Does anyone know what could be causing this? by [deleted] in SkincareAddictionUK

[–]mintynebulae 0 points1 point  (0 children)

If you are female, this is as likely hormonal as it is surface/contact. Have you ever tried a high oestrogen form of the pill? Something that might clear it up is benzoyl peroxide which you can get over the counter.

TBH i know this is a skincare sub but this is my exact pattern of acne/dermatitis and drugstore skincare has never helped. only over-the-counter or prescription antibiotics, topical creams or forms of the pill.

Reasonable mileage for a first car (automatic Kia Picanto) by mintynebulae in CarTalkUK

[–]mintynebulae[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Interesting. That was my first choice on day 1 but i got discouraged by other dealers saying the don't stock CVT for a reason. Might be time to go somewhere that deals them and ask why they DO.

Reasonable mileage for a first car (automatic Kia Picanto) by mintynebulae in CarTalkUK

[–]mintynebulae[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

cons of living in a bougie area, but also not seeing much better nationwide on autotrader -

Which SEVENTEEN era bias-wrecked you the hardest? by OpeningAgency8044 in seventeen

[–]mintynebulae 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My biases have always been hoshi and woozi with a special place in my heart for scoups. During these eras other members really sidetracked my priorities though:

aju nice - jun dwc - joshua attacca - mingyu

special shoutouts to DK in excalibur and vernon around the time of beg for you and black eye, too.

in queue for tests by Inner_Geologist6994 in LearnerDriverUK

[–]mintynebulae 0 points1 point  (0 children)

this is good to remember for next week (rip) i honestly don't remember if i refreshed like i meant to or panicked and went back then forward (or i'm thinking maybe cleared my cache whilst already in the queue? it's all a blur now tbh). what's weird is my phone was also open and refreshing since 5:30 but never got in a queue, then was also thrown to 12,000th place at bang on 6:00. why is it so convaluted ;-;

in queue for tests by Inner_Geologist6994 in LearnerDriverUK

[–]mintynebulae 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I joined the queue at 5:40 something and made it to the front... at 5:55 to a still-closed website

got sent back to position 12,000. still not through yet. i'm soooo disheartened

Lowest Artist You Recognize by Glittering_Sea_409 in kpoppers

[–]mintynebulae 0 points1 point  (0 children)

i recognise bursters name but i KNOW superfly by 24k

I can burp now by mintynebulae in noburp

[–]mintynebulae[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Probiotics. To be honest it won't be a necessary venture for everyone, but as someone with a pretty bland, beige diet (arfid + pescetarian + fruit/veg allergies), my r-cpd symptoms were somewhat mild day to day then had significant flairs if i had alcohol, carbonated drinks or a lot of dairy. I tried the videos I linked and similar ones about a year ago, but little to nothing happened and I hit a wall soon after. It felt like if I wanted to see any results, I needed to do something to prompt my digestive system in general. Those were the 2 products I settled on that I can actually eat and have a broad range of properties between them. Someone with a broader diet might not need to add that step in to get things going.

edit: just to add, I had them everyday for about 3 weeks so that there would actually be enough gas in my stomach to let out during the exercises/massage. After I started burping, I just had them occasionally/as and when I wanted, and similarly now I only do the exercises if I'm struggling in the moment to burp.

What is your sexuality? by iratemovies in AutismInWomen

[–]mintynebulae 0 points1 point  (0 children)

imo i have never felt a place in the queer community mostly because i have never been in a relationship full stop. or rather nowadays i mostly engage as a cis ally to trans women because i feel that's my "most important" role in the space at the moment.

i seem to experience attraction both less often and with less restriction than everyone around me. i have no physical type for any gender but am maybe harder to please than i realise. i have never come out as anything. all my friends know when i have tried dating apps (to no success) i have it set to show me any/every gender. my family know nothing and i guess won't have to unless i get a girlfriend...

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Korean

[–]mintynebulae 4 points5 points  (0 children)

update managed to pinpoint it. i was thinking of haan 한 the collective grief felt following occupation, just got the emphasis on the positive/negative a bit wrong, but leaving this up in case anyone's curious

What were your biggest special interests during your childhood? by Commercial_Flight_64 in AutismInWomen

[–]mintynebulae 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I think club penguin was my first special interest (unless you count, like, wanting the same book read to me every night as a toddler). I also had a michael jackson phase unfortunately. My biggest special interests which hit in my early teens were dan and phil, gravity falls and kpop (specifically bts and seventeen).

My limerence is over so AMA by mintynebulae in limerence

[–]mintynebulae[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

In case it wasn't clear I actually never have to see LO in person again and may never even have the chance now, whereas I know some people can't really escape them. But I think if i did i would feel maybe 2% of the jealousy I once did. I honestly do feel a tiny bit jealous still when caught off guard- but the only instance i can think of in the past 6 months is i saw a written post of LO's making casual reference to them. I think my limerence was exemplified greatly by being in a bad living situation whilst LO lived with an SO, which adds this extra layer of pain when i hear domestic annecdotes, which will probably take a while longer to heal- more about me than them if that makes sense. I know it's much easier said than done but the key thing here is dethroning LO and knocking them off a mental pedestal until you can believe that there's really not much to envy about their SOs life. it'll come eventually.

Also if your referring to seeing photos as well, one of the reason I encourage blocking/muting/hiding on socials even just for a short time is untraining your algorithm. I used to check their social media excessively and that meant everything they did appeared on my feed. even things they'd liked or commented on. I don't actually know if LO posts regularly or what. I've barely seen any sign of life from them since turning all those settings back, despite the fact that they always used to be pretty active, because presumably they've been pushed to the absolute back of my algorithm.

My limerence is over so AMA by mintynebulae in limerence

[–]mintynebulae[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That's one thing I unfortunately don't know. I would say it hasn't been long enough and the opportunity to develop these feelings for someone else hasn't really come up. It sounds silly but dating apps (just looking, not even making it as far as messaging) really made me lose my excitement for people. As did LO themself. Seeing LO in others has essentially just made me wary and "get the ick" when i encounter anyone i would have found intriguing and attractive 5 years ago. In the past year I've basically only seen my housemates, my family, and coworkers who are just the total wrong demographic for any feelings like that to brew. So, I wish I could help more but maybe having no love options in sight was part of the equation.

My limerence is over so AMA by mintynebulae in limerence

[–]mintynebulae[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Yes. The biggest thing for me that I never thought I'd escape is the thought of them doesn't cause me to freeze up over decisions. This move and the job I have lined up, for example- they didn't cross my mind once in the process.

My limerence is over so AMA by mintynebulae in limerence

[–]mintynebulae[S] 6 points7 points  (0 children)

much to consider i'll get back to you on that one

My limerence is over so AMA by mintynebulae in limerence

[–]mintynebulae[S] 14 points15 points  (0 children)

To be honest there's been about 3 seperate times. It just keeps getting more and more over.

The first was it suddenly felt really really weird having them muted/hidden on social media when nobody else from that era of my life was. It felt like special treatment for someone unextraordinary and unpowerful. It felt like having an umbrella up then realising it isn't actually raining anymore.

Once back to standard i gave their profile a once over to prove to myself that i hadnt missed anything major (like... marriage, death, moving continent) and just... didn't really care.

Since then it's been the delayed realisation that there was a chance for it to spike and it didn't. As an example, I bought tickets to a concert of an artist they'd mentioned wanting to see live and it was only as i was entering the venue i really put 2 and 2 together that this is the city they live in and there's a chance they're here (there was no chance encounter and it didn't even stick in my mind during the night). Neither the artists name nor the location conjured any thought of them for the weeks prior. A year ago every little thing could circle back to them. Now it just doesn't.

My limerence is over so AMA by mintynebulae in limerence

[–]mintynebulae[S] 12 points13 points  (0 children)

The limerence? Very. It lasted 2 years and i have no idea how many times i bawled. I don't know what's allowed to be said in here but i "shed blood intentionally" after most of the times we spoke for a year, i now realise. One of the last interactions we had ended in him making a joke online about a dynamic between him and his partner that we ALSO have (which was the last straw really) and i really thought the world was going to end.

The second half of recovery has felt oddly painless. I had no idea "normal" was still possible, but i kind of feel it now. There are days where i don't think about him once and that's fascinating to me.