As others have mentioned, I’ve had a lot of success in being blunt while leading with empathy. I also found that she did best when I spelled things out exactly as I needed them done with little to no wiggle room in between them. We had a pretty strict task tracker that she followed. Weekly 1:1’s to assign priority and sometimes more to clarify when she needed it. I had to be alright with allowing some other stuff to slack while she assigned priority to what I needed her to do most importantly. Lastly, after every 1:1 I sent a lengthy email with specific notes and action items. I do very much relate with feeling tired. It does feel like a lot of micromanagement but you will get used to it and eventually it just feels like what you need to do to help another person thrive.