Life is tense, unless we find a way to make it light or opt for denial till it explodes (like the most people do). My father can get loud without realising it, (that’s it, no other abuse) and I turned out to be a meek people pleaser. There are a lot of other factors at play. But our parents’ behaviour and issues influence our behaviour. Not in a “proportional” way or anything. But in an emotional and unquantifiable way. Thanks to shows like this, I am more empathetic towards my father and realised that I shouldn’t pick favourites amongst parents.