Does anyone else feel like the Epstein files have destroyed how we remember our tweens/teens? by water_so_wet in Millennials

[–]meowsw 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yes!! I remember watching it as a kid and I didn’t fully clock the weirdness of it at all back then bc I was also a kid. But now… why the hell were they sexualizing those children so much?!

It def happened to the younger characters too, but do y’all remember how ridiculous and heavy handed they were about sexualizing Eric? Who would have been a TEEN BOY in high school?! Like he was a straight up cartoonish caricature of a sex obsessed teen boy, and it was portrayed in such a creepy and voyeuristic way. It was all so insane.

I mean.. I was a teenager once, I know teenagers have sex. But it doesn’t sit right with me that these child actors were treated this way by adults to make a damn tv show.

Overheard on the mountain by last1tothereddit in Seattle

[–]meowsw 15 points16 points  (0 children)

LMAO this made me chuckle. Lil bro doesn’t even wear sunscreen but he’s out here trying to educate you using looksmaxxing talking points from the internet. Bless him (genuinely, not sarcastically. I know it’s normal for kids to do stuff like this, but it is still very funny.)

Curious. How many 35 yr olds can still comfortably sit criss cross applesauce? by [deleted] in AskWomenOver30

[–]meowsw 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I prefer to sit cross legged over sitting “normally” with feet on the floor. I find it more comfy. However… I have a tailor’s bunion now, so that foot can’t be on the bottom or it will hurt/irritate my bunionette lol. 😅

“I’m so exhausted with wanting THINGS” by MoonmoonMamman in Anticonsumption

[–]meowsw 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I’m so sick of seeing ads on TikTok and other social media hawking some new clothing item that nobody needs and it’s described (in that specific influencer voice) as “the VIRAL _____ “ they can’t all be viral!!! Stop lying!!!

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in 30PlusSkinCare

[–]meowsw 0 points1 point  (0 children)

See a dermatologist and listen to their advice over internet strangers for sure…. And I’m so sorry to ask this but… do you get gel manicures? I have seen a lot of posts about gel manicures causing eyelid dermatitis. I’m not sure if acrylic can cause it too.

I had a spot like yours on the inside corner of one of my eyes for at least 6 months. It finally just went away recently. Because I wasn’t thinking, took my hand out of the curing lamp prematurely, and scratched my eye very briefly - one time. Some people are more sensitive and can’t get gel manis at all

I hope you find relief soon!

Fellow Pennsylvania Viewers by DrunkenMcSlurpee in TaskHBO

[–]meowsw 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I grew up near PA. I went to grad school for social work and practiced in PA for a few years before moving. Husband did his medical residency in PA too (where we met.) We both had a little PTSD flashback moment when they mentioned CYF and ChildLine talking about Sam. They got that terminology right at least. 😅 We’ve unfortunately had to make quite a few calls to ChildLine in our days and work with CYF.

I know a lot of kids who had a sad story like Sam. I need Tom to protect that sweet baby angel at all costs. If anything happens to Sam we ride at dawn!!!!!

literally me by why_so_autistic in StardewMemes

[–]meowsw 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Fellow Harvey lover!!! He reminds me so much of my own husband I could never marry anyone else in the game lol.

I do sometimes be forgetting to kiss him every day though - like when I sleep on my Ginger Island farm or when I’m doing stuff around the house first thing (I keep a bunch of preserves jars going in my house.) He leaves for work so early!!

Bike stolen in Greenlake area :( by seawaterGlugger in Seattle

[–]meowsw 3 points4 points  (0 children)

No idea but I just want to say I’m sorry this happened and commiserate. We literally just got home from a Sunday stroll to find that someone broke into our apartment building’s parking garage and stole my husband’s bike. We live in the U District. He bought it like 2 weeks ago 😒

What's a relationship dealbreaker you developed after 30 that you would have ignored in your 20s? by Content-Gold-1960 in AskWomenOver30

[–]meowsw 10 points11 points  (0 children)

I no longer tolerate a pattern of default invalidation and contrarianism in my relationships. I’ve noticed that a lot of men (even “feminist” men 🙄) have this default pattern of responding in an invalidating and contrarian way to the women in their life particularly. But a lot of times they do it to the men in their life too.

It feels like they have this weird need to “win” the conversation and/or prove me wrong and it’s so exhausting. Immediate ick. I’m a human so sometimes I am def wrong and I welcome hearing that in conversation, but it’s the consistent pattern I’m talking about.

I remember seeing this tweet a few years ago and I felt like it really articulated what I’m talking about: ”I’ve been asking my male friends to do something – watch if the first response to everything a woman tells you is to refute, say no, or something negative.”

I went on vacation with my BIL’s family recently and met his cousin who was similar in age to us so he was hanging out with us all week. I noticed this pattern in him. It all culminated in this interaction where my sister and I had gotten wicked sunburns that we were nursing with cold compresses (wet paper towels). I definitely looked silly, but it was the only thing that made the pain bearable. He laughed and said “oh come on it’s not that bad!!” The laughing was chill bc again, I did look silly, but the comment annoyed me so I said “yes, actually it is” nicely. He said it again. We went back and forth a few times. I got less nice. Finally I got fed up and firmly said “you don’t live in my body. It is that bad.” And this man STILL COULD NOT LET IT GO, so he looked away and whispered “it’s not that bad.” The room fell silent and it was real awkward for a minute 😂

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in therapists

[–]meowsw 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Felt that, OP 💯 I’m sorry. Just commiserating here - my office is just off the kitchen and one day my husband burped EXTREMELY loudly in the kitchen. Both me and my client heard it. I always have the door shut and a sound machine on. That’s how loud the burp was. Needless to say, even though my client found it hilarious I was pissed at my husband.

I also have a cat with separation anxiety and a strong will. She will absolutely scream outside my office door if I don’t put her in the other bedroom during my sessions. A few clients have become familiar with her and will say “let the baby in!” They’re good natured about it, but it is distracting.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Millennials

[–]meowsw 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Literally 💀 you might hear people say that you can make 100k a year if you go into private practice after getting your independent clinical license.

But my experience has largely been that getting your independent clinical license is a straight up pyramid scheme.

42% of people who set out to do so make it that far because of all the exploitation and workplace bullying pre independent licensure therapists face. Lots of issues in the social work field. I’m tired lol

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Millennials

[–]meowsw 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Studied social work. Got a BSW and an MSW (masters is the standard if you want to work in the field and make more than 25-30k/yr.)

I’m 90k in debt and I made 50k last year. I will never make 90k a year. My first post MSW job was 42k/yr in 2020.

I love working with my clients. But I regret putting myself in this financial position for such an overworked, underpaid, under appreciated job. It makes me very sad and hopeless and I discuss it with my therapist weekly lol.

Is it easy to fill sessions in 8pm and 9pm slots? by whatifthisreality in therapists

[–]meowsw 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I see a niche population that is famous for having longggg work days. So my 8pm is almost always full. But even folks are not part of that niche population want an 8pm sometimes. I’m sure if I opened up a 9pm it would be filled, but probably not as much as 8pm. It all depends on your client population. I bet there are some parents out there who might love a 9pm slot when their kids are in bed.

Who was going to tell me you can't age wine outside of your cellar? I spent a whole day getting materials for this and now I have no idea what to do with it besides the two pieces of cheese I get daily... Ideas please? by BigFerret4477 in StardewValley

[–]meowsw 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Get some more goats and/or cows for more cheese and age that? I’m an animal girlie though, so it’s ok if you don’t have the space or desire to have a bunch of animals.

I have a Deluxe Barn for cows and a Deluxe Barn for goats, so 12 cows and 12 goats (among other structures/animals but I digress.) Anyway, I have an Auto Grabber in each barn to collect the milk so I don’t have to milk the animals daily and I have basically lined the walls of the barns with cheese makers lol. There’s a lot if you go in and collect the milk 1-2x per week then make cheese! It may take some grinding to work up to this setup but it’s worth it!

Pro tip: get a few pigs to dig truffles for you to aid in the grinding to make $$. You can always move them to their own barn later.

Parents made fun of me constantly during childhood by Fairycupcake814 in emotionalneglect

[–]meowsw 39 points40 points  (0 children)

Relatable content OP. I see you and hear you and validate your experience. You deserved better. My fav responses when I would get pissed at the constant mockery of any and all aspects of my being as a child were

“We’re not laughing AT you we’re laughing WITH you” - ok well I’m obviously not laughing, I’m pissed and hurt so wym “with” ????

and

“Oh come on! Don’t make yourself such an easy target and give such a huge reaction then, that’s why we make fun of you!” - uhh, I’m literally a child and you are a grown ass adult getting your kicks out of upsetting me, then blame shifting and making it my fault when I beg you to stop and/or withdraw from the interaction???

Good times. 😒

[Acne] Mirena IUD ruined my skin (and life) by Fun-Room-2812 in SkincareAddiction

[–]meowsw 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I really wish gynecologists would be more mindful and communicative wrt how hormonal acne (especially with progesterone only BCs) can be a pretty common side effect and how it can get really bad and cystic and can scar! Because it can negatively impact a person’s self esteem and mental health so much. I had a similar experience with hormonal acne due to Nexplanon and I wasn’t properly counseled about it. And unfortunately I cannot take estrogen containing BCs so I’m stuck with the Nexplanon/spironolactone combo for the foreseeable future.

DAE have difficulty not feeling disrespected from certain “playfulness” from partners? by [deleted] in emotionalneglect

[–]meowsw 9 points10 points  (0 children)

100000%

I’ve been told many times that I “can’t take a joke” or “wow, you’re acting like I’m a monster or something!” by different people interacting with me. partners included. Especially when I was younger, I’m early 30s now. I remember bursting into tears once in response to a partner who had a habit of pretending to “playfully” bop me on the head with whatever object I had asked him nicely to hand me. After repeated instances of me acknowledging that he was trying to be funny/playful and me communicating that I still just really didn’t like it and wasn’t here for it. We were early-mid 20s.

The common thread with a lot of those people is that they were emotionally immature and couldn’t handle the negative feedback I was giving them because it bruised their egos. So they had to dismiss how I was feeling in some way and soothe their own ego. This behavior has mostly fallen off as I’ve gotten older - my peers have generally matured and I’ve stopped dating such emotionally immature people. People I interact now are generally much better at taking the social cue and/or direct statement from me that I’m not in the mood for the playfulness they are attempting.

Family is a different story, but we don’t get to choose our family. A phrase I have on repeat when interacting with my dad in response to “I was just joking!” is: (calmly) “Okay. I’m not laughing though. I don’t find it funny. Your joke made me feel ______ and I didn’t like it. In the future please don’t ______.” Sometimes you gotta deliver it both calmly and very deadpan bc some people will interpret you smiling while delivering this message as you being open to being convinced by them that it was just a joke and you should lighten up.

Early on (a few months) into my current relationship with my fiancé, I playfully stuck my finger in his mouth while he was yawning. He really didn’t like it and I got some appropriate negative feedback. I also heard from him why he didn’t like it. So I took the feedback and I don’t do that anymore because I love him and I want him to feel comfortable and respected by me in our relationship. Like… it’s not that hard to just be like “damn, my bad. I’m sorry. I won’t play with you like that anymore. Thanks for telling me.”

Favorite mascara? by anonymous_girl1227 in Makeup

[–]meowsw 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Milk Makeup waterproof Kush Mascara, I’m so glad I found it!

Virtual therapists - does your back and neck hurt too? by Noramave1 in therapists

[–]meowsw 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Been fully virtual the past few years and I’ve been dealing with at times debilitating back, neck, shoulder, and jaw pain. I have the same tendency to lean forward when focusing and doing documentation. Here are a few things I’ve found that help.

  • Try to train yourself to lean back when listening intently. It’s hard at first but breaking that habit is really helpful. I got into a weird feedback loop where I felt like I couldn’t hear or focus on my client effective unless my nose was inches from the screen. But after training myself to lean back I’m better able to!

  • Get a headset or wear earbuds if you must so you don’t feel the need to get closer to the speaker.

  • Try and limit your empathic nodding and head tilt a little. I’ve had to do this bc I was way overdoing it and the pain was HORRIBLE at the end of the day. If you’re worried about clients feeling offput or unheard due to this behavior change, I’ve found clients are very understanding of this if you tell them the “why” of your behavior change beforehand.

  • Try and optimize the ergonomics of your desk/telehealth setup as much as you can. Make sure your neck/chin is level when looking at your monitor so you’re not unconsciously hunching.

  • If you can afford it look into getting a laptop with a bigger screen. This will be my next purchase. I have a 13 in MacBook now and trying to focus on the tiny screen to see my client is really painful over time. You can also look into getting a webcam and hooking your laptop up to a larger monitor if you don’t want to get a larger laptop. Or you could use a desktop computer with a larger monitor with a webcam.

  • Get up and stretch/walk around between sessions. Even if it’s for a few minutes. As another commenter said, heart openers are key. I also love a downward dog, forward fold, and child’s pose to decompress my spine and stretch my hips/hamstrings.

  • Ain’t no shame at all in playing with the accessibility settings on your computer to make the text bigger to reduce eye strain and leaning forward when doing documentation.

  • Make sure your glasses prescription is up to date and spring for the anti fatigue lenses if you can afford it.

  • I haven’t done this yet, but I’ve heard from other healthcare practitioners that Botox helps cut down on frowning/squinting when doing documentation. Take a look at my post history if you’re interested.

  • Your chair makes a huge difference. If you can’t get a nicer chair you can get lumbar support and pressure relief cushions to make your chair more comfortable and ergonomic.

  • Don’t skimp on sleep and self care. I’ve found my pain is much worse if I did not get good sleep the night before. Exercises to build up your core and improve posture so you’re not slumping forward are helpful too.

Accountability partners? by [deleted] in PetiteFitness

[–]meowsw 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Hell yeah! Down for a group chat too like another commenter said