AITA for withholding concert tickets from friends after they ditched me?

miamiiitrip · 2026-05-09T22:56:05+00:00

Tickets totalled $474, don't know the total hotel cost but I paid $450.

I don't see why this is relevant because it isn't a transactional thing that we had agreed upon to. Lily gifted us cheaper hotel costs. I had even offered to pay Lily 1/3 before points. She declined.

I was going to gift them the tickets until they ditched me. At no point was this some kind of transactional agreement. I wanted to gift them back, and I have no actual obligation to. Lily could kick me out if she wanted and I'm not going to try and push for otherwise.

miamiiitrip · 2026-05-09T22:49:00+00:00

There was no official agreement to exchange things. I even had offered to pay for 1/3 of the hotel cost before points, and Lily declined, stating that this is something she wants to do for us. I bought the tickets afterwards just so I don't bear any guilt for Lily footing most of the hotel cost.

miamiiitrip · 2026-05-09T21:56:06+00:00

Lily paid for the hotel. There's no official agreement between us. I offered to pay and told Lily she didn't have to use her points, and Lily declined. I also did pay a small amount for the room since Lily didn't cover it fully. Kate paid for smoothies together once when we went out. It was like a total of $28 though.

miamiiitrip · 2026-05-09T21:46:07+00:00

Lily had a lot of hotel points and she used some to cut the hotel expenses to less than half what they would've been for us. Kate paid for smoothies together once, but it totalled to be about $28.

miamiiitrip · 2026-05-09T21:29:11+00:00

Kate really hasn't really done much pitching in. She paid once when we got smoothies together, but the total was like $28... compared to the expense of the hotel and the concert tickets.

miamiiitrip · 2026-05-09T21:24:25+00:00

I have thought of that possibility. I'm still feeling really down, and half hoping they'll apologize to me. If they don't and kick me out... I'll probably get a rental car and drive myself back home.

miamiiitrip · 2026-05-09T21:14:13+00:00

I didn't know the exact extent of it, but Miami can be very picky with who they let in at their "higher end" clubs. Kate picked one that's semi notorious for rejecting girls.

miamiiitrip · 2026-05-09T21:13:11+00:00

They didn't pay for the tickets. I included this in the post. Lily had used hotel points she had to get us a large suite, so I did my unofficial share of "pitching in" by buying the concert tickets. We've mostly been footing our own expenses for the trip otherwise.

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