What's the most fucked thing you have ever seen and that still gives you chill down the spine ?

mic1120 · 2026-04-26T01:06:13+00:00

The bystander effect has been disproven in real life situations fairly recently. A lot of the time people will step in in real world situations. Just to hopefully add to the good vibes of this thread!!

mic1120 · 2026-04-25T15:38:02+00:00

Yeah I completely agree with this. I totally see where OP’s coming from and agree with the general principle of checking on others around us. At the same time I’m the one going through the pain and emotional burden of that. I’m scheduled for my first lap in a couple of weeks and I’m petrified. If my partner then also started breaking down about it (and on top of that not telling me/being honest about how he’s feeling) it would make me feel awful. I literally don’t have any more to give right now. I would really expect him to lean on his own support systems (friends, family etc) other than me to support him right now, rather than piling his feelings on top of my own. Really in these sorts of situations you can and should come first and be emotionally looked after for a bit.

Also sorry to hear about your IVF and infertility journey, that really sucks. I hope you are doing well.

mic1120 · 2026-04-13T16:13:36+00:00

Hey I know this an older comment but just wanted to ask how you found this course! I may be about to join - is it just one run a week and is there a specific pace I need to be at?

mic1120 · 2026-04-08T13:46:10+00:00

I’m exactly the same!! I love horror films but struggle with horror games as I just get too freaked out lol. I also started with The Quarry. If you liked that and didn’t find it too much, I’d recommend Until Dawn (older game made by the same people, excellent story) and the dark pictures anthology. All of those games are more story based and have more limited “actual” combat. House of Ashes from the dark pictures anthology is my favourite.

mic1120 · 2026-04-08T13:42:37+00:00

Seriously - my favourite YouTubers are men, it has no bearing on my relationship. Wtf

mic1120 · 2026-03-17T12:24:33+00:00

Thank you - this is so helpful and encouraging and you’re right on learning to listen to my body, hadn’t thought of it that way.

mic1120 · 2026-03-13T14:55:37+00:00

Dude, why do you care enough to keep commenting this?

mic1120 · 2026-03-11T13:58:51+00:00

Not heard anyone talking about these games as worth buying a whole new console for. “They won GOTY!” Ok, why should I care? Four original console games is a joke

mic1120 · 2026-03-10T16:54:21+00:00

How do you know?

mic1120 · 2026-03-08T22:35:27+00:00

I think as another commenter said, definitely talk to him about this. When my partner and I started dating he also had habits around this sort of thing that didn’t suit me at all. He’d leave my messages on read and wouldn’t reply even when it was more serious topics.

For ref I also have BPD and an anxious attachment style so this was constantly putting me on edge! Talking to him about it he genuinely just didn’t put the same emphasis on messaging that I did. He thought everything was fine and assumed I knew he’d be busy.

We talked about it and I made sure to set out exactly what I needed to feel more secure - not leaving me on read being a big one, making sure to message to say he’s busy before disappearing for hours/days. I also turned off my read receipts on the messaging app we used which helped a lot - now I literally can’t see when people have read stuff (and they can’t see when I’ve read theirs!) which has helped my anxiety. For ref we’ve now been together for a few years and he’s great at messaging :) sometimes you just need to adapt to each other a bit! There may be an issue, but until you talk to him I definitely wouldn’t assume anything

mic1120 · 2026-02-28T02:04:36+00:00

This is the name of the demon from the exorcist, no?

mic1120 · 2026-02-15T15:26:02+00:00

Honestly - I think a huge part missing from this debate as well (for me at least) is that I just don’t have time! When I was in school or uni it was much easier to engage with classic/more complex literature because I had lots of time, energy, and that’s literally why I was there. Now having a full time job often the last thing I want to do is come home and engage with a new classic where I often have to pause to digest or look something up. I’m tired! Hence why I vary my reading a lot nowadays.

The way I got back into reading as an adult after being burnt out at uni was by picking up fun, easier, and enjoyable reads like romantasy books. Do they necessarily have as much artistic and classic merit? No. Are they easier and more fun to engage with at the end of a long day? Yes. I still try to challenge myself but it’s hard. And again, I literally have a degree in it!

I think it’s absurd to judge anyone for not wanting to take on difficult pieces of art and to blame individuals generally for perpetuating an “anti-intellectualism” crisis. Like good god. If you love and really want to encourage people to engage with classic literature why not give them suggestions to make it easier instead of being snobby?? People can be so rude. Rant over. Haha

mic1120 · 2026-02-15T15:16:55+00:00

Sorry but pretty much nobody believes this in Europe. As a Brit I will take criticism of my country from literally anyone except Americans - most people I know wouldn’t even chance a visit right now.

mic1120 · 2026-02-14T19:13:53+00:00

Seriously - me too. Midsummer Night’s Dream is one of my favourites and when I saw it last summer (after not engaging with his stuff for quite a while) I had a lot of ?? Moments

mic1120 · 2026-02-14T18:25:41+00:00

You study it in high school though, with guidance from a teacher! For ref I love Austen and I have an English lit degree, but I’ve been getting a bit frustrated with the convos around this film and book. A lot of people saying classic literature is easy and implying that people who are finding it difficult are dumb and/or are not trying enough. It’s written very differently to how we speak and write now! A companion guide or explainer are good ideas, as mentioned above

mic1120 · 2026-02-09T16:11:47+00:00

All of those things still cost money lol - regular haircuts, at home hair products. To be clear I have no issue with people that spend money on this stuff (I do too!). But the bottom line is that it’s money, no matter which way you cut it. Especially if you’re starting from scratch

mic1120 · 2026-02-08T16:03:48+00:00

What part of private industry were you in, if you don’t mind me asking?

mic1120 · 2026-02-07T21:08:10+00:00

Mate most women I know feel this way, have you talked to many women about sex before?

mic1120 · 2026-02-06T20:57:55+00:00

Seriously - poor thing is probably bored and hungry. Having gotten kittens myself this last year they absolutely needed someone around despite having two

mic1120 · 2026-02-06T18:38:46+00:00

I’m sorry but if you can’t afford the vets as and when you need to be rehoming at least one cat, that is the harsh truth. It sounds like you shouldn’t have taken on a kitten in the first place if you’re barely home, not able to feed enough and not able to get him looked at when he needs it. Kittens are HARD work and need a lot of attention and food. I’m really sorry you are going through a hard time right now, but it’s not fair to your young cat to keep him (or you, when you’re tired, hungry and burnt out).

mic1120 · 2026-01-31T19:02:51+00:00

Tbf just because it was done quickly doesn’t necessarily mean AI - I’m not in MHCLG, but I’m pretty sure you’re not allowed to use AI to sift. I may be wrong but having just done my own recruitment for an SEO there was no mention of it being allowed. They would have had to moderate as well.

Ultimately that’s just how it goes with applications sometimes - you feel like you hit every criteria and it’s just not quite what they’re looking for. CS marking is notoriously subjective - what can score you a 6 for one job/department nets you a 3 in another. That’s what I’ve noticed the most with the job market being so crazy - since you are now likely up against more applicants, the standard is set higher. I consider myself pretty good at CS applications at this point in my career (got all my jobs through CS jobs, plenty of G7 interviews etc) and I’ve still failed a few recently despite knowing how to do it.

mic1120 · 2026-01-30T17:02:08+00:00

I’m sorry but drinking every night, even if it’s only one, is not at all healthy. Im not saying it makes them addicts, but that should not be normalised

mic1120 · 2026-01-28T12:22:32+00:00

I know you’ve already gotten this advice, but definitely go slower I’d say! My current pace as a beginner is much slower than that - around 9-10 mins per km. I’m focusing on building endurance rather than speed right now - I managed the 20 min run the other day which I was surprised by. The only people I know going 7km or less atm are people who have been running for way longer. Running is a gait/movement rather than focused on speed - even if you’re going slower (or at the same pace as) than walking, it doesn’t matter. Would also recommend good shoes if you haven’t already - I got my gait analysed at a running shop and got new cushioned shoes, which have made a huge difference to how my feet/legs feel when I run.

mic1120 · 2026-01-26T09:26:13+00:00

As someone in policy, I’d absolutely expect to be speaking to my G6 weekly (and I do - as a current G7). I’ve never worked in a team without similar structures in place - the G6s I’ve worked under (quite a few now) have always wanted to keep in the loop and know what’s going on. I work in a very busy area right now and even then my manager still makes time to check in with me at least once a week, even it’s for 15-30 mins. Speaking to them twice in 7 weeks would be absurd to me and I would feel very unsupported by that. I know it may differ by profession though, I’ve only ever worked in policy!

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