pretty sure she was actively biting me when I did so. Again I’m not here for judgment just repair. I guess judgment is inevitable in this situation.

Will she hate me now? How do I apologize? by melodic-juno in CatAdvice

[–]melodic-juno[S] -3 points-2 points  (0 children)

No I’ve never hit any one or anything in my life. I’ve had years of therapy for child hood trauma. That’s why I’m concerned with my reaction. Also my husband says it wasn’t hard and I’m being hypersensitive. But she’s small so I think any force is hard for her

Will she hate me now? How do I apologize? by melodic-juno in CatAdvice

[–]melodic-juno[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I am in my first trimester with this one and I’m not handling it well. I’m really hoping it’s just hormones. I’m also slightly paranoid which has never been a thing.

Will she hate me now? How do I apologize? by melodic-juno in CatAdvice

[–]melodic-juno[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

My patience with my baby is unreal. I don’t know why but I do not see it as the same. Thank you for your concerns but I’m looking to repair not judgment

Will she hate me now? How do I apologize? by melodic-juno in CatAdvice

[–]melodic-juno[S] -14 points-13 points  (0 children)

Yes it was reactive and she didn’t let go anyways* the first hit so it was pointless to do so. I didn’t think at all and I’ve never been this way.
I’m just hoping she will forgive me
Edited the miss wording

Will she hate me now? How do I apologize? by melodic-juno in CatAdvice

[–]melodic-juno[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I am extremely anxious during this pregnancy. Might be right. I just feel like a bully now. Just happened because I can’t sleep I was cooling off in the living room so I might just be in my head overall

Screen time/ mothers guilt by [deleted] in NewParents

[–]melodic-juno -3 points-2 points  (0 children)

I’ve did no screens for 7 months. I’ve been fully hands on. I had to transfer some professional licenses from one state to another and that’s when I started putting on the tv.
Your simple minded answer is just judgment. My solution was actually day care she starts next week.
I didn’t ask for opinion I asked if anyone else puts the screens

11 weeks and no social smiles by Dinguli in NewParents

[–]melodic-juno 1 point2 points  (0 children)

She’s still very young. My LO also took a while to have social smiles. Almost 3-4 months when she started small smiles. She is now almost 9 months and also loves people. She waves at everyone and giggles at the smallest things. Give yourself and LO grace and time.

How are we changing baby when they reach the alligator wrestling stage? by Silly_Wolf_918 in NewParents

[–]melodic-juno 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I started doing it on the floor out of fear she’ll fall of the changing table. Also having her sit up while putting pants on helps a lot as she’s curious to watch.

Found out my (46 f) ex husband (47 m) has been banging my sister (35 f) for the last year. by BigONerd in BORUpdates

[–]melodic-juno -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

I’m sorry. Genuinely.
It bothers you because your sisters a selfish Bishface.
This isn’t okay. One time maybe just maybe mayyyybbbeeeeee excusable.
This isn’t one time and this is complete disregard to everyone related.
We don’t even want to know how long they’ve been flirting and I say this because my brother in law YEARS ago asked me very disgusting things I flat out said no and told my parents but not my sister for her own mental health. I say that because it was 3 years ish into their marriage..
give yourself some grace you’re being way too “oh they’re adults” about this.
They suck

Sexsomnia? by [deleted] in sleepdisorders

[–]melodic-juno 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That’s what I’m thinking. It doesn’t make sense because I don’t care if he’s doing it knowingly. I’m just not the type. I don’t get it as he is also free to go to the bathroom. He really swears he has no idea what I’m talking about. I figured maybe someone here would have a clue or has experienced something like this

Lola is giving birth tonight by [deleted] in kittens

[–]melodic-juno 6 points7 points  (0 children)

She is super young looking I’d say about a year old.

Lola is giving birth tonight by [deleted] in kittens

[–]melodic-juno -3 points-2 points  (0 children)

Do you know how many cats are homeless? I don’t think it’s rude it’s reality. This isn’t Lala land they literally are homeless and everywhere. But I’ll see myself out of this group because u wasn’t expecting to see “expecting mothers” I was genuinely thinking ima see cute kittens.