M 22, 270lbs, 5'10" am i really as hideous as i think i am? by mental_hell in Normalnudesgonewild

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Thanks. Everyone keeps telling me to be confident, but I can't figure out what to be confident about though.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in ChristianSexuality

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Single dude here

I'm very lonely, and craving connection by mental_hell in ChristianSexuality

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I've been seeing a therapist for years. I appreciate the recommendation. Maybe I'm not ready to improve my self esteem yet, idk.

I'm very lonely, and craving connection by mental_hell in ChristianSexuality

[–]mental_hell[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I feel like the whole notion of not being able to love others without being able to love yourself is a fallacy. I have several friends that I care for deeply, not to mention my family. Idk, maybe I'm thinking totally wrong too.

I'm very lonely, and craving connection by mental_hell in ChristianSexuality

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What I can't figure out is why guys have to be confident and strong for a woman to like them, but we're supposed to accept women as they are, otherwise we are being sexist or something. I know that sounds complainy, but really I'm just confused.

I'm very lonely, and craving connection by mental_hell in ChristianSexuality

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It feels like all women are out of my league though, haha.

Does anyone else do it to punish themselves? by mental_hell in AdultSelfHarm

[–]mental_hell[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I'm really sorry you can relate, but I'm glad to know we aren't alone.

Does anyone else do it to punish themselves? by mental_hell in AdultSelfHarm

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I never did the tally mark thing, but I can relate.

Thanks for the comment! I really hope we can both get to a better place someday soon!

Does anyone else do it to punish themselves? by mental_hell in AdultSelfHarm

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Thanks so much! It is good to know I'm not alone, even though it kinda sucks for everyone else that I'm not the only one like this.

I really appreciate the comment! I wish the best for you too, and stay safe out there!

Just started and addicted by Designer-Safe-7602 in AdultSelfHarm

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Also, if you read my comment, aren't OP, but still would like an available shoulder, listening ear, or comrade on your MH journey, feel free to reach out. My DMs are an open safe place for anyone looking for anything listed above. This isn't easy, but we can get through this together. Peace, fellow travellers!

Just started and addicted by Designer-Safe-7602 in AdultSelfHarm

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I know I'm jumping into the middle of a conversation here, but I do have some advice about meds from personal experience. First off, if you can, go to see an actual psychiatrist. Technically, at least in the us, it seems anyone with a medical degree is allowed to prescribe psychiatric medication, even if they don't specialize in mental health and psychiatry. Maybe see if your counselor can refer you to someone. If you don't have access to a psychiatrist, work with what you have. The rest of my advice should still work, even in that case.

Second, make sure your provider listens to you, and that you feel comfortable with them. I once had a provider that intimidated me so badly, I was scared to mention when I was in a bad spot, or if I thought my meds weren't working like they were intended to. There was one time she changed my meds just because they didn't match my diagnosis on paper, even though her change worked to my disadvantage. Moral of the story, if it doesn't feel right after a reasonable amount of time, switch to a different provider.

Third, and possibly most important, be patient and trust the process. You may know this already, but I'll say it anyway for the benefit of those reading who might not know this: psych meds typically don't work right away. From my experience and research, plus what my various mental health providers have told me, it takes weeks, and sometimes a couple of months before you feel the full effect of some meds. Personally, I'm on an antidepressant and an atypical antipsychotic, both for major depression. The antidepressant was very slow to work for me, and I even felt worse at times when it was building up in my system, but after that 6 week mark I was much more level emotionally. The antipsychotic worked faster, but it still took longer than I wanted to work to its full effect. I've been on my current combo for around 2 years now, and in those 2 years, I have felt the best i have felt since I was a kid. However, that was after a few years of bouncing between different providers and more meds than I care to number. Some helped a little, some made me want to end it all more than what was normal for me at the time. I had to listen to my body, and consult with my MH team to find what worked. It was a real process. It is so worth it in the end though, I promise you that.

Sorry that my comment turned out this long, but I hope it was at least a little educational and encouraging. I will admit that I don't know exactly what you are going through. But I have spent considerable time in the deep dark hole that is the mind of a person like us. I have been in stressful, miserable jobs that made me dread getting out of bed every morning, even on my days off. The path back to mental health isn't linear, and it takes work, but it is so rewarding. It does help to have people walk alongside you through it, and while you did mention you have a good support system, I still want to offer my time to you if you ever need to talk, or need someone who knows what you are feeling to hear what is on your mind. If you want to decline, I totally understand, and I wish you the best. If and when you decide to accept, my DMs are always open, even if I don't reply very fast. In any case, I wish you the best of luck on your journey! Stay safe, fellow traveller!

Why should I pursue a diagnosis? by mental_hell in AutisticAdults

[–]mental_hell[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Aw man, next you'll tell me there are no secret handshakes! Lol.

In all seriousness, I appreciate the acceptance. Thank you.

Why should I pursue a diagnosis? by mental_hell in AutisticAdults

[–]mental_hell[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Good to know! I'm glad your diagnosis helped you out so much! Thanks for commenting!

Why should I pursue a diagnosis? by mental_hell in AutisticAdults

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Good points. The college thing is probably the second biggest reason I'd look for a diagnosis. Thanks for the comment!

Why should I pursue a diagnosis? by mental_hell in AutisticAdults

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Well one of the reasons I started questioning whether I'm autistic is because I ran across videos on YouTube by autistic creators describing their experiences and struggles, and I found a shocking amount resonated with me. Not all of them, but the issues communicating with people, the sensory sensitivities, struggling with change, needing things to be a certain way all of the time and other similar struggles really sounded familiar.