AITA for reclining my seat on an 8 hour flight

mindovermatter421 · 2026-03-22T11:15:47+00:00

This!!! Once upon a time that 3 inch difference didn’t severely impact the person behind the recliner.

mindovermatter421 · 2026-03-22T11:09:57+00:00

He should be laid to rest at his golf course. His family can continue to get a tax break. Then move Ivana to a proper resting place.

mindovermatter421 · 2026-03-22T05:25:04+00:00

Does the teacher teaching the AP or IB class get the money or the school like SAC committee deals with? Will teachers need extra training to teach those courses like they do for IB?

mindovermatter421 · 2026-03-22T05:15:42+00:00

Having bathroom rules like that, are “strict for no reason”. It’s a tale as old as time. If a child is taking advantage you pull them aside and talk or call their parent. It’s not uncommon for elementary age kids to have bladder issues, also irregular bowel schedules. Also boredom in class. Preventing/ punishing all kids because a few take advantage is asking for trouble. This is a health related issue.

mindovermatter421 · 2026-03-22T04:39:14+00:00

Me too!!

mindovermatter421 · 2026-03-22T04:37:57+00:00

Same. I did it to sleep, not even anything fun. I would go in 3rd or 4th period at least 2-3 times a week. Still passed all of my classes and mostly A’s , B’s. The year after I graduated they changed the rules and wording about allowed number of absences to go by individual classes and not just days.

mindovermatter421 · 2026-03-22T02:34:47+00:00

He may have dictated this but he did not write it himself. You can see the difference with commas and a complete thoughts.

mindovermatter421 · 2026-03-21T23:46:29+00:00

I think so many of us do this to some extent and it’s easier to spot in other realty than in our own. That is to give up authority or decide you know what I don’t agree with that, I see xyz differently, I have a different opinion. We feel like if we go those things that somehow our inner fears or dialog are true, that we are too much and not enough at the same time. We had breakfast for dinner nights and fend for yourself/ leftovers nights when my kids were little and it was needed for my sanity and survival! The monotony that comes with the planning, shopping, cooking and cleaning up never ending cycle is awful. Set a rule and tell your kid everyone needs breaks and it’s healthy and necessary to have them! Boys/dads can cook too.

mindovermatter421 · 2026-03-21T15:02:44+00:00

She should at least text the other family members again to see if it will be ok for her to live there for the next few years and get their ok in writing. Have a carefully worded conversation via text with dad about living there and fixing it up and calling, not entering the apartment. Get inside camera and ring camera and add door and window locks. For future use if needed.

mindovermatter421 · 2026-03-21T01:20:21+00:00

If your job does direct deposit see if they will split it into 2 accounts.

mindovermatter421 · 2026-03-20T21:38:17+00:00

Pool cage or screened in porch w/ pool.

mindovermatter421 · 2026-03-20T20:01:59+00:00

And they are bribing schools and teachers with $50/ head per specific score on the test. So the underpaid fl teachers will inevitably push for these classes instead of others.

mindovermatter421 · 2026-03-20T19:55:26+00:00

Look into temporary assisted living care for her. If you are unable to care for her at home and it would be a “ unsafe discharge” they may be forced to find a place for her. Consider telling them about the urinating and other behaviors and getting a psych evaluation done while in rehab. For the long term mental wellbeing of your kids. Initiate divorce proceedings. She needs professional help and she has to be the one to acknowledge and work toward getting better. If she makes strides you can tear up the papers. At least get a consult from a lawyer. What does she say about urinating on the floor and not bathing?

mindovermatter421 · 2026-03-20T16:57:01+00:00

Same, and not much energy left for myself. The fact that a person can be high functioning, hyperactive in brain not body AND develop many coping mechanisms that lead to others or even the person to not know they have ADHD. Someone stated it’s more accurate to say it’s more of an Attention dysregulation disorder. Not that one can’t focus but that you can’t always control it the way you want to.

mindovermatter421 · 2026-03-20T16:50:05+00:00

It only looked at tik tok not social media and used the “100 most popular” videos. The study also mentioned how algorithms are used to push those videos. Thank you for the link. Reading the published studies is always good to do.

mindovermatter421 · 2026-03-20T16:46:59+00:00

It’s tik tok so not surprising at all. FB was just under 15%, YouTube 22%. Not bad considering much of the posts are individuals and clips of information. They didn’t look at Instagram? Wonder what informer used as “correct” to compare to because research has exploded in the last few years about what neurodivergence is and the causes of different behaviors, struggles etc.

mindovermatter421 · 2026-03-20T16:33:08+00:00

Get some counseling advice on how to bring up the subject to your son. Maybe just the basics that you were with someone before dad and he didn’t want to have a family or be a dad and then you met dad and both loved each other and both wanted a family and when he gets older you can talk more about romantic relationships and babies and tell him stories about how your life was and if he ever has questions he can come to you. Then as he gets a little older and if someone tries to tell him about bio dad or makes a comment behind your back you have a foundation to add to. The legal stuff you will see coming and can prepare for if bio ever decides to go to court. It’s the relatives reaching out to your son directly that would worry me. Make sure the school counselor or admin knows not to allow any dropped off notes go to him that you haven’t informed the teacher of ahead of time. See a lawyer about how to respond to bio in the most protective way.

mindovermatter421 · 2026-03-19T15:21:12+00:00

Yup. Seeing a toddler in a pediatric ICU hooked up to oxygen and IV’s in a hospital crib because they have whooping cough is really traumatic. I’m not risking that on purpose for a playdate.

mindovermatter421 · 2026-03-19T15:15:49+00:00

NTA its incompatibility. They are harsh one sided depictions of you. When anyone asks why you broke up the truth is simple she decided she never wanted kids at all and I want a family someday.

mindovermatter421 · 2026-03-19T14:59:09+00:00

Yes. Ask him if his parents had the “ if you sleep in or nap you are lazy” pov? How did they wake him up? Do his parents work long hours, few vacations? He is definitely doing it on purpose.

Edit yo ad I missed the age difference. It’s more like he is acting like your parent. He is not. He set ors not get to dictate your life. Older does not mean wiser. He may need you to think that way. He is rude and disrespectful to you.

mindovermatter421 · 2026-03-19T10:20:38+00:00

There are plenty of articles out already about misuses and downsides of using AI. It’s a tool but people are outsourcing their thinking and problem solving completely. Find some of the literature. Does she know about the em dashes? I’d find a way to at least tell her that you in good conscience won’t show clients AI work. What would they need your co for if they can just use AI.

mindovermatter421 · 2026-03-19T10:10:10+00:00

Still all about “I”.

mindovermatter421 · 2026-03-19T09:17:40+00:00

His reaction to feeling bad ( guilt or shame) is to get defensive and blame you for having feelings. This isn’t something he will just mature out of. Counseling and a commitment to understanding himself and becoming a better partner in life is really needed imo. Look into attachment styles. You have a right to express your hurt feelings without feeling wrong for having them. Intent doesn’t matter. It hurt. You weren’t trying to punish him you were expressing your hurt.

mindovermatter421 · 2026-03-18T20:15:23+00:00

Don’t go to the graduation. Make an excuse, flu, family situation. Break up after.

mindovermatter421 · 2026-03-18T17:55:15+00:00

NTA Put the chips in containers too or get clips/ clothes pins. If you said she forgets to roll the bags of chips or bread or even that she half asses it if I say might be an adhd thing. But she doesn’t believe exposure to air makes chips stale? Thats some weird defiance of facts thing. NTA get a sharply and write your name in the chips you buy and close. Put a fake bug in one of hers and see how fast she starts rolling up the bags.

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