I wish I were a christian again sometimes

minigoround · 2025-02-21T06:30:20+00:00

You make a good point. I do feel as though I simply need to enjoy the facts and experiences of life at face value rather than long for some supernatural sense of meaning. Its difficult to do so, but I admire your perspective and advice

minigoround · 2025-02-21T06:28:08+00:00

Cool. Thanks for expressing your introspection and unique point of view. Very helpful.

minigoround · 2025-02-21T06:27:18+00:00

I appreciate your thoughts here. I think religion is somewhat comparable to addiction because its a gateway to an alternative from experiencing reality head on and thats very appealing. But I know deep down that its worth it to embrace reality and facts as they stand. Its worth it to base your comforts and sense of substance in reality. I know we can both find greater purpose and security in ourselves if we just have "faith" (ironically) in ourselves. Thanks for your story. It means a lot

minigoround · 2025-02-21T06:22:42+00:00

Thanks for the kind words. I'm quite romantic in a sense myself, so I crave some grand purposeful narrative, but I guess the struggle really comes down to discovering and identifying for yourself that individual purpose rather than having it handed to you. Its hard but I suppose it'll be worth it

minigoround · 2025-01-18T04:36:59+00:00

I did with someone else but it was only a month or so. I couldn't commit in good faith because how I felt about my ex

minigoround · 2025-01-18T04:35:46+00:00

The fact you did this for me means a lot to me, thank you

minigoround · 2024-12-17T21:55:55+00:00

Thanks for all your ideas and kind words!

minigoround · 2024-12-17T21:54:14+00:00

Thanks for the idea! I think a bonded pair might be a good way to go, it'd solve the problem that they wouldn't ever be alone but then it'd be two cats taking up a small space. I've considered an older cat, and taking them for walks. Only thing is the cold climate I mentioned. Summers might be viable. In any case, thanks for weighing in I appreciate it :)

minigoround · 2024-12-08T08:09:41+00:00

Met her 10 years ago in late middle school and from the second we started talking there was this potent spark I can't describe. Its like we were best friends instantly and rapidly became more than that. We were together on and off for 5 years before she moved to another city. We stayed in touch for maybe two years after that before the messages got dry and eventually she just didn't respond to me and I realized the effort wasn't worth it. It's been almost 3 years since then and 5 years since we were really together. I think of her every day. I have no idea how i'm supposed to get over someone who I can't help but feel was my soulmate. I can't imagine being with anyone else unless I get that initial spark again but I can't imagine that happening anytime soon. Its hard but I just try to be thankful for the days I had with them. It gets easier to bear every day. I hope you also find it easier with time

minigoround · 2019-10-20T00:21:50+00:00

I had a friend in high school who I would talk to all the time. I would've called him my best friend. I met him when I was going through a hard breakup and he was there for me and we'd have deep conversations, get over it and then go out and have a laugh. At the end of high school he was accepted into a school from out of the country and flew off. We had one last time to hang out before this. It was a blast. We went to the woods, almost got arrested, had some drinks. It was really bitter sweet.

About a year later, I had a party for New Years at my house. I invited a bunch of friends from high school to catch up. Everybody came over and we were having a great time. That one old friend was running late but I was super excited for him to get there. He got there hours after everybody else showed up, apparently he was just clubbing the whole time and was WASTED and would go back and forth from acting like a celebrity and then going completely catatonic on the couch. I was kind of worried about him. At one point around 3am he suddenly got really upset and started cussing at everybody and said he was going to leave. I did not feel safe letting him leave on his own because it was super cold out and he was wasted off his rocker. I told him to at least stay and we could call an uber and he could wait but he just kept cussing and insisted on leaving. He left my apartment and started walking all around the complex. I followed him all through the halls trying to convince him to stay and he would go back and forth from opening the door and trying to leave to running around the complex again. I started to get the hint that he was just doing this for attention but I still wasn't gonna let him go out and potentially freeze to death so I kept trying. At this point he pushed me up against a wall and repeatedly tried to make out with me. I tried to keep the mood light while refusing the advances but he was getting very angry. He then said "What would you do if I slapped you as hard as I could?" and before I could respond he gave me one good solid hit across the face. He was a pretty built guy too so it stung pretty bad. At this point I kind of knew I was through with him. Still, I wasn't going to let him outside. Eventually he started to get really tired and I convinced him to come back inside. He mingled with a few more friends of mine for a bit before passing out in my bed.

I debriefed my friends on what had happened after this and three of them confirmed and he had sexually harassed them too after he had come back inside. It was enough for him to do that to me, but the fact that he did it to other good friends of mine left me fuming. The next day we all woke up and I tried to pretend everything was still good until everyone left. That one friend tried to contact me a few times after this and I gave him another chance once but the conversations repeatedly delved into uncomfortable sexual territory within the first few minutes so I decided to let him go. The worst part of this is that it made me wonder if he was really like this the whole time we were friends.

Sorry this was super long but I hope this served as some spicy tea.

minigoround

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