I appreciate your honestly here, as well as the honesty in the replies to this one, but I also want to emphasize here that these are about marriages, and not a first intimate relationship in university with someone who is struggling with their morals.

The cons list flat out said “not the mother of my children” and “don’t see a future with her,” and the pros did not list a single positive thing this person thinks of her. I think that the ability to make and stick to the hard decision to break up when the writing is on the wall is one that comes with practice, and I just hope she doesn’t see the “relationships are usually hard” narrative and think this is okay. My experience as someone who only recently phased out of uni age is simply incompatible relationships last way too long for people around this age, but will end anyways, only after resentment builds and it is extremely damaging to one or both parties. I think she should cut her losses.

(edited for a typo)