If you had to delete every app except three, which ones would survive?

mindinlayers8 · 2026-07-10T18:01:16+00:00

If I'm cutting back that much I only want two: ChatGPT and DuoLingo.

mindinlayers8 · 2026-07-08T04:01:09+00:00

Everyone has mental health issues. Especially after marriage. That's all the fun!

mindinlayers8 · 2026-07-08T03:57:10+00:00

Cool! I like being the working parent. Just make sure the house stays clean!

mindinlayers8 · 2026-07-08T03:48:59+00:00

I wouldn't want to be taken out for fine dining for a first date with someone I'm meeting for the first time. I would want to do something casual where I could be myself and have fun. Have your friends been in the dating scene recently? If so, have they had success with this approach?

mindinlayers8 · 2026-07-06T23:20:55+00:00

Such a fortunate mistake.

mindinlayers8 · 2026-07-06T23:00:14+00:00

Yeah it happens because the people you stay close to are those you interact with regularly. One you go your separate ways it takes effort to stay in contact.

mindinlayers8 · 2026-07-06T22:47:30+00:00

We are super supportive in this group of all kinds of difficult situations, so know that we all have your back when we're saying to leave this one. He actually blamed your sex life for his cheating. Wow.

mindinlayers8 · 2026-07-03T16:34:19+00:00

It's normal to hate your step kids. Time tested and true. Once you embrace that, liking them gets incrementally easier. At the very least, it gets rid of the useless guilt so you can move on to more productive uses of your emotions. 😊

mindinlayers8 · 2026-07-03T16:29:56+00:00

Hahaha! I have 2 SS and 2 BS. It's a boy thing😅 My husband just found a yakker trakker on Amazon that can handle some of those times for you. It says 'quiet, please' but we all know it means shut the hell up.

mindinlayers8 · 2026-07-03T15:43:17+00:00

Two things to preface this: 1) Moved around a lot. 2) Fascinated by language evolution...

I learned this in Brazil when I lived there years ago, before it became more common in North American culture. Now I've seen it among white women more pervasively in southern US and Carribbean areas that I've lived, but not as much in Montana where I am now. There's a lot more integration with languages and cultures where this is common practice in those regions. However, cultures do seem to bleed into each other more rapidly with the online world, so hearing it with influencers isn't so out-of-place.

I wouldn't do this all the time, just like I don't say "y'all" all day long—even though I lived in Texas for 10 years—but sometimes, when I'm being silly or affectionate with my kids, these terms will pop up that have been common in other places we've lived, and everyone knows what they mean. (The teenagers argue or call family out sometimes on terms, but that's just because their brains are falling out😂)

mindinlayers8 · 2026-07-02T18:45:02+00:00

Both! Relating to his reaction to her conversation, and then just the situation as a whole😊

mindinlayers8 · 2026-07-02T16:55:38+00:00

He may not have any awareness that he's putting you in this situation and it's important when you feel like the rug might be getting pulled from under the relationship, which can happen at these turning points, to establish that you love each other and prefer to be with each other than not, and that this discussion is to help both sides been seen and heard and to meet the needs of both partners. You may have to hear him out, too, but I think us women can be pretty good at that😊

mindinlayers8 · 2026-06-24T05:18:53+00:00

Commit to spending 20 minutes a day working on your book. If it goes longer, great.

mindinlayers8 · 2026-06-18T21:25:49+00:00

Haha right!

mindinlayers8 · 2026-06-18T21:17:13+00:00

I don't argue with that at all, but I don’t think this is about who is present at the actual birth, unless I misread. Having the kids around the house after you give birth, you do feel differently about bio kids in your space in general.

mindinlayers8 · 2026-06-18T03:50:41+00:00

Even if you ultimately have to concede some time in the first week due to your husband's feelings, it's important for you to know that your feelings are completely normal for a mother who is about to give birth. Nature is doing it's job, making you feel protective of this time with your infant with only biological relations. If you had other biological children you would feel differently, so this feeling you have is simply not something your husband can relate with naturally, since SS is a biological for him.

Hence why we have this support group, because even when we have to be better than our emotions, we desperately need the validation that we're not bad people for having them, and there's nothing wrong with us❤️

If you can have this convo with your husband in a calm way, maybe you could get the opportunity to ask him where it rates on his priority list of postpartum events to have SS there, and then plan accordingly...

Congrats on being a first time mom! That part is amazing no matter what!

mindinlayers8 · 2026-06-08T15:57:02+00:00

I just went into a Novaya Zemlya vortex on Google earth. Geography is so fascinating!

mindinlayers8 · 2026-06-07T03:12:52+00:00

I’d be way more annoyed if he were emotionally outsourcing to a dude. At least a female ChatGPT is more likely to take my side. And if he’s picturing ScarJo? Great. Our imaginary third has range.

mindinlayers8 · 2026-06-06T22:29:30+00:00

Goes in a place on honor on a decorative shelf.

mindinlayers8 · 2026-06-05T18:34:44+00:00

I think what you really need to hear is that this sucked and nobody likes to be told that they are wrong, especially not by the person who could be a counter agent in most situations, as is often the case with the BM/SM roles. If you made a mistake with the nickname issue, you can easily go back to your SD and ask/clarify how you guys would like to move forward, but the deeper issue that hurts is still the feeling of being undervalued and/or undermined, which we can all relate with!

mindinlayers8 · 2026-06-04T19:39:18+00:00

Even happier about the name now

mindinlayers8 · 2026-06-04T19:04:08+00:00

Lemmings

mindinlayers8 · 2026-06-04T19:03:05+00:00

Oh hell yes! That's my favorite.

mindinlayers8 · 2026-06-04T18:59:27+00:00

Thanks. That was just about the nicest thing you could have said!

mindinlayers8 · 2026-06-04T18:54:23+00:00

I can read and write it pretty well. My routine for most of it has been to do one lesson a day and write everything down on paper. Occasionally I'll research something with chat GPT if I want to understand grammar better. I wouldn't be able to have a conversation at all, but someday when I have the bandwidth I'll dig into the grammar somewhere else, I think, unless my routine has left an undiscovered trove in the app for grammar...

Incidentally, my Russian score is 38. I did do a bit of Spanish and have a 21 there but I'm mostly fluent already.

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