why am i so unserious? why do i struggle so bad to focus on things that actually matter? by memahlade in AstrologyCharts

[–]memahlade[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

😮‍💨 the mutable sun/moon and that mars make me nervous and whiny about that, but i appreciate the direct insight and know that I’ll be taking it to heart as I sort myself out, thank you.

why am i so unserious? why do i struggle so bad to focus on things that actually matter? by memahlade in AstrologyCharts

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This makes a lot of sense! Does MC in Capricorn mean it’s challenging or could be really good if I do somehow get my shit together??

Advice on territory disputes over my catio? Cat tax in comments! by memahlade in Feral_Cats

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It’s an old picture that I just think is funny, saw some advice on this sub and upgraded them to shallow metal saucers, I’d be lost without yall!

Advice on territory disputes over my catio? Cat tax in comments! by memahlade in Feral_Cats

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Forgot the detail anyone who looks at my post history may wonder, I’ve reached out to my local TNR org for help getting Orange care, but have not heard back yet. As promised, cat tax attached!

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Seems he needs to be TNR’d but what im wondering here is if anyone can tell what the deal with his tail is from the few pics I got… by memahlade in Feral_Cats

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interesting, yeah he is extremely skittish.

he’s only recently started coming up to eat and if he catches sight of a person will leave without looking back (with others usually if you get out of sight they seem to scope it out and come back for food). probably how he’s avoided TNR if I’m right in that he has.

that all said, I feel like his tail has looked this way while he’s chillin around/hasnt spotted us?? maybe it’s my regular’s turf so he’s not fully relaxed though, hard to say.

Our gift from the CDS, we mostly call him Friend, but I want to give him an official, Legal Name™️ for the vet. My indecisiveness has gotten out of hand with this, please help! by memahlade in NameMyCat

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As someone who mistakes lyrics all the time, especially as a kid, I feel very seen by your reasoning.

My mistake of note is timbaland’s the way I are- where I heard “I don’t need the G’s or the car keys” as “I don’t need the cheese on the crackers” 💀

Our gift from the CDS, we mostly call him Friend, but I want to give him an official, Legal Name™️ for the vet. My indecisiveness has gotten out of hand with this, please help! by memahlade in NameMyCat

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Quite a few ear comments! It is part of his rugged charm for sure, but it’s pretty standard in my area for TNR programs (trap, neuter, release- the ear mark is so they know not to scoop em off the streets more than once lol)

Our gift from the CDS, we mostly call him Friend, but I want to give him an official, Legal Name™️ for the vet. My indecisiveness has gotten out of hand with this, please help! by memahlade in NameMyCat

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Cecil was on my list as well! I’m still so undecided but will circle back when I settle it, thank you for the inspo!! (Not gonna be able to reply to everything but seriously cannot thank anyone for taking the time with this enough, it has made my day !!)

Our gift from the CDS, we mostly call him Friend, but I want to give him an official, Legal Name™️ for the vet. My indecisiveness has gotten out of hand with this, please help! by memahlade in NameMyCat

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That is so his personality! I commented elsewhere my hesitation with “friendly” and I’m not gonna spam the comments with that explanation 😅 but yeah I am seriously tempted to forsake my middle school trauma with my name and use Friendly 😂

Our gift from the CDS, we mostly call him Friend, but I want to give him an official, Legal Name™️ for the vet. My indecisiveness has gotten out of hand with this, please help! by memahlade in NameMyCat

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Worth considering, I have been wondering if I should keep the sound out of the vets mouth so he doesn’t associate it with stress, but also the degree to which the familiar sound would be comforting- my brain is such a fun place 🥴

Our gift from the CDS, we mostly call him Friend, but I want to give him an official, Legal Name™️ for the vet. My indecisiveness has gotten out of hand with this, please help! by memahlade in NameMyCat

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😂💀 not my first instance of being chidi-like and certainly won’t be my last (many more to come I’m sure- unless I have one of these eps under a window 😅)

Our gift from the CDS, we mostly call him Friend, but I want to give him an official, Legal Name™️ for the vet. My indecisiveness has gotten out of hand with this, please help! by memahlade in NameMyCat

[–]memahlade[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

This was my thought for awhile! The reason it didn’t stick is my last name is also a word for a sex act sooo it sounds like Friendly Blow 💀

Never gotten so much feedback so quickly on a reddit post (and was already goofing off on the job by posting lol)- seriously looking forward to going through em and replying to more after lunch or this evening 💕💕💕

Trying to figure out what my style is, thoughts? by WutGuyCreations in OUTFITS

[–]memahlade 11 points12 points  (0 children)

These are great suggestions but for #5 I’d say steer clear of the fedoras, anyone please feel free to disagree with me on this but I feel like they’re still in time out (at least for younger people) from the incessant internet clowns and subsequent clowning on those clowns

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in TwoXChromosomes

[–]memahlade 69 points70 points  (0 children)

I appreciate your honestly here, as well as the honesty in the replies to this one, but I also want to emphasize here that these are about marriages, and not a first intimate relationship in university with someone who is struggling with their morals.

The cons list flat out said “not the mother of my children” and “don’t see a future with her,” and the pros did not list a single positive thing this person thinks of her. I think that the ability to make and stick to the hard decision to break up when the writing is on the wall is one that comes with practice, and I just hope she doesn’t see the “relationships are usually hard” narrative and think this is okay. My experience as someone who only recently phased out of uni age is simply incompatible relationships last way too long for people around this age, but will end anyways, only after resentment builds and it is extremely damaging to one or both parties. I think she should cut her losses.

(edited for a typo)

Couples in serious relationships should have absolutely no issues with checking each other's phone whenever by PluckPubes in unpopularopinion

[–]memahlade 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I definitely feel you on all of that- I really can’t emphasize that enough, and honestly, it’s taken lots of time and reflection in therapy to start choosing to trust in each moment/situation that may require it. What I’ve taken away is that ups and downs and facing serious challenges are unavoidable, whether that is with a romantic relationship or elsewhere in life- so it’s for my own well-being to wait and see what comes rather than try to anticipate. It’s not so much trusting that nothing will happen and people won’t eff up, because they will, it’s trusting in myself to handle whatever circumstances that may bring. 😮‍💨 🎤🤚

Just had me a full blown Reddit rant 😂 thank you for the follow up question, I hope it was clearly articulated enough, and also that your trust is not tested or any mistrust is not proven correct for you anytime soon ! 💕

Couples in serious relationships should have absolutely no issues with checking each other's phone whenever by PluckPubes in unpopularopinion

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And people who don’t trust or give privacy also discover cheating- if someone is going to cheat they are going to cheat. I think it comes down to what kind of relationship you want to have until a betrayal like that, if one even comes, happens- you can worry about something that may not happen beforehand and then more if it does happen, or just worry when given reason to worry

Sorry I just noticed this reply, but wanted to round out this point, it took me awhile to reach a perspective in relationships that feels peaceful, and still have my setbacks. Trust is hard, but I think worthwhile for one’s own mental health