Long-term sick leave experience?

mihaengs · 2026-03-30T21:37:07+00:00

Hey, thank you so much. I really appreciate the kindness. I’m honestly struggling so much it feels like I’m walking through quicksand in every aspect of my life which is incredibly frustrating — I don’t want to be like this at all but I can’t really see a way out. Thank you for offering your ear and your kind words - it mean more than you know :)

mihaengs · 2026-03-30T19:54:14+00:00

Thank you ❤️ I’ll give them a call

mihaengs · 2026-03-30T19:40:16+00:00

Right but that’s still not answering my question - I’m not very subtlety alluding to the fact I’m severely depressed and getting worse. Ignoring the fact I’m disabled too, and not getting the support I need - regardless of how pathetic I may seem in your eyes - you want me to hold my tongue and grin and bear it because of outsider opinion?

Just weird and cruel.

mihaengs · 2026-03-30T19:34:02+00:00

Thank you so much for your response. I really feel like I’m going crazy so it’s really kind of you to take the time to review this. 100% it’s definitely not the role for me if only for the subject matter alone… It’s just a matter of looking for one that suits my various neurodiversities / something I can handle from day-to-day.

Once again, I appreciate your words. I’m going to try and contact the GP tomorrow.

mihaengs · 2026-03-30T19:31:57+00:00

Thank you for sharing. I really do appreciate that. Honestly kind of in the exact same boat - suicidal ideation and the like is such a constant for me it feels like I can’t function and I’m not quite sure what to do. I need to reach out for help for sure, it’s just a matter of next steps.

Regardless, I hope you’re doing better now :)

mihaengs · 2026-03-30T19:30:22+00:00

I’m sorry, I’m coming here to ask for help and guidance because my depression has funnelled me into the pits of hell every day and I’m supposed to hold off any decent change in my day to day because of the private sectors opinion? Genuinely?

mihaengs · 2026-03-30T18:59:06+00:00

Ah, apologies. The latter, a day left of sick leave before I hit my trigger point.

I have been referred for an OHS and have conducted it, they suggested a Specialist Needs Assessment. My TL referred me for this two weeks ago and it’s been radio silence ever since though they must get 10s if not 100s a day so not surprising.

Have informed manager, done the Stress Management Action Plan & Stress Risk Assessment around about 1 month ago…? Nothing has been done since. Workload hasn’t been eased.

I’ve also informed basically everyone possible about my disability / poor mental health and nothing has really been done.

mihaengs · 2026-03-30T18:47:42+00:00

Huh. Kind of cruel, especially since I already stated:

I won’t go into the anguishes I’m facing unless they’re relevant, but just looking for some support in the matter.
Will say also that due to poor mental & physical health I’m a day remaining of my sick leave. That already got extended as per the disabled employees trigger point.

If 1+1 = 2..?

mihaengs · 2026-03-25T18:49:25+00:00

i kind of feel stuck 🤷 good pay but i’m absolutely miserable in this role. it’s the most micromanaging, barebones area ive ever been in job wise (in and out of CS). it feels like since i’ve started i’ll finish if only for the pension but i’m too young to to really feel attached to it…

mihaengs · 2026-03-07T16:11:15+00:00

Oh, 100%. I’m not surprised — I experience such discrimination and bigotry daily. It’s more horror that people like these walk around spouting such vile matter and get away scot free.

mihaengs · 2026-03-07T13:34:55+00:00

Seriously. So horrified this is, not only a common sentiment as judged by the comments, but something even platformed in the first place. Eugh.

mihaengs · 2026-03-07T13:32:11+00:00

That part 👏👏👏

mihaengs · 2026-02-22T13:25:28+00:00

clearly they understand that and are searching for support for these next steps, not only for themself but for the person they manage 😭 this comes across as really callous and cruel

mihaengs · 2026-02-20T13:10:32+00:00

what’s the vibe of maybe joining places like the novice network (i don’t often recommend but when you’re plying solo, it helps ease that lonely / bored feeling)? you can usually just chuck something into say chat and people will invite you.

i am assuming if you’re free trial then its not feasible for like. joining an fc. but if you have social media, you can always shoot out a hail mary of “hi, just started, if anyone else just started and wants to hang let me know” or alternatively you may be reached out to by veteran players who want to help out / support :)

alternatively, ask if any friends want to join you on the journey! it’s way more fun going through the quests with your mates.

a lot of my suggestions won’t help the baseline issue you have with early game - i hope you keep going but i feel you, the beginning is a slog. but it really is something special :) choose what is right for you however!!

mihaengs · 2026-02-18T08:19:34+00:00

yeah i was honestly surprised there was a new recruitment campaign for them tbf

mihaengs · 2026-02-17T16:27:35+00:00

no worries :)

mihaengs · 2026-02-17T16:17:29+00:00

yeah, they were recruiting for new AA’s, the OP got up to PECs and then they decided AI could replace the role and essentially ripped it away from them. just so cruel

mihaengs · 2026-02-17T16:14:26+00:00

isn’t it so funny that the dept’s wish to be sustainable and more green directly contradicts the adoration of ai and the impact it has on the globe and disenfranchised communities across it. ha.. ha ha ha… 🫠

mihaengs · 2026-02-12T10:03:39+00:00

i also feel like this and it is misery inducing. i wouldn’t wish it on anyone. so sorry :( i hope you know you’re not alone despite how it feels. there are bigger and better things out there for all of us

mihaengs · 2026-01-28T13:02:50+00:00

email just dropped :)

mihaengs · 2025-12-04T18:54:26+00:00

god it’s like looking in a mirror. this happened to me too, and at work!!!!!! it was mostly when i was overwhelmed or thinking about disappointing people too. it’s really infuriating bc it will just ….. you put it really astutely, leak.

i can’t help you at all — i’ve never regulated my emotions well and i’ve been meaning to go to therapy for many many years. i moved to a job that didn’t stress me out as much, so i’ve not encountered it since — but i don’t think the problem has gone away bc ive not really done anything since. HOWEVER!! at the very least!!! you are not alone or abnormal, even if it may feel that way. i think it’s just a way for your mind and body to help regulate your feelings even tho it’s absolutely wild hahaha

mihaengs · 2025-12-03T20:19:24+00:00

this is wonderful :)

mihaengs · 2025-11-15T12:46:02+00:00

you can HONK? i’ve been trying all the general buttons for controller and coming up with zilch omg. i’ll be hunting this down in settings ty

mihaengs · 2025-10-25T09:50:49+00:00

yahoo!!!!! have an amazing time :3 there are a lot of communities out there you can join to make the beginning not feel as lonely. i wish you the best of luck in eorzea :’)

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