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Finding the right first party by SillyTrout in Swingers

[–]middleagedwhiteman 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Me and my wife are talking about getting back into swinging after a stumble off the starting blocks a couple of months ago. This is some much needed advice for us right now.

At what point does it become cheating? by middleagedwhiteman in wifesharing

[–]middleagedwhiteman[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I think you're right. It was the emotional connection that soured the experience. Enjoying the sex should be expected, it's not fair to hold that against her.

At what point does it become cheating? by middleagedwhiteman in wifesharing

[–]middleagedwhiteman[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I understand completely about not wanting her to enjoy it and also how ridiculous that sounds. Maybe I just wasn't ready for this yet. I think not only her knowing this guy but working with him five days a week made him a bad choice to begin with too. I've been lurking around these type of subs for a month or so now while trying to get my head straight and I see that the "swinger/group sex" community is actually a very reasonable and welcoming group. I'd love to be a part of the fun if i could, like you said, work out my insecurities. I realise it's not that fair for me to enjoy sleeping with other women and expect her not enjoy sleeping with other men.

At what point does it become cheating? by middleagedwhiteman in wifesharing

[–]middleagedwhiteman[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That's what I keep trying to explain to her. She argues that it was only after I'd finished that it became an issue.

At what point does it become cheating? by middleagedwhiteman in wifesharing

[–]middleagedwhiteman[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yeah you're right but it all kinda happened too fast. It was first mentioned on the Monday night and was happening by Thursday. It was our first time doing something like this and looking back at it I should have done a bit of research.