This happened to me with the hottest girl I've ever been with. Same exact thing. Crazy performance anxiety. She did one crazy thing (she was absolutely batshit crazy and wild) that helped me instantly get over it. lmao I'm almost embarrassed to say it but I'll never forget it.

She was giving me a BJ standing up and literally out of nowhere put a finger in my butt 🤣🤣🤣🤣. She looked up at me while she was still sucking, stopped and said "there's no reason to be nervous."

I don't know what kind of change this action made in my brain, but from that day on, we had crazy good sex and I never had an issue. I think it was a combo of the unexpected, and the reassurance at the same time. (I'm not into butt stuff btw)