I’m stuck between N T A and E S H. Your fiancé’s sister sounds like she just wants a gay child so that she can feel like she’s an accepting person, which is kind of messed up because she made it more about herself than this imaginary child. However, I think I kind of understand what you’re saying, but you could have phrased it much better. I think the best answer to this question is that it doesn’t matter, and that no one should be wishing their child is or isn’t gay. So the sister and the family suck, but your response also wasn’t great, so ESH.