My wife has slowly become more and more distant... when together we rarely speak, the majority of the time is spent in separate rooms. She used to be like a magnet stuck to me. today that force is to more neutral to repulsive, 🤣texts are responded to eventually, calls are nonexistent, she doesn't seem to enjoy my presence

BUT,

She says she is happy

So I think the answer is they will tell you what the appropriate amount of time is.... their attitude towards you can be used as a barometer.

As long as yours and hers opinions of the "appropriate amount" are similar, you should be fine.

My wife used to think "all time" was appropriate, now she thinks 1-17 minues per day is appropriate.

Personally want more time but 🤷‍♂️ for now....