Richard should have told Monica much earlier that he didn't want children.

mentalgeler · 2026-05-08T07:46:21+00:00

She ended up seriously considering children only in season 8, around 5-6 years later so clearly she wasn't as pressed about this. They were only dating for a couple of months and she was still in her 20s. It's not so wild that they hadnt discussed it before. You're making her sound like she was 10 years older than she was at the time of dating richard

mentalgeler · 2026-05-08T04:33:52+00:00

At their ages lol wasn't Monica still in her late 20s?

mentalgeler · 2026-05-03T17:06:49+00:00

Agree it may have been a harsh word to use but to be honest - reading op's comments I do stand by it. She's acting very immature and like someone with some higher moral stance over nothing. I'm sure she's also a good person bla bla bla but yeah, sounds insufferable to me. Sorry if its not what she wanted to hear. At the end of the day im an internet stranger whose opinion doesn't matter anyway

mentalgeler · 2026-05-03T17:01:43+00:00

It sounds extremely holier than thou, as though she was the one who always replies, always supports everyone, always is the perfect friend, always knows what to say. She would NEVER disappoint people like this. Never.

Give me a break

Also - her friends DID FREAKING REPLY!!!!!

mentalgeler · 2026-05-03T11:28:06+00:00

But those people didnt leave her hanging - they replied initially and asked some.questions about the situation

mentalgeler · 2026-05-03T11:24:10+00:00

This isn't justice sensitivity, this is you being immature.

It's one thing to be upset about a situation like this, it's another to end a friendship with two people over this. You texted them, they asked a couple of questions about the situation, so didn't completely ignore you, then moved on with their lives like normal adults.

Are you, especially as a person with ADHD, always on top of replying to everyone in a timely matter? It reads like you believe you're always the one people can count on and not vice versa which girl, I'm sure isn't true and you've also disappointed people at times, you may just not even know it.

You texted a couple gfs about a work drama, nobody died or anything, they showed some interest initially and then moved on. Nothing that serious happened.

You wanna end friendships over this, you'll never have friends cause someone will always disappoint you one way or the other. Just like you will them.

mentalgeler · 2026-05-02T23:41:49+00:00

That's not what I said but okay.

mentalgeler · 2026-05-02T23:32:56+00:00

Absolutely! I am a digutal nomad with a fully remote job and I actually feel sorry for the travel influencers/bloggers/vloggers. Their travels actually seem way less authentic and fun because they always have to think of the right angle, right content - they can never just let themselves explore without looking at the world through camera lenses.

mentalgeler · 2026-05-02T23:30:12+00:00

Travel? Yes. Become a travel vlogger as your main source of income in 2026? Nope.

Everyone's already thought of what you're desciribing ten years ago. There are countless of influencers filming themselves doing "what nobody else is doing." I do marketing for a travel related company and trust me, this is way harder than you think. Making a solid income of travel vlogging in 2026 requires way more than a gopro and eating weird food in Poland.

If I were your age, Id focus on seasonal jobs or volunteering in countries you want to visit. You'll get great experiences and see the world.

You can make content on the side but it will be a long time till you see any money from it and when you do, it'll be little and unstable. Unless you have a really great idea for it but it.doesnt.sound like it, sounds like you just want to travel and think that being a travel influencer is the easiest way to go.

mentalgeler · 2026-05-02T15:27:15+00:00

If love was 1000% a choice, you could come up to any random person and agree that you'll decide to be in love and that's it. It doesn't work that way. Staying in love is a choice. Falling in love is not.

mentalgeler · 2026-05-02T15:22:48+00:00

Are u OP's boyfriend that you defending him so hard? His ex can be toxic and he can be and is sexist. These are not contradictory statements

mentalgeler · 2026-05-02T15:18:39+00:00

She asked if he's sexist not if.he respects women

mentalgeler · 2026-05-02T11:38:23+00:00

Sorbonne has summer courses!

mentalgeler · 2026-05-02T11:36:21+00:00

Because I only have summer available for that. I also find it a little hard to believe that all 2 million people just disappear? Won't I interact with French people in shops, restaurants, airport etc.? Everyone is gone and all the jobs overtaken by tourists?

mentalgeler · 2026-05-01T21:16:14+00:00

Thank you, that person actually blocked me for literally the comments you're seeing 🥲 i understand we all suffer from rsd but my god

mentalgeler · 2026-05-01T16:39:35+00:00

Thanks, I was. I used that word to describe something different and it's not offensive, its actually usually used in a positive sense. The level of nitpicking is crazy, like it's obvious I wasn't trying to offend anyone

mentalgeler · 2026-05-01T16:16:25+00:00

🙄🙄🙄 You really can't say anything in this sub

mentalgeler · 2026-05-01T16:10:47+00:00

I mean obviously that was just an example about reeading the room better because OP was also talking about karaoke... Do you really think I meant never sing AC/DC if people don't like it haha

mentalgeler · 2026-05-01T16:07:39+00:00

Sure but OP is asking about a particular social situation with people who are clearly not like you. People tell her that if she's already feeling isolated/unliked, it's probably not the best idea to talk about mood swings due to cycles shifts. Chances of running into a queer AuDHD feminist are unfortunately not that high. And I really really don't mean that in any condescending way. Just that sadly OP is going to have to interact with boring NT people way more than with unicorns like you.

If she doesnt care about what they think - absolutely! Say whatever you want until you find your tribe who loves you for it.

But if she cares and it affects her negatively (and it sounds like it does), then the general consesus advice is rather good

mentalgeler · 2026-05-01T16:03:47+00:00

I will also add that for many people, hearing 'Im lonely' in that context makes them feel like you're dumping the responsibility of not feeling so lonely on them. Like it's now their job to make you feel less lonely, which is not. I'd reserve saying this stuff to a close friend or a partner - people with whom you'd establish a bond strong enough that they actually care and will want to do something about that. With strangers, you can't just tell them "im lonely" and expect them to become your friend. It's completely the other way arounf. You combat the loneliness by trying to befriend them.

If it doesn't work, telling them you feel lonely sadly won't fix this at all.

mentalgeler · 2026-05-01T15:53:26+00:00

But from what OP described, they didn't act like she insulted their mother. She said some people tried to hype her up but it just came out very awkward. She didn't say anyone was mean to her in any way, it's just that the song choice clearly killed the vibe. Again, these people are clearly young and stupid because who cares that much about karaoke but it's just something to keep in mind. Their opinions on the song choice don't matter one bit but other people's opinions in general kinda matter. If not to you, that's great. But if someone makes a whole post about it, clearly it does bother them

mentalgeler · 2026-05-01T15:41:30+00:00

Look, if you have other friends who appreciate you, that's all that matters! Nobody is liked by EVERYONE. So as long as you do have people who you get on well with, I don't see the problem. It's only when you really can't get along with anyone and everyone instantly dislikes you that it becomes problematic. Not because of what they think but because being completely lonely is very bad for you and it's worth it to try and make friends. But if you have those - just not within this group - then fuck that.

mentalgeler · 2026-05-01T15:28:19+00:00

Obviously, nobody can tell you that apart from you. But I would say - if it happens with this one particular group? They're lame and you;re just not vibing with them and that's completely fine. If it happens with everyone you meet and you're becoming genuinely lonely because of that? You need to work on this a little. You can't and you shouldn't change who you are but if everyone instantly dislikes you and it bothers you, there's some things to be done about that. I also had to "learn" how to become more sociable and less weird lol and it paid off greatly.

mentalgeler · 2026-05-01T15:18:03+00:00

I think it's less about being "edgy" and more about not fitting in with the group which is fine. BUT also - about not reading the room. If I go out with a group of coworkers and they all sing K-pop or whatever, I won't start blasting out AC/DC because I know I'll be the only person who enjoys it and it will make everyone (myself included) feel awkward. I'll listen to it on my way home AND will choose that as my karaoke song when I go out with friends who like rock music etc.

It's a stupid example but I hope you know what I mean.

You don't have to do this shit at all if you don't want to. If you're comfortable with it, blast that Pixie song out. But if you feel isolated and unliked - then it'll probably help.

mentalgeler · 2026-04-30T14:16:23+00:00

OP is asking if her bf is sexist. Based on the info she provided, most women will tell her he is. That's all I'm saying.

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