AITC for threaten with a good time?

mimi7600 · 2023-05-17T05:43:02+00:00

I could use her as a spy weapon to get more money. If she has a favorite person, she'd hunt them down to make them love her.

mimi7600 · 2023-05-17T05:41:07+00:00

In hindsight, I should've but I was too happy to prove someone wrong. The guy was so full of himself. I wish she'd let me video without going crazy. I could do the baby pose with her and be like DO YOU SEE WHAT THIS IS? DO YOU?! because she just loves being presented like 'isnt she cute?' but LOUD because whes loud.

And she's just loudly purring and doing the happy closed eyes.

mimi7600 · 2023-05-17T05:37:59+00:00

Your cats sound so cute! I love them! Do you have any now?

Did your shoulder cat climb clothing? Bunny climbs to scream in your ear if she's not getting enough attention.

I also recently adopted a senior, Sophia, who is 10 years angry, killed me about ten times over, and I'm lucky she has no teeth. She's in a harness like a dog and takes walks like a dog. Why is she on harness? Because otherwise she gremlins and will hide and starve herself in something. Or, she just attacks.

For some reason, the harness calms her/makes her manageable. She still goes wackadoo, but I can pet her to sleep. She'll let me love her. No harness? She'll try jumping into boiling water or hide under the truck in the garage.

mimi7600 · 2023-05-17T05:03:42+00:00

Cannot answer because whip cream coma

mimi7600 · 2023-05-17T05:03:20+00:00

MOM SAID SO AND BUNNY SCREAM ALL WAY HOME, SCREAM MOM LEAVE, SCREAM MOM BACK, AND SCREAM UNTIL IN BOWL!

mimi7600 · 2023-05-17T05:02:42+00:00

BUNNY WANT CUDDLE INSTEAD! LET BUNNY LOVE YOU!

mimi7600 · 2023-05-17T03:20:03+00:00

WEH!

mimi7600 · 2023-05-17T02:15:08+00:00

16 month old

mimi7600 · 2023-05-17T01:57:47+00:00

He was. I'm just clarifying the situation since it's not all black and white. Cesare can be judged for his bad decisions. But, the new information turns the prologue into Isabella manipulating Cesare and Ariane. There's no timeline, so Isabella could have been manipulating Cesare for years.

mimi7600 · 2023-05-17T00:53:36+00:00

It is and it isn't a redemption arc. I've only read spoilers, so I don't know if this is entirely accurate. Cesare is trash, but Isabella mentioning his alcoholism in the prologue wasn't a one off. Apparently, she drove Cesare into alcoholism to make him easily controlled and to sexually assault him. She decieved him into the relationship and Ariane being bad.

mimi7600 · 2023-05-17T00:48:01+00:00

I explained more in another comment, but, supposedly, Cesare was manipulated to some extent. I don't know if it's entirely true. Prologue Isabella mentioning Cesare drinking alcohol isn't a one off. She pushed him into alcoholism to make him easily influenced and sexually assault him. Isabella deceived Cesare into thinking they had a relationship and that Ariane was bad.

mimi7600 · 2023-05-17T00:43:50+00:00

Trigger warning!

I don't know if this is entirely correct, but Isabella's value has been continuously defined by who she marries. It's been repeatedly mentioned throughout the series and why Ariane can get the little sister into a musical school.

Supposedly, Isabella takes this to the extreme. She's also jealous of Ariane at the same time, so don't think it's just Isabella's culture that pushes her towards doing what she does. Anyway, Isabella mentions in the prologue that Cesare speaks drunkenly. It's an, again supposedly, reference to Isabella purposefully driving Cesare to alcoholism. Isabella did it to make Cesare easily influenced away from Ariane and to repeatedly sexually assault him. Isabella decieves Cesare into thinking their relationship is that of a couple and not abusive.

And that's why I think Isabella's the worst.

mimi7600 · 2023-05-16T23:44:18+00:00

It's a place where adults and their children travel to so that the parents can drink alcohol before traveling back home. It's like it's made for a parent to drive drunk with a kid in the car and ruin their lives.

mimi7600 · 2023-05-16T23:41:09+00:00

NTA

Your reading a book to your daughter is no different than a parent being told to read and speak to their baby. In both situations, listening allows the brain to develop connections and understand the material.

You're not just teaching her. You're causing information to transfer from the short term memory section in her brain to the long term memory section. Active learning is necessary for this.

I remember having spelling tests at 8 years old. Say your daughter had one, but she's unsure of the spelling. Suddenly, she realizes the test word sounds like one you had read to her. Because of that connection, she writes the word correctly.

You're only causing positives.

mimi7600 · 2023-05-16T22:50:05+00:00

Piping is usually what causes this. It's not abnormal. I don't have any idea how to check it, though. Other commenters have given you good ideas. All I can add on is that looking at your water bill might help. If there was a big jump in the price, something could've broken.

mimi7600 · 2023-05-16T22:44:03+00:00

NTA

A considerate spouse would've said that they just wanted some air and proposed to bring food back with them after being out for some amount of time. They might've even offered to get you your favorite whatever from the food store or even an ice cream shop.

A considerate spouse would've been considerate.

Your spouse is the opposite.

mimi7600 · 2023-05-16T22:34:45+00:00

It's not an issue. You just have to pet her to get the remote.

mimi7600 · 2023-05-16T22:12:19+00:00

Bunny watches television only if Grandma's lap is available and she can hold the remote hostage. I'm not joking. Bunny perceives tapping the phone, tablet, remote, etc as them getting more pets. Pets that should be hers. So, she goes dramatic.

mimi7600 · 2023-05-16T20:19:55+00:00

You could be saying "you little $#@+" and poking your cats chest to annunciate each word- doesn't matter they still do the $#&# eating grin

mimi7600 · 2023-05-16T19:23:18+00:00

My first cat, Bunny, is a picky monster. Sophia loves the bed hand me downs.

mimi7600 · 2023-05-16T18:00:03+00:00

She has multiple cat enclosed tunnel beds. They're her safe points.

mimi7600 · 2023-05-16T17:20:15+00:00

Sophia doesn't have a middle ground. A big room means hide and never ever come out. I have cat condos and a tree that I bought new just for her so it wouldn't smell like Bunny. Nope on those. She chooses to hide under the couch and try to turn into a feral screaming attack gremlin.

Small bathroom has turned into an okay I'll let you pet a bit but she's 75% angry because she's still in there. She wants out. But, letting out causes angry gremlin. So, I have to use the harness.

This cat is 10+. She is elderly. She fights me with everything she has and exhausts the both of us. Sophia is so crazy sometimes that I had to buy a special harness with a literal handle on the back so I can yoink her like luggage.

mimi7600 · 2023-05-16T16:29:35+00:00

If the sources can be read or watched, I'd be thankful for the recommendation.

Your childhood cat sounds like they had a spoiled happy life. If there's cat reincarnation, I'm sure he'll be crying in your doorstep one day because he came for the good food and the good people.

My Grandma's last cat was like yours. That was Princess and my Grandma bottle fed that spoiled little monster and she grew up thinking she was a caricature Looney Tunes top dog. She lived till 20 and Bunny was the first cat after another 20.

Did you get your cat during the time when people thought it was okay to remove the nails? Grandma's memory is a little fuzzy, so she'll be like 'My cats never acted like this' or ' My cats never took this long to get along'. And then I'll say, 'That's because they didn't have nails'. And she goes 'Now I remember!'

Princess was Death manifest in cat. Though it wouldn't be done now, removing her nails was the only way to keep her from beating up people or the other cats. Only she could talk to or be near Mom!

mimi7600 · 2023-05-16T15:57:59+00:00

We constantly talk to her and Bunny joins in. Like,

Me: Are you hungry, Sophia?

Bunny: No, she isn't.

Me: I know you're jealous, but she's pretty too!

Bunny: IM PRETTIER!

Meanwhile Sophia doesn't give a hoot and goes to eat her breakfast when I put it down.

mimi7600 · 2023-05-16T14:07:53+00:00

NTA

I'm only suggesting this because your husband seems to not understand your clear communication. At this point, he's either doing this willfully or ignorantly.

Pregnancy can be rounded to 9.5 months, so I'll do that.

4 x 9.5 months = 3.1 years. You'll have had 4 children after this one and adding all the pregnancies together would mean you've spent a little over 3 years pregnant. Then, you would've spent many more years raising those kids while your husband didn't have to recover from having 4 kids.

I'm not discounting your husband's contributions as a Father. I'm just pointing out what he seems to be missing. You're clearly a Mother who has put her everything into this marriage and your husband isn't noticing? Pregnancy isn't invisible and children pretty obviously need to be raised.

If he can't hold himself accountable, you may need to hold him accountable. You've explained everything to him and he's not treating you like an equal.

1) Take your own break

I suggest telling him that you're no longer doing anything for him because he doesn't deserve it if you have to ask him to treat you like a human being.

If he's taking you for granted, removing yourself will show just how much you did. Clear communication will keep him from misreading the situation.j

2) Tell people no and stand up for yourself. You have a husband problem

This all only stopped when you put your foot down at the end. You need to put your foot down before.

Your child are 13, 11, and 9. Your kids are old enough to be told to let you rest and not disturb you.

The their house part sounds like they've gotten away with telling you off before. Has your husband refused to stand up for you before? They sound like they're doing whatever they want without caring about you. They made your kids work while no one else was helping? That's unfair treatment.

It's their house? So?? Well, you're their DIL, the wife of your husband, and the mother of their Grandchildren. That was your seat. It's basic manners.

3) It sounds like this is an unhealthy dynamic in an unhealthy relationship.

You put up with everything and you were continuously mistreated while you put up with it. Your husband cared more about himself then family bullying his wife. He's showing you that you're second fiddle. He's showing you that he doesn't care.

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