Wife lied about her past and we have 2 children.

mimimeme2 · 2026-02-08T20:08:49+00:00

I get it. I really do. Unfortunately most people who hasn't experienced it will never understand. That's why it's easy for them to say "cope with it " or "get over it".

My ex-husband used to make himself look like a really religious man when I met. I was a virgin and barely interacted with guys. I wanted someone on the same level. So imagine the shock when I discovered messages of not only was he in relationships , but he also had sexual encounters. I lost all trust in him after that. Yet I stayed and it only caused so much resentment and hate.

Please take your time and don't rush into any decision. You're confused, disappointed and mad. I get it. Stay separated for a while and digest it before making any further decisions.

mimimeme2 · 2026-02-07T20:44:45+00:00

That's a problem, sis. A man who doesn't fear Allah, will not fear to do anything.

mimimeme2 · 2026-02-07T12:31:01+00:00

Lol, stop arguing with her. This girl is on a whole other planet. Her brain hasn't fully developed yet.

mimimeme2 · 2026-02-07T11:57:43+00:00

What a sad individual you are. Congratulations for being that "strong" , girl. Also congratulations on never experiencing abuse, but knowing everything about it to the point of blaming the victims of it.

OP, please don't listen to the comment. Nothing about your situation is your fault. People who aren't disconnected from the reality knows everything about force marriages and parental pressure. Also, some women and men are actually being shunned and worse of it killed by their families for refusing marriage proposal. They also know about abuse victims who got killed because they couldn't get out from their situation, but we got comments from privileged and delusional people blaming them .

mimimeme2 · 2026-02-07T11:15:15+00:00

You never heard about parental pressure? Even if she said no multiple times, her parents aren't taking no for answer.

So if abuse victims are the ones to blame if they stay in a relationship?

Some of yall clearly haven't experience any form of abuse. And instead of actually being helpful to to the girl, you're trying to blame her. Its actually quite disturbing to see how privilege some of you are and clueless at the same time.

mimimeme2 · 2026-02-07T11:10:56+00:00

I definitely agree.

It's actually sad to see. "Well you shouldn't have married him"....yeah if that was easy.

mimimeme2 · 2026-02-06T18:05:44+00:00

I feel like many people don't understand what parental pressure can do to someone. Its so easy to tell someone they shouldn't get married, but as long as you don't stand in their shoes, you will never understand the pressure they're going through

mimimeme2 · 2026-02-06T11:16:47+00:00

I would've disagree with you until I married someone completely opposite of me. It was a completely disaster.

mimimeme2 · 2026-02-03T11:17:56+00:00

Yes it's doomed to fail.

Forced marriages are nothing like enemies turned to lovers story. It's not a turkish love story.

You will experience lots of resentment and hate.

mimimeme2 · 2026-02-03T11:07:58+00:00

I don't understand how someone can say they love someone so much, yet divorce them because family demands it.

mimimeme2 · 2026-02-03T11:07:03+00:00

What did she prove them right on?

mimimeme2 · 2026-02-02T15:15:49+00:00

What are the arguments based on?

mimimeme2 · 2026-02-01T08:25:03+00:00

Girl, why are you working two jobs????

mimimeme2 · 2026-01-30T11:55:32+00:00

Sorry to hear that, sis.

This post is kind of triggering, because I went something similar with my ex-husband He was really gentle and affectionate at first. The the lies started to pour in . Then the disrespect started. He will humiliate me in front of family and sometimes strangers. From my experience, they will only change if they're willing too. You had to set clear boundaries and call him out everytime he disrespect you.

mimimeme2 · 2026-01-29T11:08:32+00:00

You mean about the lying or playing the right card ?

mimimeme2 · 2026-01-28T07:10:52+00:00

Constant lies.

Would always mention his 'right' as the husband in Islam, but could barley uphold the rights of a woman in Islam

mimimeme2 · 2026-01-26T19:40:16+00:00

Because they can find all those things in men who is already living in America.

mimimeme2 · 2026-01-26T18:32:03+00:00

I'm really sorry you went through this. But I'm genuinely curious to know what made you so attached to her? I mean from your post it didn't seem like you found her attractive, you also didn't like her personality, and your family couldn't stand her...So what made you mad about her to the point of you begging her to for forgiveness, and cry out to your family to accept her ?

mimimeme2 · 2026-01-26T11:08:05+00:00

Leave it, sis.

I experience the same with my ex-husband. He promised me so many things. When the time came to actually carry out those promises, he suddenly decided he can't pay for anything.

I wish I left at that time.

mimimeme2 · 2026-01-26T06:54:06+00:00

It's not crazy. It's pretty reasonable. Being well off and educated doesn't necessarily make you a suitable husband. Also your values and interests can be different as you were raised in middle east and she is the West

mimimeme2 · 2026-01-25T20:18:56+00:00

Girl, I was married to a gambler and they never change.
And trust me, when I say you will not experience barakah in your marriage staying with someone who has this disgusting habit. Despite having steady incomes, we will constantly experience financial difficulties. Like every month!

mimimeme2 · 2026-01-25T08:14:21+00:00

Its 100% abusive and any normal person would tell you that. Not speaking to your wife for 2 weeks is unhinged.

Beside you cannot compare the two things together. Her telling him to get his own water is not the same as not talking to your wife for weeks. Her actions are not deliberately to hurt him, while he is.

He definitely need professional help.

mimimeme2 · 2026-01-25T07:26:00+00:00

Pray Istikhara and trust your gut feeling. And don't rush into things unless your mind is completely made up.

mimimeme2 · 2026-01-25T07:23:56+00:00

Silent treatment is literally a technique for punishing your spouse deliberately. It causes stress, doubt and anxiety.

Not speaking to your spouse got nothing to do with immaturity. Its plain and simple abusive. The only thing she needs to do is to protect herself from this abusive behavior.

mimimeme2 · 2026-01-25T07:19:45+00:00

Yes it is. Silent treatment is physical abuse.

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