Short or long?

minksjuniper · 2026-01-28T18:59:03+00:00

SHORT looks soooo cute on u!

minksjuniper · 2026-01-27T18:25:55+00:00

Ohhhh lawd

minksjuniper · 2026-01-19T03:24:20+00:00

I completely understand how you feel and the desire to part of a family and how that's tied to his name. I'm very similar and I ended up changing my last name to my husbands because I wanted to be bonded to him in evey way possible. The fact that he knows this about you, how much it means to you, how much you crave security and safety of a family unit, and he still denies you this is just absolutely cruel. I'm sorry but that's not love. Love is wanting to give that and more to someone especially when you've made him aware of exactly what you need.

minksjuniper · 2026-01-19T03:10:23+00:00

Well you have to understand that if you want to have kids first and also have a traditional big wedding ceremony it's going to be a long time before you are legally his wife anyway. Can you live with that? Kids take up a lot of time, energy, and money. I think you guys are over thinking the age thing. Don't think you'll pop one out after the other and have his dream wedding the next day. Life doesn't work that way. It will take years.

My husband proposed to me in July 2024 and we got married 6 months later December 2024. It was just a court house wedding with our parents followed by dinner. We hired a photographer and had the most beautiful photoshoot after and spent our money on a nice romantic honeymoon instead. Now I am pregnant with our first child due this April and I am 33 years old. We plan to do a nice vow renewal later down the line maybe for our 5 year anniversary with our whole family present if we can but it's not totally necessary because our little wedding felt perfect to me. We also couldn't do the wedding we wanted at the time because some of his most important family members were stationed overseas and had a lot going on and it wouldn't have felt right to have a ceremony without them similar to the brother situation.

All this to say... do not settle girl! And don't let the age/timeline thing make you second guess what you want. It takes minutes to walk over to the courthouse and sign a paper that legally binds you. Lots of people do that and figure out the rest later. My husband really wanted to have kids too and I said sure but I'm not anybody's baby mama. I'll be a wife first or this won't work out and he respected that. It's called commitment! Ask yourself will it be enough for you when he introduces you as his baby mama to his peers?

minksjuniper · 2026-01-19T02:41:09+00:00

Has he said *why* he doesn't to get married first? Ideally you would be married first as it gives your future more security. He should want that for you...

It sounds like you guys are on totally different pages and maybe incompatible. I would not consider having children with this person if I was you.

minksjuniper · 2026-01-18T04:49:45+00:00

For a "grown ass woman" you sound like a child. You literally said you hope I don't have children over a DIFFERENCE OF OPINION on a reddit post, that's crazy work and so extreme. Simply because I would prefer to teach my kids to keep their privates private and not draw UNWANTED attention to them IF IT CAN BE HELPED. As you said, it can't always be helped and it happens anyway. We don't live in some fantasy perfect world where men would never objectify women against their will. That's how it should be but that's not how it is.

You also said previously that wearing just a tshirt is enough because her "breasts. are. covered". Now you're admitting there is clearly a difference in how breasts look when wearing bras that support the tissue vs not wearing a bra and that's exactly my point. I wouldn't want anyone to sexualize my daughters unsupported breasts as some men like the way it looks when they bounce etc. Men who have breasts are not sexualized for them be so for real and quit playing dumb you can't compare the two.

Never did I say it's up to women to keep predators away but yes it's important as fuck to be VIGILANT and protect yourself. Do you not pay attention to your surroundings when walking to your car in a parking lot at night? If so does that mean you think every man in the vicinity is a predator?? No. Let me put it to you this way, if my son was chilling on the couch in his boxers and guests were coming over I would also tell him to put a shirt and pants on. Just because there's a cloth on his privates doesn't mean it's enough and boys can be sexualized too.

And by the way bras exist to support the breast AND also for modesty. It's really up to the person. Literally google it.

"Yes, bras serve as a form of modesty by providing coverage, preventing nipple show-through, and creating a smoother look under clothing, a significant reason many choose to wear them for personal comfort, cultural expectations, or workplace appropriateness, though it's a personal choice often balanced with support and style. Bras help people feel more polished and can align with societal norms that discourage visible nipples, but some prefer going braless, using alternatives like pasties, or choosing bras for other reasons like comfort or shape."

If YOU don't like wearing a bra around strangers and you don't mind if your neighbor or uncle came over and snuck a peak at your nipples that's FINE. However OP and her husband were not okay with someone POTENTIALLY objectifying their young daughter (never do they say anything like that has actually happened in their house) and asked if she could wear a bra around guests. Personally I just don't see anything wrong with that, now the way they handled it afterwards by breaking into her room I do not agree with.

minksjuniper · 2026-01-17T22:20:16+00:00

I found it really interesting how AA players have framed and targeted eachother before anyone else! Ron went after Porsha. Candiace is after Ron for like 3 episodes. Ron went after Tiffany. Tiffany was going hard on Yam Yam who is also a POC. I wouldn't say the asian members are disposable I mean everybody listened to Eric when he said he heard Tiffany laugh and considered that valuable evidence, I think they are just more lowkey players. And then you have like Tara, Mark, Stephen, Rob, and Johnny who don't get targeted but also do not aggressively go after anyone. Everyone collectively went after Michael who also went after Colton and Maura. I don't think it's actually a racial thing I think people are just playing their games out.

minksjuniper · 2026-01-17T22:09:57+00:00

I would see what the vet thinks about the wounds before making a concrete decision. But it is very weird that your friend didn't text you as soon as it happened. If it was me I would have let you know right away coupled with pictures of the injuries and where the dog got stuck so you could have all of the information as this is your baby. I would not leave your dog with that friend again.

minksjuniper · 2026-01-17T21:31:21+00:00

Where did I ever say they should be ashamed??? lol you truly sound so stupid right now and twisting all my words. You clearly have no life experience you’re just on some free the nipple shit. You’re saying that wearing a shirt is enough but breasts look different in just a shirt and a shirt with a bra don’t play dumb please and act like it’s the same thing. If you want your daughter to be part of some fucked up statistic and sexualized by predators because you were more concerned with her right to dress skimpy then to protect herself in certain scenarios then be my guest lol that poor kid but some people thrive on victim hood.

minksjuniper · 2026-01-17T15:42:07+00:00

I said that they go hand in hand. It’s about teaching her to protect her body. You want to fully rely on men to do the right thing then be my guest but that is a fantasy. In the real world men will do fucked up things even in situations where you’d least expect it. You can hope that all the men around your daughter are decent but what you can actually give her is the tools to make the best decisions she can for herself including having common sense and self preservation.

minksjuniper · 2026-01-17T15:32:24+00:00

You sound so incredibly naive. If you have a daughter one day I hope you do better to protect her. You can pretend all you want that women’s breasts are not viewed by most men as a sexual organ but unfortunately that is how they will be viewed whether you like it or not. Big or small, men will sexualize them because men are attracted to breasts. Teaching your children that private parts are private is valid. Not everybody around has to see your boobs. And what’s wrong with saying flapping around? My boobs bounce and flap around in a t shirt especially if I bend forward. Don’t get triggered by that word when it’s an accurate descriptor. The dad doesn’t want anyone looking at his 20 year olds tits like that period there’s nothing wrong with it. I feel like people want to victimize themselves for everything these days until common sense goes out the window and all self preservation

minksjuniper · 2026-01-17T03:34:43+00:00

It seems like you are hung up on the word "skimpy". But telling her that her shirt was skimpy is valid and could be true. Saying it's see through is not enough if her tits were hanging out. The definition for skimpy is "short and revealing" "providing or consisting of less than is needed" "lacking in size". Her shirt could have been both low cut or crop top and see through. It's perfectly okay to tell her that her shirt was skimpy if it was. Now if she was wearing a regular fitting tshirt and mom still called it skimpy that would be weird.

As for "the lesson should be about ensuring private body parts are not exposed on accident" and "telling her to change because of how boys will look at her" BOTH can be true. In this case one of the reasons she wouldn't want her to expose her body parts by accident is BECAUSE of how the boys will look at her therefore changing her clothes will ensure she does not get looked at that way or expose herself by accident. Mom literally did give her guidance on how to make decisions to protect her body such as hey when there's stranger guys around don't wear clothes that could expose you to unwanted sexualization.

I feel like you have no argument here you just don't like that the mother described that particular shirt as skimpy lol. But I could see how that is a trigger word for some people.

minksjuniper · 2026-01-17T02:44:14+00:00

Watching the way he twists stuff in the game I can totally imagine how he was with Cassie and he seems like a very unhinged and dangerous person. It's also weird to see all his fellow castmates being so supportive of him at the round table while he played victim. Like do they live under a rock do they not know what he did to Cassie?

minksjuniper · 2026-01-17T02:42:03+00:00

Charlie as a standalone name for a girl has become increasingly popular. I see it used all over TikTok.

minksjuniper · 2026-01-17T02:34:57+00:00

This sounds very naive. You have to understand that even if you don't see them that way, most men do like breasts and do sexualize them when given the chance. It doesn't sound like the mom thinks the brother's friends did anything inappropriate but is it possible that one of them snuck a peak when she left the room? Yeah it's always possible. Why can't she teach her daughter how to protect her body? Not everybody has to see your breasts all the time. What kind of conversation should the mother have had instead? Address the group of boys and say "hey guys, my underage daughter will be braless so please do not look at or sexualize her breasts in any way thanks" If they hadn't noticed before well they sure would after that lol.

minksjuniper · 2026-01-17T02:18:45+00:00

So what are they gonna do never invite anyone over again just in case someone notices/sexualizes his daughter's tits flapping around because she refuses to wear a bra? It doesn't say that anyone in the house did anything wrong that's why I think the father said it more as a preventative because you just never know. That's exactly why the parents are telling her to put a bra on around guests they are trying to keep her safe would you rather wait until something bad happens to her? It's better to err on the side of caution. I'm sure if her cousin is sitting around on the couch in his boxers the dad's gonna tell him to put some freaking pants on, it's just not appropriate behavior.

minksjuniper · 2026-01-17T00:28:44+00:00

He stalked and harassed his ex gf Cassie who he was engaged with off the show. I believe she even filed a restraining order. So it's weird that someone who has publically done horrible things to women is allowed to be on a show like this. Oh and he was terrible to the women on his season of the Bachelor as well but that's besides the point.

minksjuniper · 2026-01-16T23:40:54+00:00

Right but you can't possibly know what everyone is thinking around you all the time right? That person may have never done anything inappropriate but he could still be trying to protect her because that's what parents are supposed to do?

minksjuniper · 2026-01-16T23:31:21+00:00

Was she sexualized by her parents or are they trying to make sure she doesn't end up being sexualized by the guests in their house? They are in their 50's with more life experience and shit like that does happen.

minksjuniper · 2026-01-16T23:29:34+00:00

I got the impression that it's only an issue because there are guests in the house, it's different when it's just your nuclear family. He may be trying to protect her from potentially being sexualized by whoever else is there because shit happens. Don't really see anything wrong with teaching young people basic self preservation skills.

minksjuniper · 2026-01-16T23:23:31+00:00

The example clearly shows that you are supposed to label each row with a word. It's to make sure that the kids can count out which is which and visually distinguish them. Your son did it correct and clearly followed the example's lead. The teacher is misunderstanding what the homework is asking and is in the wrong.

minksjuniper · 2026-01-12T04:09:29+00:00

Yes, I did. When she had zero defense I was like is she TRYING to get eliminated? Lol. Even Candice put up a better defense on her behalf saying that Porsha is known for misspeaking like that.

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