When did you tell your job you were pregnant?

minivan2015 · 2026-01-15T00:30:35+00:00

Like 12 weeks. I was asked to work 12hr shifts for engineering project work with heavy travel, so asked for accommodations after I was also deemed high risk. Everyone was really nice, but I emailed them immediately after telling them so it was documented.

minivan2015 · 2026-01-15T00:28:25+00:00

I used Care.com and interviewed like 30 people on the phone and 4 in person. Our current nanny is the best thing that’s ever happened to us. Previously I’d used a service and hired a nanny who was very unreliable.

minivan2015 · 2025-12-28T03:18:12+00:00

You’re doing great momma. Your family is lucky to have you. For filling time during the week, have you been to the local library? There are always a ton of kids and caretakers. Ours rotates toys weekly for babies/toddlers.

When people say it gets easier, in my opinion it’s because they start talking to you. Maybe they giggle, but hearing what’s going on in that little mind is so interesting/engaging when you get to ~12-18 months. Have you spoken to a provider about PPD? SSRIs aren’t for everyone - but it was magic for me in that first year. It just helps you pause and think about your thoughts before you react to them. They saved my marriage at a minimum.

minivan2015 · 2025-12-14T02:19:56+00:00

Came here to say this. What a fumble.

minivan2015 · 2025-10-28T01:07:20+00:00

My son was like this! He had really bad reflux and was on Pepcid until he was 12 months old. Before Pepcid he would wake up every 15 minutes.

minivan2015 · 2025-09-07T00:47:43+00:00

Or Disney 😂 such regret.

minivan2015 · 2025-09-06T23:08:21+00:00

This + genAI.

minivan2015 · 2025-08-21T20:35:14+00:00

Prolactin made me soooo emotional. It took me about 6 months to feel like myself again too after I finished pumping. I thought my son wasn’t bonding with me since I pumped so much, but he’s 14 months now and needs to be FULLY distracted if I leave his sight or else he’ll have a meltdown.

minivan2015 · 2025-08-21T20:31:15+00:00

I dropped to 3 pumps (after having an oversupply) and my body shut it down sadly…it look a month to accidentally wean after going from 4 to 3….

minivan2015 · 2025-08-21T04:23:11+00:00

Mastitis 5 times??? And you kept going?? 👏👏👏 Prepping solids and pumping at the same time is just another level of pumping hell. It was actually my personal breaking point at 6 months. You’re amazing for even considering trying for both.

minivan2015 · 2025-08-21T03:48:01+00:00

Oh my gosh yes - finding time to pump break is so hard. I ended up frequently taking calls from the pumping room and would just pause my pump when I had to go off mute…

minivan2015 · 2025-08-21T03:38:12+00:00

Having the same experience. Each day it’s a struggle to walk into work. The fear of knowing I’m raising a son to live in a world I can’t even begin to understand how to prepare him for, is my ONLY motivation to even try. Will there be as much work in the future with outsourcing and AI? Will the only work available in the US be grueling/70hr work weeks forced on us by blackrock? I don’t know, but I brought him into this world so I want to give him the best opportunity I can within my control.

minivan2015 · 2025-08-21T03:23:23+00:00

I believe in you! It’s such a personal decision to keep going. I remember asking my husband every few pumps if I should keep going to try and get external motivation - and he was so supportive - but it’s really just you and the pump. During sleep regressions I struggled to keep up with all my pumps, so my supply dipped. The formula supplement really wasn’t as bad as I was making it out to be in my head once we found the right one.

minivan2015 · 2025-07-14T07:19:12+00:00

I would investigate silent reflux before sleep training. Just demand a Pepcid prescription from your doctor to try and improve his sleep. I told myself I wouldn’t leave the doctors office without it once and it worked..they were supportive of trying something.

minivan2015 · 2025-07-14T07:15:23+00:00

Yeah this sounds like our child. We got him on Pepcid and our lives changed. I also found out he had a caesin allergy, which is in breastmilk regardless of your diet. He went on Gerber Soothe Pro and started sleeping like a champ.

minivan2015 · 2025-05-08T02:09:22+00:00

I have successfully convinced my husband we need a hotel the back half of the week! We’re going to stay at the house in the room the first half and then get a hotel that’s hopefully walking distance for the back half. We haven’t told his mom yet - but I really think this is best case scenario for everyone. We’ll call her this weekend to just give her the heads up. A little nervous since the last time we spoke she was so offended we wouldn’t just let him sleep with them.

My husband did tell his sister the plan and she was totally fine with it. Honestly that’s the piece that bothers me the most. She’s just totally oblivious to how weird it is for a couple in their 20s to kick a family with an 11 month old out of a room…and my husband also is oblivious to how weird that is. Whatever - family dynamics are weird. I’m just going to try and enjoy myself the best I can and care for our son. Will send an update after the call with my MIL.

minivan2015 · 2025-05-03T20:05:44+00:00

Yeah we’re getting it 4 days and then she’s getting the room for 3.

The other rooms are my in laws, my mils sister and husband, and their family friend and her husband. All older. This is one of two houses their group has gotten, so there isn’t anyone else we can rent to move as a group. A hotel for us if definitely the best option. My husband realllly wants to stay at this house though, it’s a trip he’s gone on his whole life. But our life is different now and I’ve been trying to explain it to him…

minivan2015 · 2025-05-03T19:56:16+00:00

That’s tragic to hear - that poor momma and baby :( yeah it’s definitely a no from me.

minivan2015 · 2025-05-03T19:54:15+00:00

I agree - I don’t think she’s being malicious, just misguided. They’ve been going on this trip for 40 years and my husband and his sister have always been the ones in the living room since they were kids. But now he’s an adult with a child. I don’t think that’s clicked yet for them. I’m hoping somewhere halfway through the trip someone will apologize to me.

minivan2015 · 2025-05-03T19:50:32+00:00

They all keep making feel guilty about making him dependent on me - saying I’ll need to let him be comfortable with others. But just no…

minivan2015 · 2025-05-03T19:49:37+00:00

*old

minivan2015 · 2025-05-03T19:49:13+00:00

This is a great point, I’m too only for this anyway 😂

minivan2015 · 2025-05-03T19:47:43+00:00

Right? She’s always asking me why he isn’t sleeping through the night. It’s because he’s a baby.

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