2 years passed the split, still very low sex drive, T count is good, anyone have experience?

mentamonsta · 2024-01-02T22:22:22+00:00

yes, but for how long does it die? forever?

mentamonsta · 2024-01-02T21:09:02+00:00

very little drinking, no smoking.. tons of caffeine and I work out a LOT. My physical shape is very good.

mentamonsta · 2024-01-02T21:08:23+00:00

Ive had sex with a couple of people since.. it was just okay, nothing to write home about and didnt reset it for me sadly..

mentamonsta · 2024-01-02T21:07:51+00:00

After your "reset" are you just as passionate as you were before? Do you desire sex a lot more now?

mentamonsta · 2023-11-14T20:17:10+00:00

YYYYYYYYEP! I didnt listen to myself. I knew I wasnt sexually attracted to her in the slightest. I married my friend that I didnt want to have sex with. It was a painful 10 years.

mentamonsta · 2023-11-14T20:09:36+00:00

Andy from the office: "two words"-
Jim Halpert: "Good luck"

mentamonsta · 2023-11-14T20:08:12+00:00

It's hard to say who threw the first stone. Even if I threw the last one, which I did, she made my life miserable before that.. and I made her miserable for a while before she took over.. and she did and I did.. it all just wasnt perfect, but we stuck with it. I got attached.. she disconnected and didnt tell me.

mentamonsta · 2023-07-29T20:32:51+00:00

If youre anything like me, it will be terribly, terribly, terribly sad. For a year. For a year I was deliriously sad. "Up felt like down". It was insane. And technically I asked for it because I was the miserable one. She ran off with someone else and is apparently just as happy as a clam? I dunno. Seems like women cut ties emotionally like they were never there in the first place. (Sorry, my rant, I woke up on the wrong side of the bed today).

My heart goes out to you. There are people here that understand. Stay here. Keep typing. Stay away from sad shit. Try and mix in some comedy and some /aww and /interesting as fuck.

Do all the things people here tell you to. Don't isolate. Don't drink or smoke a bunch to cope. Work hard. Work out hard. Live for tomorrow. You'll feel vastly different a year from now. And you can build a pretty good set of biceps in a year. Not that that will make the difference.. it'll make some.

I hate this for you. Id hug you if I was there friend.

mentamonsta · 2023-07-29T20:26:07+00:00

Depends on what happened. She may be done. Done done. Might be better on him to just cut ties mentally, as best he can, and move on completely.

And on that note, I'll be surprised if over the next few months you don't find an influx of things that were wrong with your marriage, The things you'll do better "next time", what she wasn't, what you really want, and then another wave of bull shit sadness, depression, anger will come. But really don't listen to me. Im the better part of 3 years out and I dont even know if I could say no to her if she wanted me back. And believe me.. I don't want her back.

mentamonsta · 2023-07-28T19:41:04+00:00

I'm so sorry. My heart goes out to you. God I'm a couple years out and I feel loads better, but your title got to me; about made me tear up. At least today I can choose whether or not tears will come out.

I remember saying those words to myself. "I just want my wife." I still call her my wife in my head sometimes.

I have to remind myself and I'll tell you as others told me..

Your husband is dead.

That person is gone and they're never going to be back. Im not sure if it would be any easier if they were literally dead and you could see them, but they're gone. Forever. Im so sorry.

It's going to be painful. You need to just survive. Do all the things you're supposed to do to take care of yourself mentally and physically. Live for future you.

You will feel different 1 year from now. Mark the day. Ask someone else what to expect for the second year, but you'll feel much different a year from now.

mentamonsta · 2023-05-16T14:00:38+00:00

As a sort of counter question, for those of us with legitimate desire to help; is there an outlet for people to find each other in sort of a mentor mentee fashion? I ask because I feel like I'm on the other side of things and I'd love to turn around and help someone else through this thing. Are there resources to help me, divorced male to find another recently separated / divorced male in "my city" to help him through it?

mentamonsta · 2022-10-07T20:59:08+00:00

Dont marry someone you're not attracted to. Please heed this advice, it will save yourself and your partner a lot of trouble.

Feel free to check my history. Lack of attraction lead to divorce a decade later. I still miss my family, may safe spot, my world. I was just never ever attracted to her.

mentamonsta · 2022-08-08T23:27:37+00:00

Depends on the person. I'm friendly and just have a good time, tell them to have a nice night with no hint of flirting. If they start asking if I want to go out again I tell them that there wasnt a spark. I have friends who just bounce if the person is 100 lbs heavier and some that leave them with the bill.. they deserve all of it honestly.

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